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To Live With A Man’s Mentality In My Woman’s Body

  • To Converse - The gals and I talk shop as our male coworkers patiently sit and wait. “I’m telling you T.J. Max is the place to get affordable decoration.” I grab my fourth cookie from the plate in the center of the table. Jessica chips in, “All I know is I’m getting sucked raw by my interior decorator.” I glance quickly toward the dudes at the table. A few look offended, the rest look like they didn’t hear Jessica’s remark, even as it echoes off the walls. I look away. She’s like that; no harm done. “I really don’t appreciate those kinds of innuendos.” Mark chirps in. We turn to the business.
  • To Inhale - The ladies and I are regulars at Turtle-nator Tuesday; a bacon wrapped burger with five chunks of hotdog sticking out of the sides. Looks like a sun burnt turtle served with baked beans, cheesy fries and a salad. I always swap out the salad for more fries.
  • To Play - Nine holes on a Wednesday afternoon with the ladies. Geoffrey asks if he can go along. On the 7th hole he asks why he’s the only guy he’s seen on the last 6 holes. Jessica’s a little too quick to answer, “Guess all the men are in the office; trying to figure out how to fill out a document in Word.” I can see why the guys don’t like working with her.
  • To Deal - The lingerie sales lady has convinced my husband a 34C fits just as well as a 32DD and the coupon they mailed me doesn’t include Sale items. I have my husband hand his cell to her. “You and I both know a freakin’ 34C does not fit like a 32DD! Either you have the size I need or you don’t. If you do, I’ll take three. I know that coupon does not mention any exclusion on sale items. Can you handle ringing this up or should I hold?”
  • To Stress - Our minivan is on its last oil change. We need a new car, but with the recession, the bonus/raises were held back last year. It’s on me to figure out how we’re going to carry another loan.
  • To Move - with little question to my capabilities: I jump a barrier, start a chainsaw, pop lids off salsa jars, carry out 3 Hefty bags of trash, dive from cliffs, toss around 40lb hand weights during my workout, scrape half the skin off my knee sliding into home, drown my third dunk as if I could do it all… day… long. My shoulders feel broader, my body is heavy with muscle, and there’s an insatiable energy surrounding my groin.
  • To Fix - My car sounds funny so I pop the hood and go through the engine like a well read book: battery, starter, sensors, spark plugs, timing belt. Looks like the solenoid needs replaced. My son has locked up the computer. I know it’s the security software I downloaded a week ago. I reboot, reload and tweak; issue solved.
  • To Give - My income to pay the bills, my free time to the few hours I have each week with my kids, my solutions to my husband’s problems, my passion to college football and the last hour in the day to Colbert and Kimmel.

How would a day go if I were to live it with a man’s mentality? Would my fears be any less, greater, or just different? Would I accomplish more? Would my goals come easier? Would the world give me a hand, a break, a significant raise? What would I appreciate? What would I miss?

– Monica Wilcox

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By Monica Wilcox

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1:23AM PST on Nov 5, 2014

Thank you!

3:44PM PST on Feb 27, 2013


5:18PM PST on Dec 9, 2012

Great insight. When there are as many girls in school as boys and as many women in positions of power as men then women can rest on their laurels but until then we really need to continue hammering home that men have a sense of serious entitlement that is not deserved and it is only our hormones that allow them to believe they are.

8:01PM PST on Dec 1, 2012

Wow, a broad spectrum of comments on this post. My goal was not to stereotype the male or female population or to attack men. I wanted to honestly consider how it would feel to be able to act the way many of the men in my life act simply because it is so foreign to my own nature.

The idea of this post was sparked by the interactions I get from men while I sit working in a cafe. For example, just two weeks ago a man approached me while I was typing and said, "I bet you're sending that email to me, beautiful. You're amazing!" then walked away. Regardless of what I think of his statement, I'm fascinated with this kind of confidence, which I see/receive on a regular basis from strange men. The truth is I don't know or witness many woman who feel comfortable with this kind of blatant interaction. Why is that? I'm not saying it's good or bad and of course this doesn't include all men or exclude all women. It's simply an observation. I was curious how it would feel if I were to go up to a strange married man in a Starbucks and say the same thing to him. Maybe it would make me feel foolish? Maybe it would give me more overall confidence in my life? Maybe it wouldn't change a thing but I thought contemplating doing so was worth my time.

I appreciate all the comments and views left below.

I do appreciate and respect all the comments and views that have been shared.

The same is true of my husband, who spends very little time worrying about his gray hairs and laugh lines

2:43PM PST on Nov 29, 2012

"Male privileg" is a universal prime directive and operates in nearly every venue all day, every day.

It is so much a norm that most men deny it and many women are so accustomed to accepting it without question that any challenge to "Male privilege" is seen as silly, or "man-hating". Which only means that "woman-hating" is acceptable in this upsidedown world and to try to set the world right is deemed to be too disruptive.

Oh well.

6:25AM PST on Nov 29, 2012

I thought it was very funny. Some people complain that it's exaggerated and stereotypical, er I think that's the point.

5:00AM PST on Nov 29, 2012

tellin it like it is. If you have never encountered this behavior at one time or the other, you have lived under a rock. Guys like this really do inhabit the world. Not all the traits rolled into one person...well, hopefully not.
Definately macho strutting behavior...usually seen in teenage boys or mature men grasping onto their dwindling testosterone overload. Where some guys see this as chick magnet material is anyone's guess. Too much watching "Two and a half men"?

4:25AM PST on Nov 29, 2012

"The slave learns to kiss her chains" explains a lot of these comments.

3:25AM PST on Nov 29, 2012

fun to read but not exactly purposeful?

1:47AM PST on Nov 29, 2012

Only vaguely amusing at first - nah

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