Top Ten Sex-Drive Killers

By Aderline Peech, DivineCaroline

If you donít remember the last time you felt like having sex with a partner, you are probably suffering from low sex drive. A number of psychological and physiological factors can have a major impact on your libido. Read on to know more about the top ten sex-drive killers.

1. Stress
Many people perform best under intense pressure, but sexual performance certainly isnít one of those. Stress at the workplace, financial troubles, a sick family member, or simply a hectic lifestyle with poor eating habits can take a toll on your sex life. You and your partner can seek counseling from a sex therapist, learn techniques for managing stress, and work toward having a better lifestyleóif itís stress thatís wreaking havoc with your sex life.

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2. Relationship Problems
Knotty relationship issues need to be resolved and major differences ironed out if you want to reclaim the intimacy and affection that you once shared with your partner. Emotional closeness plays a major role in sexual passion, particularly for women. Poor communication, infidelity, constant arguments, and other relationship-breakers need to be eliminated before mutual sexual desire can be regained.

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3. Alcohol

If you always require a couple of drinks before you can get in the mood for sex, thereís something seriously wrong with your sex life. Alcohol is commonly perceived as an aphrodisiac that breaks down barriers and inhibitions before sex, but all it actually does is numb your libido in the long term. Getting drunk might even put off your partner and you might end up having lousy sex. The same goes for recreational drugs and other so-called libido boosters.

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4. Too Little Sleep

Lack of sleep is one of the biggest killers of sex drive. After all, if you start snoring as soon as you are under the covers, you are not likely to have a very active sex life. If itís sleep apnea or insomnia thatís causing all the trouble, you can get suitable treatment for it. Try and get rid of whatever it is that is interfering with your sleep patterns, because sleeping too little gives you fatigue and saps the libido.

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5. Medication
Loss of libido is a side effect that accompanies a number of medications. Ask your doctor to prescribe alternatives or change the dosage if your sex drive is being affected by medications, such as: antidepressants, antihistamines, blood pressure drugs, oral contraceptives, anti-HIV drugs, synthetic progesterone-medroxyprogesterone, finasteride, or chemotherapy.

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6. Body Image
If you feel you just arenít sexy enough to please your partner, you are suffering from poor body image linked to low self-esteem. Many men, for instance, feel that their penis is too small, and these feelings of inadequacy can affect their sex life. If you are a woman and are too concerned about your breast size, you are probably ruining your sex life. Talking to a psycho-sexual therapist or a qualified counselor will help you develop a positive body image and dramatically enhance your libido.

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7. Obesity

Obesity is directly related to lack of sexual desire and poor sexual performance. The causes for this are usually linked to social stigma, low self-esteem, unsatisfactory relationships, and simply difficulties in having sex. Losing weight can certainly lead to better sex.

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8. Erectile Dysfunction
Erectile dysfunction (ED) is a medical condition characterized by a restricted flow of blood to the penis, thus leading to difficulties in getting or retaining a satisfactory erection. Men suffering from ED are likely to worry about their sexual performance and kill their sex drive. ED medications such as Viagra, Levitra, and Cialis can address this problem to a great extent.

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9. Low Testosterone
The amount of testosterone in your body determines the level of your sex drive. If your testosterone levels dip too low, your libido is likely to decline. Testosterone therapy is recommended for boosting your sex drive.

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10. Depression
Depression is a double-edged sword because it saps sex drive, while antidepressants do so too. Seeking treatment for clinical depression is necessary; you can deal with the low libido once the depression is under control.

Related: 9 Physical Symptoms of Depression

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Eileen Mary P.
Eileen P.1 years ago

Informative to those who don't know. I guess if your sex drive has taken a plunge you're likely to know why.

Franck R.
Franck R.1 years ago

Thank yoiu

ScoTT Senate
ScoTT S.1 years ago

Teresa W, you obviously have some obsession with wanting to prevent people from enjoying sex. You seem to troll the sex articles about ways to enjoy better sex, and write your standard one word comment, "Disgusting." What you resist is what persists. It's called projection. If it weren't for sex, you wouldn't be here at all.

Dave C.
Dave C.1 years ago

thanks, but could we have fewer pages???

Nils Anders Lunde


Robert Vincelette

My urologist (who got rid of my kidney stones for good, congratulations to her) told me that obesity has the effect of chemical castration. I think of McDonald's, Coke, Pepsi, Nabisco, Nestle, etc as surgeons who would be willing to caponize anyone who approaches them with the Neville Chamberlain attitude of compromising with them and eating their obesity engineered food "in moderation". Making people obese is a sex crime, often committed against children and the executives who order the manufacture of the likes of Fruit Loops should be registered as sex offenders.

Franck Rio
Franck R.2 years ago


alice rozgon
alice rozgon2 years ago

yeah... OR you just aren't so much in sex at all and it's fine too XD

Shakeel S.
Shakeel S.2 years ago

Thanks for the article

Neill Abayon
Neill Abayon2 years ago

Interesting facts. Thanks.