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True Femininity: No Razor or Wax Needed.

Recently when talking to a friend about not wanting to be more noticeable because I don’t shave, she said: Stop over-thinking it!

And she was right; it’s just a little hair! So I’ve decided it’s time to come out to both my friends and family alike.

My name is Alisa Rutherford-Fortunati and I DO NOT SHAVE! I will not be shaving anytime soon and I think it’s ridiculous that in 2013 it is incredibly rare to see a woman in public who feels comfortable not shaving. So there. It’s out, I’m done with it and now I will return to peacefully living my life surrounded by people who make me feel beautiful and loved just for being who I am — natural body and all.

But before I do that, I have this to say to women of all ages:

It is often in puberty, when young girls are taking their first biological steps into womanhood, that darker hair starts to appear on their bodies. Yet those same girls are taught that “embracing” womanhood and being feminine means stripping that new womanly hair from their bodies. When you look at this practice honestly, it does seem a bit strange, doesn’t it?

As Rene Descartes said:

If you would be a real seeker after truth, it is necessary that at least once in your life you doubt, as far as possible, all things.

I think it is time yet again that more women and young girls start to question and push against the cultural statues quo. And perhaps that will come in the form of setting down their razors and asking as I did: “Who am I doing this for? And why?”

 

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10:24PM PDT on Aug 20, 2014

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1:27AM PDT on Jul 18, 2014

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12:13AM PDT on Apr 25, 2014

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4:47PM PST on Feb 5, 2014

I hate when women shave their pubic region and don't have a problem with a woman with hair, just no facial hair. I dated women in the 80's and 90's and they never shaved. It has become a disturbing trend and I hate the look of a woman who shaves it all off. Twisted thinking has led women to think they must be smooth all over, which is why I would love to go to France or Italy!

12:57AM PDT on Aug 3, 2013

this man does not care, I could not imagine being a woman putting on makeup......or doing the shaving thing......hair......Billy Gibbons, Dusty Hill.........Janis Joplin, Mama Cass......I've worn my hair long and face hair of varying degrees since 1973....It has cost me lots of jobs and other opportunities.....there is a saying I started using in response......I bet you would have shaved Jesus before crucifying him, appearances are everything........live and let live and I would not look down on someone no matter how ''un-norml '' they choose to be.....rock on.....we are actors on the stage of each others life, lets enjoy the drama......

3:16PM PDT on Jul 23, 2013

I can't wax (as it literally rips my skin off with the hairs I'm removing) and shaving tends to leave me with bumps and such unpleasant things. As for creams, they just do not work for me (they take forever to do the job properly, smell terribly bad and give me burning sensations). Even though I've been struggling with hair removal for years (the perfect solution for me would be pulsed light hair removal, which I just can't afford right now), I cannot bring myself to leave it au naturel. I always feel uncomfortable after a few days and, strangely enough, not as "clean" as I would like to feel. This being said, I totally understand you & your choice. You should embrace your feminity, hairless or not ! Society does influence us, either we admit it or not. And I believe it is important to question our own decisions from time to time. Ultimately, you should do what makes you feel the best.

6:48AM PDT on Jul 7, 2013

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4:01AM PDT on Jul 2, 2013

When I was a 20 y/o single college student in the early 70s, I also decided au naturale was a more honest expression of femininity, and I quit shaving for several months. Then, one day, I wanted to try on a pair of great shoes. The shoe store was not a self-service store - clerks assisted customers by placing the shoes on their feet. A good-looking young man who worked there seemed very glad to help me until I raised my jeans and he saw my hairy leg. His reaction told me he likely had nightmares of being pursued by women with hairy legs for weeks after that. I don't remember if I bought the shoes, but I did buy a razor.

8:21AM PDT on Jun 28, 2013

The problem is people trying to convince young girls their bodies are disgusting and they should feel ashamed for. I accept my body and my body hair is in my body so I accept it.

7:15AM PDT on Jun 26, 2013

Razor/waxing may not be a factor in ones femininity..but it helps.
Growing up I had seen 2 women with unshaved armpits and legs in swimsuits....it really was disgusting...not because of any preconceived notion I had (I was preteen) but by the sight of that thick long hair growing like a plant on a human body......especially from the armpits
That sight said to me SHAVE! SHAVE! SHAVE! or I'd be watering the growth like a houseplant

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