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Unconditional Love

Unconditional Love

When you have no relationship to another person, you are automatically thrown back upon yourself. The feelings that come out have no basis in what you need or want from others – they simply come out.

If I get bumped in the street and feel angry, the emotion arises spontaneously. I may feel guilty about it the next moment, but in that split second it was the only choice my self could make. My level of awareness did not offer me a better response.

The rishis speak of unconditional love, in fact, as a transcendental quality that becomes infused into the mind during meditation. When the mind goes beyond normal waking awareness, the transcending process brings one in contact with unconditional love in its silent, unmanifest state.

“Unmanifest” means that this love is not directed at anything; it simply vibrates within the nature of the silent witness, like a radio signal silently waiting for a radio to pick it up. At the end of meditation, the person returns to the waking state bringing some of this transcendental quality into his everyday consciousness. A new vibration has been added that alters, however subtly, the person’s former awareness.

This explanation is a twist on the usual understanding of unconditional love. By definition, you can love someone unconditionally only if your love does not alter no matter what the other person does. This aspect of “no matter what” implies a superhuman effort to will. For all its apparent goodness, this situation smacks of self-denial and even masochism.

The rishi’s version of unconditional love contains no effort at all. A person who feels love “no matter what” is simply following his nature. In truth, that is all that can be asked of anyone. Acting according to your own level of awareness is inescapable.

Adapted from Unconditional Life: Discovering the Power to Fulfill Your Dreams, by Deepak Chopra (A Bantam Book, 1991).

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Acknowledged as one of the world's greatest leaders in the field of mind body medicine, Deepak Chopra, M.D. continues to transform our understanding of the meaning of health. Chopra is known as a prolific author of over 49 books with 12 best sellers on mind-body health, quantum mechanics, spirituality, and peace. A global force in the field of human empowerment, Dr. Chopra's books have been published in more than 35 languages with more than 20 million copies in print.


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2:56AM PST on Mar 4, 2012

Love doesn't exist.

10:14PM PDT on Oct 25, 2010

True very true ...
But expressing the love is also a must
I have experienced it ....
My blessings are with always with them ....

4:36AM PDT on Oct 17, 2010

A very deep idea, thank you!

9:47PM PDT on Oct 14, 2010

This article explains unconditional love perfectly. Thank you !

6:14PM PDT on Oct 14, 2010

unconditional love is an apple - the miracle of skin & fibre & seed - it is the rain, the sun and the wind and the changing seasons - a honey-bee pollenating Springtime blossoms; the only condition for love is love...

4:42PM PDT on Oct 14, 2010

In reading the posts surrounding this article, I think a lot of people are confusing "unconditional love" with allowing someone to abuse you or take advantage of you. If you have the spiritual awareness to understand the meaning of unconditional love, you also have the spiritual awareness to understand that this type of person is not someone who is resonating at the same energy level you are. You can then say, "peace be with you" in honesty and continue on your journey.

12:21PM PDT on Oct 14, 2010

unconditional love is, of necessity also directed to ourselves. this includes not tolerating abusive/damaging behavior. i believe the Buddhist term is 'discernment' or the more charged 'discrimination' - we love all and also choose who we spend time around and allow into our lives.
did i get that right?

thanx for the reminder -

5:13AM PDT on Oct 14, 2010


2:59AM PDT on Oct 14, 2010

thankyou my dear

5:59PM PDT on Oct 13, 2010

Excellent point, thanks!

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