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Understanding Men

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Understanding Men

Welcome to the 10th article in the series Breaking the Dysfunctional Dating Cycle and Find Love.  Reading all the previous articles is recommended as it will bring you up to speed as to where we are in this process.  Click here to find the previous articles.

It came to my attention during my own process of dating discoveries that something needed to change in my perception of men.  I am going to use my experiences as a heterosexual to explain things, however it really does not make a difference what your sexual orientation is to understand this philosophy.  If you are in a same-sex relationship, there might be one of you that has a stronger feminine or masculine side than the other.  If so, then you might find the following information valuable as well.

We have all been through a lot of confusion about the male-female relationship and dynamics between the sexes, but I never completely understood this until I attended a weekend workshop designed by Allison Armstrong from PAX Seminars about understanding men.  There were so many incredible insights that I learned throughout this weekend workshop that helped me not only understand men better, but to have more confidence in myself as well.  I highly recommend taking a workshop or getting one of her CDs.

One of the important things I learned was how we as women emasculate men and as a result we lose their trust.  It is not something that we are consciously doing, but unfortunately society has reinforced this behavior.  Whether we realize this or not, this chips away at a man’s self-esteem and we continue to push them farther away.  For me, I wanted to gain a man’s trust.  I wanted to find my best friend and be a supportive, kind and loving partner.  This does not mean subservient as that is not my style, but  I had to look at the various ways that I added to emasculating my partner. I realized that every time I criticized, rolled my eyes, continually interrupted him, invalidated his opinion, laughed at men-bashing jokes, that I was only putting more and more of a wall between us.

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Liz Dawn Donahue

Liz Dawn Donahue was recently married after years of dating. She is the CEO of Mishka Productions whose signature event Celebrate Your Life, brings together people from all over the world to assist in raising the consciousness of the planet. CelebrateYourLife.ORG


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2:48AM PDT on Apr 12, 2014

really advisable art

12:52AM PDT on Apr 11, 2014

U gotta love these

12:23AM PDT on Apr 11, 2014

Great Tips

4:43AM PDT on Apr 4, 2014

nice thanks

11:41AM PST on Dec 17, 2013

Understanding men. That is an important topic.
Men must tell us women how we do not understand them. Men must speak up and tell us how they feel, otherwise it is hard for women to understand men deeply.
And one man is different from another man.
Until the day men open up and express their feelings in words and not only by non verbal communications and by doing things,being useful, we women will never learn what happens inside men's heads in men's hearts.
Some have started on
Listening to the MRA and MGTOW does not make me understand men better, since they are biter and often hateful.

4:59PM PST on Nov 15, 2013

It just doesn’t get any
better than seeing the gorgeous “Mrs. Anita Pelaez” over at her and her
husband “Captain Kutchie’s” place..Some Folks Also Call Him..”The
KutchMan others call him The Kutchmon!”…Most Just Call Him “The Most
Interesting Man In The World”….(Anita and Kutchie Pelaez’s Key West, Key
Lime Pie Factory and Grill)…Just watching the lovely couple baking together all those Yummy
Key Lime Pies at their Key Lime Pie Factory and Grill in Asheville.
…It’s always worth the trip to visit them in they’re Historic Key Lime
Pie Factory and Grill…It should be on everyone’s bucket list for
sure..And The World’s Best Key Lime Pies!..YUM-YUM-YUM….­­.”Talk About
World Class” What An Understatement!…….AA­­HHHHH!….The Magic Of The
Lovely..”Mrs. Anita Pelaez” And Her Delicious Key Lime Pies Baked With
Pure Love…Always……40 Years And They’re Still Going Strong….

….May GOD Continue Blessing “Anita And Kutchie Pelaez” and They’re World
Famous Key Lime Pie Factory And Grill Where The Personalities, Ovens And
Smiles Are Always Warm And Inviting. “Kutcharitaville” You’re The Best We Love You!….

…Now You Know Who Is The Hottest!…And Baby Let Me Tell You, Mrs. Anita Is No Act…She’s The Real Thing Baby!…

….Located Near

10:50PM PDT on Jul 11, 2013

The archetype is changing.

Men now can even admit that they cry sometimes.

Yet some of the older men feel it threatening if a woman knows more than they do about ANY subject. They want to be the teachers of submissive pupils. May these men soon come into the freedom of just being people.

A woman's talents, education and experience does not make him less or her more. Men who can accept their own talents, education and experience together with their own weaknesses and deficiencies as they make room also for hers, these emancipated men are no longer in competition nor do they suffer hurt feelings or feel emasculated.

12:06PM PST on Nov 13, 2012

I agree with the author,why????when both of you are having previous relationships and both of you are in 40s most of the time the guy are very careful what he says especially on first date,usually the women has a lot to say then when both of you are getting along together that's the time the guy started to talk about everything because he started to trust you and the rest friend,lover,confidant'e is yours

6:17AM PDT on Jul 2, 2012

double standard

2:01AM PDT on May 11, 2012

thanks for sharing

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