In my last article I raised quite a few eyebrows and upset the apple cart with many women in writing about “Understanding Men.” Whether or not we like it, men and women are different. There were some very simple responses to the last article stating, “let’s all just respect each other” when I touted that society and most especially women, ‘emasculate men’. As I suspected, the majority of the women did not like this statement, and the men were most thankful. Surprising response…huh?
In this article, I am going to lightly cover understanding women. Ladies, you might want to cut and paste this one into your man’s e-mail.
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Let’s face it, women have been trying to figure out men for centuries and men have been trying to figure out women. Women complain that men don’t take the time to try and figure us out as much as we do them, however, I think they do it in their own quiet way. I have never met a man that runs to his friends and processes the relationship and his feelings with them, however, being a woman, this can be a natural, everyday occurrence.
If I had an open platform with a room filled with men, here are a few things I would love to tell them about Understanding Women.
When a woman is having challenges in her relationship or with life in general, we talk to our girlfriends. This is how we bond, this is how we feel safe and comfortable. It is not something we are doing to disrespect you or the relationship, it is simply our way of working things out. Just as men often get quiet and go into their cave, women need to express their feelings to someone they trust. We need to talk things through until it is completely out of our system. It might seem like we are over processing every little issue, but understand that this is your perspective based on who you are, and that talking for us provides an outlet and release from our frustrations.
Crying. Please don’t tell your woman not to cry. This is another way we release our feelings when things get overwhelming. We know you are uncomfortable when we cry and sometimes we just need to be held and told that “everything will be okay.” It might not make any sense at the moment, but try it the next time your partner cries. Just reach out to her and see what happens. I am not saying that men do not cry, however I have noticed the reaction from men when a woman cries. They can feel helpless and not know what to do. Just hold her and allow her the space to cry and just be present. Don’t try and fix her.