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Understanding Women

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Understanding Women

In my last article I raised quite a few eyebrows and upset the apple cart with many women in writing about “Understanding Men.” Whether or not we like it, men and women are different. There were some very simple responses to the last article stating, “let’s all just respect each other” when I touted that society and most especially women, ‘emasculate men’.  As I suspected, the majority of the women did not like this statement, and the men were most thankful.  Surprising response…huh?

In this article, I am going to lightly cover understanding women.  Ladies, you might want to cut and paste this one into your man’s e-mail.

If this is your first time joining us, I have been writing a series on Breaking the Dysfunctional Dating Cycle and Finding Love.  I would recommend you read all the previous posts to bring you up to speed and to better understand where this particular article’s viewpoint is coming from. Click here to read the previous posts.

Let’s face it, women have been trying to figure out men for centuries and men have been trying to figure out women.  Women complain that men don’t take the time to try and figure us out as much as we do them, however, I think they do it in their own quiet way.  I have never met a man that runs to his friends and processes the relationship and his feelings with them, however, being a woman, this can be a natural, everyday occurrence.

If I had an open platform with a room filled with men, here are a few things I would love to tell them about Understanding Women.

When a woman is having challenges in her relationship or with life in general, we talk to our girlfriends.  This is how we bond, this is how we feel safe and comfortable.  It is not something we are doing to disrespect you or the relationship, it is simply our way of working things out.  Just as men often get quiet and go into their cave, women need to express their feelings to someone they trust.  We need to talk things through until it is completely out of our system.  It might seem like we are over processing every little issue, but understand that this is your perspective based on who you are, and that talking for us provides an outlet and release from our frustrations.

Crying.  Please don’t tell your woman not to cry.  This is another way we release our feelings when things get overwhelming. We know you are uncomfortable when we cry and sometimes we just need to be held and told that “everything will be okay.”  It might not make any sense at the moment, but try it the next time your partner cries.  Just reach out to her and see what happens.  I am not saying that men do not cry, however I have noticed the reaction from men when a woman cries.  They can feel helpless and not know what to do. Just hold her and allow her the space to cry and just be present. Don’t try and fix her.

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Liz Dawn Donahue

Liz Dawn Donahue was recently married after years of dating. She is the CEO of Mishka Productions whose signature event Celebrate Your Life, brings together people from all over the world to assist in raising the consciousness of the planet. CelebrateYourLife.ORG

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9:21AM PST on Jan 4, 2013

Thanks.

12:14AM PST on Feb 10, 2012

thank you

1:55AM PST on Jan 26, 2012

I have a question for your readers on this topic. Several years ago I was reading in Belief.com religious jokes and came upon this one. The Lord praised a man for his remarkable life and devotion and offered to grant him a wish. The man reflected a moment and requested that the Lord would build him a bridge to Hawaii so that he could visit whenever the spirit moved him. The Lord said that he could do this but with massive amounts of earthly resources and suggested a more spiritual request. The man paused and replied, " Tell me why women cry when they are happy and say nothing is the matter when it is, or in short,help me understand women. " You want one lane or two on that bridge? "

6:25PM PST on Jan 25, 2012

hmmm...

7:59PM PST on Jan 24, 2012

I'm easy, I just think they are everything different, they asking me if I really have any common sense with themselves, but I can only say yes or no. Easy ?

4:41PM PDT on Oct 30, 2010

thanks.

7:00AM PDT on Oct 7, 2010

Good article. You voiced how I feel. Thanks!

4:28PM PDT on Oct 3, 2010

I'm happy that so many of the people commenting acknowledge that men and women are different. However, I think it's dangerous to rely to much on stereotypes of any type, including those that are being applied to gender differences. For example, in my marriage I am the (overly)sensitive one who wants to talk everything out "to death", whereas my wife is the one who hides in her cave. I realize we may be the exception, but that's the point -- for any stereotype, there are always exceptions.

1:48PM PDT on Oct 2, 2010

I strongly agree with Mark K.,most of the ones that are starting organizations to save the planet,the animals,and everything else are Women,,I love the article.

7:31PM PDT on Sep 30, 2010

Well, after reading both of these articles, I'm going to chalk it up to the author describing herself in this piece, and her male suitors in the "Men Explained" piece because neither of them fit the bill to myself or any man or woman I personally know. It is a shame we just keep trying to generalize into 2 groups.

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