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Loading...Unhappy in Love? Here’s Why
- Annie B. Bond
- January 13, 2007
- 8:20 pm
- 16 comments
If you find yourself chronically unhappy in relationships (or in general) it may be time to examine some of your self-limiting beliefs about life and love. Break the spell by witnessing the beliefs that hold you back: we all need more love in the world!
Do you believe you have a right to happiness? Examine the following statements to see if any sound like your beliefs. If they do, write down what would be the opposite of those statements and begin thinking about how it would feel to incorporate these new beliefs into your life.
* I believe my purpose in life is not to enjoy but to endure.
* Others always come first.
* Loyalty to others comes at the expense of loyalty to myself: I am motivated by indebtedness, history, guilt, pity.
* I continually deny my self-protective instinct.
* I cannot speak up about or change or leave a relationship because that might hurt someone else. I say to myself, “You made your bed, now lie in it.”
* Before I claim my own power or fulfill my needs, I must first make others happy.
* As long as I keep my partner happy, my relationship is successful.
* I am willing to let my partner injure my heart.
Read more: Spirit, Guidance, Self-Help, happiness, love, relationships
Adapted from How to Be An Adult in Relationships, by David Richo (Shambhala, 2002). Copyright (c) 2002 by David Richo. Reprinted by permission of Shambhala.
Adapted from How to Be An Adult in Relationships, by David Richo (Shambhala, 2002).
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Annie B. Bond
Annie is a renowned expert in non-toxic and green living. Named one of the top 20 environmental leaders by Body and Soul Magazine, Annie has authored four books, including "Home Enlightenment" (Rodale Press, 2005) and "Better Basics for the Home" (Three Rivers Press, 1999).
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16 comments
+ add your ownThank you for sharing.
Thank you :)
thanks for posting
Unfortunately, the only source of hapiness is money.
Love doesn't exist!
Very true. Thanks.
Annie ,, You might want to consider rewriting this.. Not everyone has your level of understanding.. Thank You..
Thank you for the information
I can't understand why people feel they need to be "in love" to be happy. I never have been & like my independence and solitude.
Yikes.. All true but very difficult to change those bad habits and patterns... I know all too well... Hi my name is Lamia and Im a recovering people-pleaser :)
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