Food for foreplay? Ambrosia as an aphrodisiac? Hot fudge when you’re hot and bothered? Absolutely! Food and sex go together like peanut butter and KY jelly! For centuries, people have used food to enhance sexual experiences. Many foods carry sexual connotations. Cherries are symbolic of virginity. Oysters are famous for increasing sexual arousal. Other foods conjure up images of candlelit moments and soft music, like chocolate and whipped cream. Heck, you can even buy edible undergarments or fruit flavored condoms. There’s nothing wrong with adding a little flavor to your frolicking!
Comfort food is referred to as such because it elicits good feelings within us. A warm bowl of chicken noodle soup, a steamy plate of macaroni and cheese, or a good homemade meatloaf bring up memories of being comforted, loved and cared for. So it is with foods that evoke amorous emotions. If you feel yourself getting a little steamy while licking on a double dip ice cream cone, make a night of it. Get a bowl of your favorite flavor and two spoons and indulge under the sheets with your partner. The cool, soft silkiness of the ice cream will create an amazing contrast to the warm feelings welling up inside you. If some of your first memories with your lover are those of enjoying a sensuous meal, recapture those moments by sharing that meal together in the bedroom.
Cooking together is another wonderful way to heighten your sexual experience. The abundant smells and flavors that surround you while you cook together will increase your awareness of the many other sensations occurring. Kneading dough, shaping meatballs, or peeling fruit allows your hands to touch and experience something totally separate from what your mind may be thinking, adding dimension to the moment. Wear something soft or sexy to accentuate the ambiance. Or wear nothing at all. Being in the buff with the one you love while creating a delicious meal definitely gets the temperature rising.
People associate many things with food; sexuality is just one of them. Allow yourself to experiment with different flavors, textures and temperatures of food while you explore your personal tastes. Let your partner introduce you to new delicacies. Being guided into trying something new with the one you love deepens the bond of trust and creates a shared experience between only the two of you.
Cooking together doesn’t have to be kinky, either. Take a cake baking class with your spouse, or go to a wine tasting together. Study up on different French pastries or learn how to make preserves. Any type of activity that involves food can provide a ripe environment for sexual feelings to grow. Sharing a truly intimate moment with someone you care deeply about, while creating something delectable, is a recipe for success.
Surprise your lover with a picnic dinner, in bed. Sprinkle the sheets with candy mints. Lean over the dinner table and feed her a bite of your food off of your fork. Engage all of the senses through taste, smell, touch, sight and sound as you take in your next meal together. Wrap yourselves in the moment as you sit down to the breakfast table. You’ll be amazed at how quickly an everyday meal can take on a whole new feeling. And take it slow. Good food, like good sex, is meant to be enjoyed.
So next time you and your partner aren’t quite in the mood, think food. Eating satisfies your physical appetite. And if you choose the right food and the right partner, you can satisfy your sexual appetite as well! Bon Appetit!