If you can love your vagina, you can love any part of you – not just your belly, your butt, your boobs, and your thighs, but also that thing you did that led to your divorce, that way you treated your child, that betrayal of your own integrity, that episode of cheating on your taxes, that mistake you haven’t recovered from, that tendency you have to drink too much, that failure to stay true to your dreams, that way you promise yourself you’ll stop overeating even though you never do.
I know. I know. That belly can be hard to love. And those thighs. Those stretch marks. The saggy, deflated, balloon, post-breastfeeding boobs.† That wrinkle right between your eyebrows. That chicken neck. That ass.
And the other stuff – sheesh. That might seem impossible to love. Who would want to love mistakes, betrayal, cheating, and lack of willpower?
But the vagina. The vagina is the final frontier.
I Can’t Do It, Captain. †I. Don’t. Have. The. Power.
Ah, but you do, though most women never go there. You canít see it without a speculum. Itís like the black hole of womanhood. Many women are flat-out scared of the vagina, like if they go spelunking in there, they might get eaten – or slimed – or they might just disappear into oblivion without a trace.
The Vulva As Gateway
For many, the vulva is tough enough to love.† Loose lips curled in on each other, hiding, peeking out, hairy, the gateway to. . . God knows what. Some brave souls have explored – a feat that requires mirrors and acrobatic acts of vulvar contortion. The ones who go there too often get judged as weirdos, perverts, sex freaks, sluts. You can’t win with the vulva. The poor vulva gets a bad enough rap.
But the vagina. Most women go to their graves without ever going there. Itís like Siberia. The last place on earth youíd intentionally go. Itís like outer space, seemingly inaccessible. And what would you do if you went there? You might get lost. You might get in trouble. You might run out of oxygen. You might get pregnant. You might get a disease. You might get raped. God forbid, you might actually die.