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What’s Your Blind Spot?

How We Create Our Own Suffering

With Triciaís guidance, I was able to finally see how this story is only true because I keep calling in evidence to prove my separation story right. The truth is that Iím surrounded by bright, sparkly lights that are unapologetically radiating and attracting people like moths to the flame. My tribe is full of people who donít have a jealous bone in their body and want nothing more than for me and everyone else to succeed.

The separation story is a figment of my ego, who I lovingly call Victoria Rochester and who†you can read about here. Victoria likes to make herself superior, convince herself that nobody can do as good a job as she can, and assert that she canít shine her light around others because they canít be trusted. Because of Victoriaís often unconscious behaviors, she recreates her own suffering, since those who feel like theyíre inferior to her have no interest in sticking around! Rejection follows, and BOOM. Sheís just proven the story right Ė†again.

The Solution Is Simple

The minute you see the blind spot, itís like this glaring, gaping wound, red and raw and impossible to miss. But until you see it, it festers, inflaming your life and creating repetitive suffering. Once the blind spot is illuminated, you canít help but to change your behavior. You realize the stories youíve been telling yourself simply arenít true. Youíre no longer the victim, but rather the creator of your life. Itís all about taking personal responsibility for what happens to you, rather than blaming everybody else.

Ever since I saw mine, evidence that my separation story was true disappeared. Beautiful new people appeared in the void it left behind. I am surrounded by people I admire, who are happy to teach me, as we share space as equal sparks of divinity walking around in flawed human bodies. I have eased my own suffering because my dear friend Tricia showed me a blind spot.

Whatís Your Blind Spot?

What is repetitive, chronic, and hurtful in your life? What keeps happening Ė over and over and over? Do you keep attracting the same screwed up relationship patterns? Do you continue to overgive and wind up feeling like a victim? Do you keep making yourself less than or better than? Do you continue to get passed over for promotions at work?

Here comes the part that requires fearless living. What might you be doing to create your own suffering? If you step out of victim mode, whatís your part in creating these stories? Are you brave enough to illuminate your blind spot and take ownership of it?

Please, my dear, be so brave. While it may feel painful to have your blind spots illuminated, the freedom you feel coming out the end is worth every zinger.

Here with a flashlight,


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Lissa Rankin

Lissa Rankin, MD is a mind-body medicine physician, founder of the†Whole Health Medicine Institute training program for physicians and other health care providers, and the New York Times bestselling author of†Mind Over Medicine: Scientific Proof That You Can Heal Yourself.† She is on a grassroots mission to heal health care, while empowering you to heal yourself.† Lissa blogs at† and also created two online communities -† and† She is also the author of two other books, a professional artist, an amateur ski bum, and an avid hiker. Lissa lives in the San Francisco Bay area with her husband and daughter.


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3:51PM PDT on Jul 15, 2012

Lucky if you have someone to guide you, to find that blind spot!

11:23AM PDT on Jul 12, 2012

I think another name for blind spot is liveing thru an invisable belief. Because your living the evidence, that makes it 'true', but if you shift your focus to something unrelated, the evidence of whats real also shifts so that the new focus shows it's evidence. The old focus is still there with all it's evidence so you can always go back to it.Reality is way more fluid than we've been led to believe.

1:27AM PDT on Jul 10, 2012


3:48PM PDT on Jul 9, 2012


9:25AM PDT on Jul 9, 2012

GREAT post! thank you.

5:30AM PDT on Jul 9, 2012

thanks, will re-post!

1:26AM PDT on Jul 9, 2012


10:06PM PDT on Jul 8, 2012

This article got me thinking about certain things that do seem to happen over and over and I say "not again"!!...blind spot!! Time to stop being the victim and make some changes. Thank you

9:24PM PDT on Jul 8, 2012

Hide light under a bushel basket?

9:28AM PDT on Jul 8, 2012

At this moment I know it´s me who chooses men that have nothing to give - so I just don´t date. I know that I´m the one that confronts injustice in the workplace and left alone when it´s necessary to speak up,
And today I know I have to go a little deeper if I want to change this and get moving.

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