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When Someone Almost Died In My Hands

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When Someone Almost Died In My Hands

“Matt! Stop!”

When Matt pulled the car over on the side of the freeway in Oakland beside the unconscious man with blood gushing from his face, his teeth knocked out, a massive hematoma on his forehead, his knee broken in half, and his ankle stripped of skin and askew, I noticed that he was still breathing, but his chest was rising and falling the way people with severe head trauma breathe – not normally. He still had a pulse, but it was fast and thready.

The woman standing next to him, who had pulled off with me said, “I saw it. He just fell – or jumped – off that freeway overpass and landed right here.”

The cops were there but there were no paramedics yet. Someone threw me a pair of blue latex gloves and I knelt down on the bloody pavement in my white lace dress.

With no neck brace to stabilize his neck, no back brace to lift him onto, no IV to bolus him with saline, no suction catheter to suck out the blood that was choking him, no endotracheal tube with which to intubate him, no oxygen to help his labored breathing, no blood transfusion to replace what was pouring out of him, and no pain medication to ease his pain, I felt helpless. As it turns out, a doctor without her tools has little to offer other than love, so that’s what I did.

Practicing Love

Two off-duty paramedics without any more equipment than I had pulled over and ran over to help me. Together, we held the man’s head steady. We wiped his bloody face with the baby wipes in our cars. We checked his vitals as best we could. We did what we could to clear his airway. We removed the broken teeth from his mouth. We applied pressure to his bleeding wounds. We prepared to give CPR if he stopped breathing or lost his pulse.

And then we just held him and prayed. I closed my eyes and wondered if the man’s spirit could hear me, if he might be in some in-between place, deciding whether to check out or stay in this world, the way Anita Moorjani described her in-between experience, over breakfast at the Hay House conference and in her NY Times bestselling book Dying To Be Me. (Read an excerpt here.)

Just in case he could hear me, I told him to be at peace, that if he had jumped, to forgive himself, and if he decided to stay, that there is always hope. In case he couldn’t hear me, I prayed that whatever was in the highest good for all beings be so.

Loving Touch

Because the off-duty paramedics know more about dealing with a trauma patient than an OB/GYN does, I let them take over and instead, I just sat on the ground beside him and held my hand over his chest. Sometimes we forget when people are sick or hurt that what they most need is to feel connected, to be loved, to be touched. With no equipment to get into high tech rescue mode, all I had was low tech love.

I’ll never forget a patient I cared for when I was a medical student. When I rounded on him, he took my hand and said, “I’ve been here for three weeks and nobody has touched me with anything but a needle or a stethoscope. Will you please hold my hand?” And because it was a slow day, I spent an hour with him like that.

Help Arrives

My hand was on the man’s chest, feeling his heart beat, when I heard sirens and saw the blaze of ambulance lights. By this point, the cops had closed the freeway and a circle of bystanders were watching. The ambulance sped to a stop and a team of paramedics with all the right gear sprang to action. The neck brace went on, they rolled him onto the blue back brace, someone suctioned his nose and mouth, another cut off his clothes to reveal the full gore of his injuries, a third placed an oxygen mask over his face, while one pressed on the hematoma on his forehead.

The woman who had seen it happen said, “Yeah, I think that’s where he landed.”

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Lissa Rankin

Lissa Rankin, MD is a mind-body medicine physician, founder of the Whole Health Medicine Institute training program for physicians and other health care providers, and the New York Times bestselling author of Mind Over Medicine: Scientific Proof That You Can Heal Yourself.  She is on a grassroots mission to heal health care, while empowering you to heal yourself.  Lissa blogs at and also created two online communities - and She is also the author of two other books, a professional artist, an amateur ski bum, and an avid hiker. Lissa lives in the San Francisco Bay area with her husband and daughter.


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3:11PM PDT on Jun 9, 2012

You did all you could under the circumstances. I'm sure your presence and touch was felt by him. I hope he survived.

1:11AM PDT on May 1, 2012

I know what you mean about feeling helpless. For years I thought about doing a first aid course, but I didn't do in until my mother had a seizure. Turns out I did everything I could have done for her at the time anyway, but feeling helpless was so hard. I'm sure you made a difference to that guy.

10:40PM PDT on Apr 30, 2012

What you did was exactly right, IMO. Whether we're a physician or "just a person", all we can do is the best we can, and leave the rest to a Higher Power.
The human touch is, in itself, a miracle.
Great jobe, Doctor Lissa!!

8:31PM PDT on Apr 30, 2012

I think what you did, Lissa, without your tools made all the difference. Thank you, and never doubt the power of consciously holding someone in a space of unconditional love.It's easy to do that when someone's been mangled, much harder when they are doing their best to inflick suffering on others, yet that certain energy washes clean the meaness in hardened hearts.

6:53PM PDT on Apr 30, 2012

What a very compassionate person you are. Never stop caring.

9:26AM PDT on Apr 30, 2012

wow. what a touching, compassionate story. you went above and beyond the call of duty. thanks.

7:26PM PDT on Apr 29, 2012


4:56PM PDT on Apr 29, 2012

Sometimes we don't get answers, but we feel good what we did and keep it at that. You did wonderful job!

11:16AM PDT on Apr 29, 2012

Thank you for sharing.

10:55AM PDT on Apr 29, 2012

s! Sorry about that!

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