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When To Let Go

When To Let Go

Because the mind holds on with an endless set of expectations, beliefs, and images, you could practice letting go every moment of your life. This is not feasible, yet strong signals will tell you when letting go is appropriate. Knowing when to let go is obvious, once you have awareness.

The crucial times to let go are when you feel the strongest urge not to. We all hold on tightest when our fear, anger, pride, and distrust take over. Yet these forces have no spiritual validity. At those moments when you are most afraid, angry, stubborn, or mistrustful, you are in the grip of unreality. Your ego is forcing you to react from the past, blinding you to new possibilities here and now.

A mind that is desperately holding on says things like: I hate this. It has to end; I canít stand it anymore. If this keeps up Iíll die; I canít go on. Thereís nothing left; I have no choice. It has to be my way or else; Youíre all wrong; None of you understands me; You always treat me this way; Why do you always have to do this?

There are infinite variations on these statements, but the underlying feelings are remarkably similar. You feel you canít cope anymore. You feel boxed in. You feel you wonít survive. You feel that something bad always happens to you. These feelings give rise to the rigid, contracted state of resistance, disallowing the reality that good things can happen at any time.

Spirit has a good outcome for any situation, if you can open yourself to it.

A key word to holding on is always. As soon as your mind tells you that something always happens, you are in the grip of a false belief. ďAlwaysĒ is never true; reality isnít a vast, fixed scheme trapping you without a choice. At any moment you have the choice to break out of what is really trapping you Ė your automatic reactions dredged up from the past.

Adapted from The Path to Love, by Deepak Chopra (Three Rivers Press, 1997).

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Deepak Chopra

Acknowledged as one of the world's greatest leaders in the field of mind body medicine, Deepak Chopra, M.D. continues to transform our understanding of the meaning of health. Chopra is known as a prolific author of over 49 books with 12 best sellers on mind-body health, quantum mechanics, spirituality, and peace. A global force in the field of human empowerment, Dr. Chopra's books have been published in more than 35 languages with more than 20 million copies in print.


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11:48PM PDT on Aug 31, 2014

Thank you for sharing!!

11:48PM PDT on Aug 31, 2014

Thank you for sharing!!

2:51AM PDT on Jul 20, 2014

great thoughts and advice - takes work and time and hard work to implement though..

easier said than done - but something we need to work towards

3:27AM PST on Mar 7, 2014

great post thnx fr sharing

9:06PM PST on Feb 18, 2014

yeah its right it always happen wid me

12:19AM PST on Feb 12, 2014

good article thnaks for sharing :)

12:02AM PST on Feb 5, 2014

thanx for sharing

3:23AM PST on Jan 20, 2014

Good article. Thanks for sharing.

12:08PM PST on Jan 7, 2014

Sorry. I am probably lost in translation, but I did not understand this article.

2:06PM PST on Jan 1, 2014

Great points! I feel blessed to live in a state of complete presence MOST of the time. I am reminded though of my imperfections and my humanness when i get knocked off balance. It is always when my ego flares up and I am triggered by something that someone else has said or done and that voice in the head just goes crazy! It is usually angry, accusing, and very reactive. I have also found these moments to be my best teachers. I do my best to not act out in rash behavior that I would later find myself regretting. I try to come from a place of compassion for the other person and handle the situation in a calm and rational way once I've cooled down.

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