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When to Let Go

When to Let Go

At those moments when you are most afraid, angry, stubborn or mistrustful, you are in the grip of unreality. Your ego is forcing you to react from the past, blinding you to new possibilities here and now. Fear, anger, pride and distrust are forces with no spiritual validity.

A mind that is desperately holding on says things like:

  • I hate this. It has to end.
  • I can’t stand it anymore. If this keeps up I’ll die.
  • I can’t go on. There’s nothing left.
  • I have no choice. It has to be my way or else.
  • You’re all wrong.
  • None of you understand me.
  • You always treat me this way.
  • Why do you always have to do this?

There are infinite variations on these statements, but the underlying feelings are remarkably similar. You feel you can’t cope anymore. You feel boxed in. You feel you won’t survive. You feel that something bad always happens to you. These feelings give rise to the rigid, contracted state of resistance, disallowing the reality that good things can happen any time.

Sprit has a good outcome for any situation, if you can open yourself to it.

A key word to holding on is always. “Always” is never true; reality isn’t a vast, fixed scheme trapping you without choice. At any moment you have the choice to break out of what is really trapping you: Your automatic reactions dredged up from the past.

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Adapted from The Path to Love, by Deepak Chopra (Three Rivers Press, 1993). Reprinted by permission of the author.
Adapted from The Path to Love, by Deepak Chopra (Three Rivers Press, 1993).

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10:44PM PST on Nov 21, 2012

Finally, one I understood and needed to hear, thanks.

8:12AM PST on Nov 21, 2012

Statisics and polls are a record of what people thought at a given moment in time, yet too often, they are treated like unchanging 'facts'.You'd think we'd learn by now, that data collected a year ago is already out of date. Even data from last week has shifted.People who always look to the past to predict the future will miss present trends. The past is un-reality, especially when the viewpoints are based on falsehoods to begin with.

5:58PM PST on Nov 20, 2012

easier said than done

5:55PM PST on Nov 20, 2012


3:34PM PST on Nov 20, 2012

thank you!

1:06PM PST on Nov 20, 2012

Great eye opener! Thanks and I'll keep it in mind.

2:16AM PST on Nov 20, 2012

Very true!
Claire too bad you did not 'get it,' I hope you do soon. You will then see how it was your 'ego' writing that comment!
Any REAL situation we come across is open to our interpretation. Of course we should protect ourselves physicaly from a physical threat, however if you then go arround telling this story of YOU being THEIR target ALL THE TIME, that would be ego talk.

1:13AM PST on Nov 20, 2012

so true!

11:43PM PST on Nov 19, 2012


8:37PM PST on Nov 19, 2012

true, thanks.

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