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Who is Your Mentor?

Who is Your Mentor?

If you could find a mentor who begins to take back all the judgments that have weighed down your life, whose wisdom creates a sense of being loved and nurtured so that the loneliness of your inner world begins to soften, who would that be? Find out with this guided meditation:

Settle yourself somewhere comfortable.
You have entered a dark cave to find a perfect mentor, who is waiting for you at the end of a tunnel.

You begin to walk toward him/her, feeling calm and expectant—the cave is warm and safe.

As you get near the end of the tunnel a room opens up, and you see your mentor with his/her back to you. He/she slowly turns around—this is the point at which you are supposed to realize who, of everyone you have ever met, will be facing you.

Whoever it turns out to be, whether it’s your grandfather, a former teacher or a person you don’t know, you would expect certain qualities in your mentor:

  • A mentor should know who you are and what your aspirations are. (Understanding.)
  • A mentor should accept your faults. (Tolerant.)
  • When you bring up things that you have never told anyone because they make you feel guilty and ashamed, a mentor should absolve that guilt. (Forgiving.)
  • Wise as he/she is, a mentor should not interfere in your decisions or brand them wrong. (Non-judgmental.)
  • A mentor should be able to understand a whole range of human nature. (Inclusive.)
  • You should feel safe with your mentor and bonded with him/her in intimacy. (Accepting.)

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Adapted from The Way of the Wizard by Deepak Chopra (Harmony Books, 1995).

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Acknowledged as one of the world's greatest leaders in the field of mind body medicine, Deepak Chopra, M.D. continues to transform our understanding of the meaning of health. Chopra is known as a prolific author of over 49 books with 12 best sellers on mind-body health, quantum mechanics, spirituality, and peace. A global force in the field of human empowerment, Dr. Chopra's books have been published in more than 35 languages with more than 20 million copies in print.

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5:02AM PDT on Apr 22, 2013

Thank you for sharing.

8:23AM PDT on Jul 31, 2012

There are often many to choose from if one is fortunate enough in life to have met these special people who go out of their way to draw out and find your talents, showing understanding and encouragement along the way. Mentors help while sometimes others will laugh, bully, ridicule or simply not encourage you, especially when young.

Yes, Darlene H.L., I agree with Joan Q. You need others to talk to and work through your grief. My mom died of cancer much younger than she should have and I still miss her very much but 11 years is a long time not to be happy after a loss. There are many groups involved in the grieving process, even with losses that are not recent, or a grief councillor. You need not go through life sad and unhappy, depression can occur after a loss so tragic. Remember your Mama would not want to see you so unhappy after all these years.

While a cat or dog can be a loving mentor, especially during a joyless childhood for some, it seems some have a lot of anger issues or tragedies where all other people are seen as an enemy or out to get something for themselves. It is sad if one has never had a mentor in one's life.

11:43AM PDT on Jun 19, 2012

I will give this a try and see who or what is my mentor.

10:59AM PDT on Jun 14, 2012

Thank You all for your kind words and caring!
My Mama passed one and a half years ago, not eleven. I know it looked like that. It was November 24,2010.
I don't want to be sad. I'm very lucky to have had unconditional love my whole life. Not everyone is that lucky! Maybe that's why I can't seem to let go. I should have been there when she passed but I had a migraine. I wish so much I had been there to help her start her journey!

10:28AM PDT on Jun 14, 2012

I was so lucky; my mentor was my father..As a child he led us through the great depression. He always treated me like the lady I would turn out to be. I was able to be unfearful and always looked forward to the future. My father was not totally nonjudgmental and the way he let you know you were doing wrong was to withdraw his love and attention. That would do it.
Being able to face the future with spirit, love and grace is what it takes to remain a real human being. Over the years when I get in doubt I just think of my Dad.

5:38AM PDT on Jun 14, 2012

I believe you can have different mentors at different stages of your life. My mentors have all been male.

9:36PM PDT on Jun 13, 2012

Jane b I really seriously consider you to be the most negative person I've ever come across

9:16PM PDT on Jun 13, 2012


5:06PM PDT on Jun 13, 2012

Darlene H.L I understand and sympathize. Losing my mom was hard too and that was more than 20 yrs. ago. Go ahead and grieve, but pls. find SOME way to move ahead even if it means you have to go to "grief counseling" (it works, by the way). Best of luck to you.

4:21PM PDT on Jun 13, 2012

My MENTOR is my MAMA!!! I lost her 11/2 years ago and I'm pretty much lost. She is my everything. She was always there, I could talk to her about anything anytime. She was my BEST FRIEND, CONFIDANT, SHOPPING PARTNER, TEACHER,and so much more. Most of all she is my MAMA!!!
I miss her so much and even though I know she would want me me to go on and be happy I just can't seem to.

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