If you could find a mentor who begins to take back all the judgments that have weighed down your life, whose wisdom creates a sense of being loved and nurtured so that the loneliness of your inner world begins to soften, who would that be? Find out with this guided meditation:
Settle yourself somewhere comfortable.
You have entered a dark cave to find a perfect mentor, who is waiting for you at the end of a tunnel.
You begin to walk toward him/her, feeling calm and expectant—the cave is warm and safe.
As you get near the end of the tunnel a room opens up, and you see your mentor with his/her back to you. He/she slowly turns around—this is the point at which you are supposed to realize who, of everyone you have ever met, will be facing you.
Whoever it turns out to be, whether it’s your grandfather, a former teacher or a person you don’t know, you would expect certain qualities in your mentor:
- A mentor should know who you are and what your aspirations are. (Understanding.)
- A mentor should accept your faults. (Tolerant.)
- When you bring up things that you have never told anyone because they make you feel guilty and ashamed, a mentor should absolve that guilt. (Forgiving.)
- Wise as he/she is, a mentor should not interfere in your decisions or brand them wrong. (Non-judgmental.)
- A mentor should be able to understand a whole range of human nature. (Inclusive.)
- You should feel safe with your mentor and bonded with him/her in intimacy. (Accepting.)
Adapted from The Way of the Wizard by Deepak Chopra (Harmony Books, 1995).