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Why We Flirt: The Science of Sex

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Why We Flirt: The Science of Sex

It’s so natural, we barely even notice we do it. Tilting a head to expose the neck, smiling or laughing at something that really wasn’t funny, moving closer to the person making unfunny jokes, mimicking their actions. Our body language is perhaps the most subtle expression of what we’re really thinking and feeling, and is a crucial component of the courting dance known as flirting.

Though cheesy pick-up lines abound, a lot is conveyed even before words are uttered. A prolonged gaze or arched eyebrow gives clues to the person across the bar that you’re interested without having to explicitly ask about his/her sign. Though the statistics differ, some attribute almost 80 percent of our first impressions to our stance and swagger. And because flirting helps both animals and humans find mates faster and easier, it is an evolutionary trait hard-wired in our brains. Mice twitch their noses at potential mates, colorful peacocks strut around for admiring peahens, and pigeons puff their chests to look buff. As much as we have moved on from mice and feathers, we do much of the same, for the exact same reasons.

Genetic Peacockery

Because flirting is an easy way for us to display our genes, mating potential, and interest, nature put a lot toward its success. This is one of the reasons why some males birds have exotic plumes, why elk carry hefty antlers (a sign of a healthy immune system), and why male fiddler crabs have such large claws. He waves his in the air, alerting females to his whereabouts, and signaling them to come closer for a better look at his burrow, colorful shell, and flashy claw.

Much in the same way, we’re physically programmed to indicate interest almost before we mentally have a say in it. Slight actions reveal a lot. Stance, eye movement, and gestures like leaning forward to talk to the person, or quick eyebrow raises are what scientists call contact engagement, signaling to the other mammal that you’re prepared for things to potentially get physical. Perhaps most importantly, these signals show that you’re not intending to dominate or flee. Or not just yet, anyhow.

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8:59AM PST on Feb 28, 2013

Thanks

7:40PM PDT on Nov 2, 2012

Interesting.

9:19AM PDT on Oct 18, 2012

amazing article. a fun read. learned a few things and saw a few new ways to view some interactions. thanks!

10:46AM PDT on Sep 27, 2012

Thanks

1:56AM PDT on Sep 27, 2012

Flirting is natural and fun no matter what the age or species...so it appears. Thank you.

11:10AM PDT on Sep 26, 2012

Interesting and so true

7:00AM PDT on Sep 26, 2012

what if somone is like. having something like aspergers? they just try to act like tv people?

5:22AM PDT on Sep 26, 2012

interesting

12:14AM PDT on Sep 26, 2012

Grrrr ..... If only Care 2 would STOP assuming that I'm on Facebook and then delete my comment !!

I'm not going to rewrite everything now. My request is that you not refer to the dear Dolly Parton in the past tense. She's an astute business woman, flirty, friendly, talented and still very much around.

10:57PM PDT on Sep 25, 2012

Thanks, interesting.

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