Wisdom from Ariel and Shya Kane

Working on Yourself Doesn’t Work – Being Here Does.

The moment we stopped working on ourselves to get “better,” our lives instantaneously transformed. This has profoundly impacted everything. What we have learned is not to take ourselves so seriously and to not work so hard to get somewhere.

We have been raised in a forward-thinking culture where we have learned that something in the future will produce the sense of well-being or “OKness” that we all strive to achieve.

It is this very striving, we’ve discovered, that produces dissatisfaction. The constant need to achieve what we think is better than what we have in the current moment stresses our being in an endless cycle of pain.

We have been taught that certain goals once achieved will produce happiness and satisfaction. This is not true. Happiness is not circumstantially determined and well-being is not a function of the circumstances of your life, either.

All happiness and satisfaction happens when you are being in the current moment of your life. This moment of now is all there is. Something in the future will not get here until it does, and when it does, it will occur in a moment of now….Continue reading at InspireMeToday.com.

Ariel and Shya are internationally acclaimed authors, seminar leaders, and business consultants.

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49 comments

Dawn Macdonald
Dawn Macdonald3 years ago

This is beautiful. It's so very difficult to watch people close to us work so terribly hard to get to a "better" place while the best part of their lives slip through their fingers.

Penny M.
Penny M.3 years ago

I used to think a lot about 'worst-case scenarios' - a habit I developed while bringing up a dare-devil, risk-taking son. i was always worrying about the future - and what might happen. So imagine the sense of sheer liberation in coming across Ariel and Shya's wisdom of the only moment there is, being the moment of now. It is a powerful tool for well-being and I heartily recommend it!

Penny M.
Penny M.3 years ago

I used to think a lot about 'worst-case scenarios' - a habit I developed while bringing up a dare-devil, risk-taking son. i was always worrying about the future - and what might happen. So imagine the sense of sheer liberation in coming across Ariel and Shya's wisdom of the only moment there is, being the moment of now. It is a powerful tool for well-being and I heartily recommend it!

Andy S.
Andy S.3 years ago

I love this article. After I read it I really slowed down and started being with whatever was in front of me. I got so much done! I got in the moment! And it feels good!

Stefanie L.
Stefanie Lueck3 years ago

What a beautiful article and so beautiful to read it and slow down a bit to be here - here the worls is beautiful:-)

Terry V.
Terry V.3 years ago

thanks

Cheryl B.
Cheryl B.3 years ago

"All happiness and satisfaction happens when you are being in the current moment of your life."
I love this. It sounds like something we've all heard before, "being in the moment," but Ariel & Shya take that concept to the next level in a way I've never seen elsewhere. "Being present" becomes a practical way of living, rather than a fluffy catch phrase. Thanks for the wonderful article!

Ellen J.
Ellen J.3 years ago

Great article...your insights are such wonderful, gentle reminders. They bring a heartfelt awareness to everything I do....big and small. Just finished washing the dishes and it was awesome!

Sue H.
Sue H.3 years ago

Good pep talk, thanks. Staying in the moment is a good thing.

Rosie Lopez
Rosie Lopez3 years ago

great article thank you!! we need to appreciate today because tomorrow is never promised!