Wisdom from Kate Irwin

There are many things that life has taught me, often in ways I couldn’t understand at the time. I was bullied at school, had a complete lack of self confidence and esteem, making me painfully shy and later, severely depressed. I have at times, felt like giving up.

But those things were given to me to make me realise I am in charge of my life. When I fought back at the bullies I felt strong and happy, I knew that I could stand up for myself and take charge, that I did matter, and it felt great!

Then life got in the way, I forgot I was in charge and let external events knock me sideways. Depression set in and I was helpless, lost and lonely once again. I had to find again that internal strength we all have, remind myself I was not helpless and could get myself out of this. And that is exactly what I did. And exactly what anyone can do.

Find that little part of you which can deal with anything, nurture it, encourage it, make it bigger.

Remember you are in charge of your thoughts, your life, your reactions and your emotions. Of course bad things will happen, or events we didn’t see coming, but when we are in charge of ourselves, we can deal with it and find a way through….Continue reading at InspireMeToday.com.

Kate is an NLP Master practitioner and a certified life coach.

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Donna Hamilton
Donna Hamilton3 years ago


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Winn Adams3 years ago


Jay Williamson
Jay w3 years ago

like gail i went through the same thing and for many years was spent in a depressed state of mind but with medication and alot of therapy i am now alot stronger and when someone says something to me i dont like i humour them and say what they want to hear and then let it run off me and forget about it. I dont let it drag me down any longer.

Margarita P.
Margarita P.3 years ago

I'm glad someone thinks it is good for people to like ourselves as we are! This is always my goal, but I have encountered some therapists who I think believed I should change myself first before it would be OK to like myself.

Deborah D.
Deborah D.3 years ago


Jacqueline D.
Jacqueline D.3 years ago

This is so true, stand up to the bullies, find your inner strength. I got a lot of stick as a child, I'm a redhead, wear glasses and had a surname that you could take the p..s out of. Plus being an only child. So I had only myself to talk to to summon up the courage to fight back at them. I did, because I got so fed up with other people making my life hell.

Sue H.
Sue H.3 years ago


Shell S.
Past Member 3 years ago

This is very true. We are in charge. : )

Neil A.
Neil A.3 years ago

MY WIFE HADan effective way against bullies who her rude names she would ask the bully to explain what the word meant especially when a teacher was approaching(often by prior arrangement) then the bully would say the word again & be told to write it & the explanation out 500 times & even on a large black board, this so put them off it, they would not do it again.

Jennifer E.
Jennifer E.3 years ago

Good for you, Gail! Lovely to see someone fighting back and regaining their power. I will print this and send it to my granddaughter, who has a problem with recognising her own power and how to use it wisely.