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Wisdom from Orna Walters

Wisdom from Orna Walters

For the majority of my life I felt flawed. Not slightly flawed, drastically flawed.

I see now that I was simply so desperate to feel wanted, desired, cherished, cared for – any version of love that would show up I would grab hold and not let go…I feared it was all I would ever get.

I would do anything to “prove” my worth – going above and beyond the call of duty many times, only to find heartbreak, disappointment and betrayal.

Each heartbreak, disappointment and betrayal then only solidified what I felt in my heart to be true – I was damaged, beyond repair, like the sofa you put out on the curb for the city to take to the dump. Although unlike the sofa, I had never felt loved – even when shiny, clean and new.

My deepest, darkest secret was that I felt UN-Loveable.

I never even had the wish that someone would actually commit to loving me forever.

When I would get quiet I would ask myself, “What do I want? What do I really want?”

Every time the answer was LOVE.

Love is the greatest thing of all, and you have the power to create exactly the love you most desire because the fact that you desire it means it is possible for you….Continue reading at InspireMeToday.com.

Orna is a speaker and master coach and co-founder of the Love On Purpose Revolution, busting the myth that love is supposed to happen by accident.

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10:00PM PDT on Apr 7, 2013

Thanks.

12:20AM PDT on May 28, 2012

Thanks for sharing.....I'm sure this is a topic that resonates with many many 'children' of former generations.....raised in a very different way from kids today! Although, perhaps the pendulum has no swung to far out to the other extreme.....oh to be a parent is no easy task....all the damage that can be unwittingly done. Glad you made it thru the quagmire of growing up...and learning to realize that you are most definitely lovable. We all are! Namaste!

12:20AM PDT on May 28, 2012

Thanks for sharing.....I'm sure this is a topic that resonates with many many 'children' of former generations.....raised in a very different way from kids today! Although, perhaps the pendulum has no swung to far out to the other extreme.....oh to be a parent is no easy task....all the damage that can be unwittingly done. Glad you made it thru the quagmire of growing up...and learning to realize that you are most definitely lovable. We all are! Namaste!

1:49PM PDT on May 21, 2012

"•Your True Soul Partner will love that thing about you that all the others told you they were leaving because of-- "

I hope it really turns out that way!

3:42AM PDT on May 18, 2012

Thank you for sharing

9:47PM PDT on May 17, 2012

Joe - the 'drastically flawed' feeling can come from a variety of places. For me and for a lot of people I know it's from the teaching in childhood that we are 'born in sin' - but there are many other ways as well.
Every time a parent belittles a child (often not even realising they're doing so) that feeling is compounded. It grows. Every time you feel you've been less than a perfect being, it grows. And it lurks there.

The opposite - narcissism - is just as bad, too. As adults we have to learn to find that balance. And when we do we can begin at last to grow and develop. It can be hard work - but oh, what fun when do we get there!

8:05PM PDT on May 17, 2012

I hated myself. In high school I would wake up disappointed that I hadn't died in the night. If I had known about cutting, I would have become a cutter. I felt so alone, so odd from everyone else, so stupid. Every day in math class proved I was a failure, same thing Spanish class. Just couldn't get it.
BUT, I was good in art, and a few other subjects..however I chose to focus on what I was not good at as personal failure., that one day my inability would move like a cancer into other areas of my life. I went to a technical school, and competed against other art students, I was no longer "good", just average.
Like a foot that leaves a print on moss, it took along time to spring back, I still have the shame and secret of not "getting math or language". Some call it now a learning disability. Trying to keep up, and always sliding back. My dark secret.

5:33PM PDT on May 17, 2012

Where does this "drastically flawed" concept come from? Wising you the best Orna!

5:32PM PDT on May 17, 2012

Thank you for sharing.

2:46PM PDT on May 17, 2012

Thanks

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