Wisdom from Reon Schutte

Forgive. Not as a favor to others or because you’re holy, but to set yourself free. As long as you hate or hold a grudge against someone, you are their prisoner. They are in control of your life and you’ve given them that power. They may be long gone, have forgotten about you, or even be dead, but if they can still make you think of them in anger, you are their prisoner. Forgive and set yourself free.

Love and serve others. We don’t have to like everyone or agree with what they say or do, but we can love one another. I’ve found when you serve others in need, your own problems are diminished.

It’s always too early to quit. You never know what’s around the next bend, when the door will open for you or what angels are out there working on your behalf. “Failure” no longer exists in my vocabulary. Failure can only become a reality the moment you choose to give up.

Accept your circumstances. Really accept them. Once you accept what is, you can begin to see what’s possible.

Choose your response. You may not always be able to choose your circumstances, but you can always choose your response. This is the key to happiness. I am living proof that when you choose your response, it is possible to be happy and at peace even in the most horrendous of circumstances. You really get to choose whether to be happy or sad, grateful or angry, at peace or hate-filled by choosing your response. The circumstance becomes inconsequential….Continue reading at InspireMeToday.com.

Reon is an internationally acclaimed speaker and author of Set Yourself Free.

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Becky H.
Becky Holland2 years ago

this is so true. i have found that in order to heal from hurts, i have to forgive them. this is not for them, it is for me. it releases me from the negative feelings, and allows me to let go. if i do not forgive, i cannot let go of the negativity and the only one that is punished is me.

Alicia v.
Alicia V.2 years ago

Thanks for being so clear.

paul m.
paul m.2 years ago

Nice one,,,,

Marianne B.
MARIA B.2 years ago

I once read that holding a grudge or hatred, was like taking poison, and hoping the other would die. I thought, now that's ironic.

Andy Kadir-Buxton

The early Christian concept of forgiveness involved the sinner having to ask for forgiveness for their wrongdoing. If forgiveness was not given then the sin would be counted against them when they died. This is a different concept than today when people are forgiven even if they have not apologized.

Sue Matheson
Sue Matheson2 years ago


Mary B.
Mary B.2 years ago

I have not found forgiveness is hard. People always have reasons that are meaningful to them for doing and saying hurtful things, and our tendency is to overlook any evidence that would make us reconsider our conclusions. But once I know that someone is likely to respond with nasty accusations when they're under stress, I won't trust them again, and who I cannot trust, I do not want to invest any more time with.I can still let that sort of unconditional, detached kind of love flow to them as I ponder all the things about them that I liked, but I will not let them close enough to break my heart again.

Debbie Williamson

I have to act out the forgiveness for a long time before the peace comes.

Birgit W.
Birgit W.2 years ago

Very true! Thank you

Magda V.
Past Member 2 years ago