Wisdom from Trisha Sugarek

Growing up in traditionalism as I did, I found my freedom and voice later in life. I discovered that I could be so much more than a wife or mother.

I could be anything I wanted to be.

An old refrain certainly, but it’s old because it’s TRUE. Don’t do it someday, DO IT TODAY!

I began my adult life standing in the secondhand light of a man. (Traditional, remember?) Years later, I figured out that I couldn’t change, fix, repair, or control another human being, as hard as I might try. I learned that the only person I could fix or change was me! And I am grateful every day for that lesson.

I learned that I must never feel responsible or guilty over another human being’s actions. I am not responsible. I can feel sadness, when someone I love is stuck in self-generated depression and defeat. I will be there for them if they reach out for help but I am not responsible for their behavior. Another lesson hard-earned.

In the first 40 years of my life I loved everyone else and forgot all about me. I had been taught that loving and caring for oneself was “selfish.” Then a light shone out of a personal tragedy and it taught me the lesson of self-love….Continue reading at InspireMeToday.com.

Trisha is a published playwright and author.

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Heather M
Heather Marv4 years ago

Love one another as you love yourself. Self needs love too.

KL Bennett4 years ago

Wonderful and very inspiring!

Debra Griffin
Missy G.4 years ago


Hanna Sjoberg

Thank you for sharing.

tiffany t.
tiffany t.4 years ago

easier said than done

Sue H.
Sue H.4 years ago

Thanks for the gentle reminders and for sharing this article.

Jennifer C.
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Olga Lustosa
Olga Lustosa4 years ago

Very inspiring! Hope more and more women are learning that they can change their position in life and priorize their own happiness with no guilty.

Kamryn M.
Kay M.4 years ago