Witnessing Your Ego

Your ego wants to gain from the soul–too eagerly, in fact. Once you turn its attention toward spirit, your ego mistakes it for another race to win, another goal to accomplish, another result to achieve.

In other words, it translates everything spiritual into terms it can understand. There is no escaping this tendency, because until it reaches the end of life’s journey and gets absorbed into the soul, your ego will never stop assuming that the path is for the glory of itself.

“I am enlightened” is just as selfish a statement as “I know how to win.” Your soul is the one thing ego will never win for you.

People are surprised to find a great deal of chaos when they go inside. Not only is the mind restless and wayward, the ego offers its own agenda. Having touched on the ego’s needs to assert its demands, one shouldn’t have the impression that it is an enemy.

The ego has its proper place. The same holds true for the mind with its confusing stream of jumbled ideas, beliefs, desires, fantasies, and emotions. Its chaos poses problems when you try to see your soul clearly, yet the mind has an enormous capacity to perceive reality in new ways.

In their proper place, mind and ego are to be cherished as allies. Remind yourself of this in the long campaign to bring balance back to your inner world. Ego and mind will seem to fight against you, but in truth they harbor their own spiritual goals, not to rule over the soul but to be absorbed in its domain of light.

One of the best ways to allow your ego to be absorbed in spirit is to witness it silently. You do this by just observing your own reactions to situations, circumstances, people, and events. In the mere witnessing of these, you will begin to see a transformation, and a balancing of body, mind, and spirit.


Adapted from The Deeper Wound: Recovering the Soul from Fear and Suffering, by Deepak Chopra (Harmony Books, 2001).

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Camilla Vaga
Camilla Vaga2 years ago

I see nothing wrong with wanting stuff, dreams, goals, desirees, so what i´f it is ego based just for me, i deserve good things just as much as others, if one is going to do as the spirit soul wants it is to give everything to others totally all the time stay poor and weak so the ego gets no win, never

Aurora H.
Aurora H.2 years ago

From the time we are born, we are busy making connections between things, learning how they work, and storing this information. Few of us have been taught the importance of being still and listening, not only to others, but to ourselves. It becomes an adult task to consciously seek out the pleasure of listening to our real self in silence and solitude.

Fi T.
Fi T.2 years ago

Self-understanding is a start to accepting and embracing life

Teresa Wlosowicz
Teresa W.2 years ago

I wish I had no ego...

heather g.
heather g.3 years ago

It's so easy to witness other people's egos - making them look slightly silly or pushy. It's a good idea to take a few deep breaths before looking silly as well.

I'm often confused about what I see in my adopted country. It often relates to someone's ego, someone's arrogance or self-importance. Very often these displays of odd behaviour look more like a cover-up for insecurity. I find people's behaviour endlessly interesting....

Uma Chernoff
Judith Shafer3 years ago

When I think about mentality I can't separate it from my sense of self. I think of it as the vehicle through which I make contact with what I perceive, become aware of and engage; anything I see as separate from myself. I control it's function, determine if it is expressing negative, positive, and creative thought patterns and standing aside direct these patterns and choose from their results. I can still it if I find it to be chattering.It's confusing because I can contemplate my own mentality, remove myself from my experience of it, and stand back and come to opinions and conclusions about it. It's easy for me to identify with it but if I can stand back from it it can't be my basic self. I know that my personality is made of the functions of emotion, the movement of my psyche, my will which I direct to certain ends, my body mind which maintains my physical integrity and my intellect which is my capacity to make connections. Maybe what I think of as mind is what I approach and direct these capacities with. I know that the foundation of my being is able to be aware of looking at itself and feeling joy in it. Is my mentality this expression? Is it an expression of divine omniscience, an expression of a united field of universal consciousness?

Uma Chernoff
Judith Shafer3 years ago

No one outside themselves can MAKE them believe and change, make them want to. Everyone must learn for themselves and till they do they will be dangerous. No punishment or reward can hasten someone else finally GETTING it.

Uma Chernoff
Judith Shafer3 years ago

Ego, the word, means self. It is the statement "I am", so it's about our concepts of our selves. The spiritual goal of unity is about the recognition of self as a part of something greater than limited personal self. It always has to be balanced with awareness of personal self and it's interactions with all that is. A healthy self image is one that is capable of inclusiveness and confidant in it's integrity, it's own unique fit in the all that is, it's permanence through all change. When those qualities of healthy self are challenged, during those periods of re definition and refinement where only much practiced self observation brings habitual confidence in the goodness and pleasure of new perspectives. Until experience and observation lets us conclude that though we don't know who we are in any context, though it might feel threatening, uncomfortable, free floating anxiety and general discomfort, we recognize the signs and are assured that growing pains are fleeting and the new you is probably even yummier.Up until that point the worst expected behavior comes from people; in terms of anything that makes them think they will gather power and feel better from dominating and creating pain around themselves. They will be unsatisfied until they find a new idea of themselves that is harmonious with all that is around them rather than protective and hungry.They CAN'T move on from that point until they have integrated their own experience leading to the new concept. No one outside

Stathi Stathi
Stathi Stathi3 years ago

Your title is a needed act to me, never had thought about it, thank you for the thinking!

Marianne B.
MARIA B.3 years ago

The way I see ego is , "it's all about me". I am in control, nobody can tell me what to do! By the way, that is someone else's statement, (my sister), not mine.