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3 Keys to a Better Night’s Sleep

3 Keys to a Better Night’s Sleep

It’s harder for so many of us to get a good nights sleep in these times. There are lots of reasons why.  You probably know the statistics. Not enough sleep affects quality of life  emotional well-being, mental clarity, communications, performance at work or elsewhere, even our sense of connection to our spirit or authentic self  and ultimately our long-term health. (Anything I’ve left out?)

You stay up late to get things done, like just one-more-email,¯ which just keeps stimulation active when you need to be relaxing. Sometimes I watch TV to relax before sleep, but I have to select what I watch carefully. Otherwise the theme of the last show takes over my brain.

Your reason for tossing and turning at night may be different for you than others. For many of us, worries and concerns we’ve been pushing aside finally get their time to play out on the stage of our minds without distraction at night. Then we get anxious about not sleeping, which only makes it harder to sleep the next night. Anxiety releases adrenaline which prompts body and mind into action ”the opposite of what we need for sleeping. It’s a catch-22. But the result is usually the same. You are foggy or exhausted the next day. Maybe you keep yourself alert with coffee, sugar or other stimulants, but then you crash and drag around. Many of us have tried a lot of the remedies and still often find ourselves lying awake a good part of the night. What are we to do?

If any of this describes you or someone you care about, there is a place about one to two feet under your nose (depending on how tall you are) that you may not have looked for a remedy. That place is your heart.

Girl with Alarm ClockHow Your Heart Can Help You Sleep Better

Tip 1:  Reset your inner rhythm.

Your heart beats in a rhythm. When you are worried, anxious, stressed or overstimulated that rhythm becomes irregular. The more stressed you are, the more chaotic your heart rhythm becomes. So what makes the heart rhythm smooth out quickly? It’s sincere positive feelings, like love, care, gratitude, appreciation, compassion, kindness, peace and ease. These feelings not only feel soothing and good, but they are good for you. They bring a smooth order to your heart rhythms, reduce cortisol (the stress hormone) to help you sleep more soundly and increase DHEA (the vitality hormone) so you wake up more refreshed.

You can see in the picture below how jagged the heart rhythm pattern is when you’re anxious or frustrated and how smooth and sine-wave like (coherent) it becomes when you’re bathing in a positive feeling.

Heart Graph

What’s even more important for the sleep deprived is that scientists have found that this smooth, coherent rhythm is the pattern your heart rhythm naturally goes into during deep restful sleep. So why not give it some help? Here’s what you can do:

When you close your eyes at night, tell yourself you aren’t going to overdramatize your concerns about sleeping. Then do this heart-focused technique we call Attitude

Breathing to help you create the coherent rhythmic pattern that can facilitate deeper and more effective sleep:

  • Gently breathe an attitude of calm, ease and relaxation for a minute or two.
  • When relaxed, breathe an attitude of appreciation, gratitude or love for someone or something–a pet, a time in nature, etc.
  • Do this for a few minutes or more to activate coherent heart rhythms and release beneficial hormones to reduce stress and restore your system.

Guy with pillow

Tip 2: Have you ever noticed what happens when you go to bed without resolving a real or imagined conflict with someone? Your mind won’t stop rehashing what you could have or should have said. Your heart can help. Here’s how:

If you can, communicate with the other person, even by phone, before you go to bed. With a caring open-heartedness and latitude, try to work it out. First ask yourself if there’s something you need to correct within yourself to help the situation. Apologize if you need to and listen from your heart with an attitude of genuine care. Ask questions to sincerely understand where she was coming from, even if you think you know. If you can’t reach the person, talk about the problem with someone who won’t automatically take your side and may provide another point of view. Then talk to the person as soon as you can. Don’t chicken out. Even if the situation doesn’t resolve right away, you can release yourself more knowing that you tried. Breathing the attitude of self-compassion (using Tip 1) has helped many people in hard-to-resolve¯ situations.

Tip 3: Realize that emotional reactions during the day can affect how you sleep at night.

If you allow stress to build-up during the day, it throws off your body’s rhythms and can lead to overload, headaches, backaches, indigestion, energy drain and more. Your heart generates the strongest rhythmic pattern in the body, and your brain and nervous system entrain to your heart’s rhythm whether coherent or incoherent. Shifting your heart into a smooth coherent Guy in Chairrhythm a couple times during the day helps release stress as you go and resets your body’s rhythms for better sleep at night. Here’s how.

Take a coherence break in-between activities, at your desk or anywhere. Shift your attention to your heart (look at picture of a loved one, remember a favorite pet, or recall a time in nature) and feel appreciation or gratitude. It’s important that the appreciation be heartfelt (not just from your mind) to activate heart coherence and the hormones that help bring harmony and stability to your mental and emotional nature. Breathe a true feeling or attitude of appreciation through the area of your heart for a minute or two (without mentally multi-tasking as you do this). Taking a coherence break also increases balance and resilience, and it helps you listen to your heart’s intuitive guidance on what else you need to do to release stress or prevent stress build-up.

It may take several days using these tips for your sleep rhythms to reset if they’ve been out of whack for awhile. To speed up the process, you can sign up for the Institute of HeartMath’s free services to receive more tips or try the emWave 2 heart rhythm technology with Solution for Better Sleep or Inner Balance Sensor and App (iPhone, iPad or iPod) to watch in real-time when your heart rhythms shift into that smooth coherent state. Even if you don’t sleep like a baby the first night, you will start to accrue benefits from the practice.

 

I’d love to hear how using these tips work for you!

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Sara, from Institute of HeartMath

Sara Childre is President and CEO of the non-profit Institute of HeartMath. Since 1991, Sara has helped oversee and develop HeartMath trainings, educational products and scientific programs. She was appointed vice president and CFO of the institute in 1992, then president and CEO in 1998.

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5:36AM PDT on Aug 26, 2014

cool

9:34AM PDT on Aug 21, 2014

good stuff. thank you!

6:52PM PDT on Aug 17, 2014

so controlling stress allows you to sleep better. not rocket science Care2

8:12PM PDT on Aug 15, 2014

Good ideas here.

3:54AM PDT on Aug 11, 2014

noted

3:42AM PDT on Aug 11, 2014

thanks

4:34AM PDT on Aug 10, 2014

Thank you

9:57AM PDT on Aug 9, 2014

Thanks for sharing.

3:09AM PDT on Aug 9, 2014

Thanks!

4:34PM PDT on Aug 8, 2014

Thanks for sharing

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