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Why Abstinence-Only Sex Ed Makes Kids Into Bullies


Society & Culture  (tags: children, education, bulying, abtinence programs, child, humans, culture, americans, news, safety, society )

Cal
- 966 days ago - alternet.org
Abstinence-only programs, with their emphasis on purity, marriage, and heterosexuality, create hostile environments.



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NicoleAWAY W. (625)
Saturday January 7, 2012, 5:38 am
interesting, thank you Cal
 

Pat A. (117)
Saturday January 7, 2012, 5:44 am
Read the article but couldn't bear to read further to see the examples that were noted - to think I'd end up being grateful for being middle-aged! Sex education is vital, as ignorance breeds victims, but please make it balanced and sane - not like the example at the bottom of the article.
 

Daniel Partlow (189)
Saturday January 7, 2012, 7:51 am
Sex ED is important as all they learn now is from TV.
 

Lin Penrose (92)
Saturday January 7, 2012, 9:09 am
Noted, thanks Cal. Abstinence can Sometimes overcome the complications (many) of hormone changes. To ask a child to understand the strange demands, changes of the body and brain, is asking way too much. Sex education and informed preparedness for the sex act, with abstinence as a choice, would be best.
 

tasunka m. (334)
Saturday January 7, 2012, 9:57 am
abstinence,doesn't relieve the raging hormones that torture young adults....
don't kill me,but what about teaching that masturbation is a help....we all do it.
 

l L. (1)
Saturday January 7, 2012, 4:55 pm
This is somethign new for me. Now raging harmones cause bullying? trying to follow the pints of this article.
Are they fo or against abstinence?
sex boils down to how much love and respect one has towards others as not to impose your desires on them.Respect that it's their body and understand thru love them as much as yourself, what it means to be taken against your will and the consequences of pain and suffering it leads to.
I saw a couple of recent t.v shows who one character explained to the other a teenager not to enter into sexual activies until you are ready to handle the outcomes that comes with it. Meaning manage yourself. I found that something I could appreciate and sound doctrine.
Also recently; on a news site, on line a link provided to alphabetical sexual predators; i was so surprized at how many there were/are. I couldn't believe it. I asked myself, how does one meet a stranger and not be a sex preditor? poor women. But women was/are on the list too but not comparable to men.

It interprets than mankind does have a problem wizth sex and our sexualality. So what is our answer and can we afford to keep sweeping it under the rug or pretending we don't have a proble.

Abstinence sounds great but are people strong enough to not listen.
Sex is so overrated for all the pleasure it might bring, the sorrows are more compounding. But that is a matter of conclusions after the fact.
This bullying idea tied to abstinence, where did that come from?
 

pam w. (191)
Sunday January 8, 2012, 10:35 pm
I don't know that "Abstinence only" programs makes kids BULLIES. I DO know it makes them PARENTS.
 

Patricia E. G. (51)
Sunday January 8, 2012, 11:36 pm
Yep, That's the way it is .

Thanks Cal for posting
 

Sarah G. (110)
Monday January 9, 2012, 4:49 am
Nothing wrong with abstinence. The problem is with ignorance, lack of candor, and covert religious indoctrination.
 

cecily w. (0)
Monday January 9, 2012, 6:32 am
pam w--good one!
 

Bob P. (426)
Monday January 9, 2012, 6:38 am
Thanks Cal
 

Kristen H. (25)
Monday January 9, 2012, 8:19 am
Correlation is not causation. I think the proliferation of cell phones, ipads, and other electronic devices in the hands of immature kids, with little to no parental or school supervision on how they're used - is a more pertinent correlation here.

That is not to say that abstinence-only is right. It is NOT right. And it DOES create unrealistic expectations for kids to try to live up to, and it DOES foster unhealthy stereotypes. But I don't think it can bear the blame for ALL the behavior we're seeing.

Has anyone taken a listen to popular radio lately? I think it's gotten pretty disgusting, to tell the truth.
 

Myron Scott (70)
Monday January 9, 2012, 11:09 am
Back in the 60's, Margaret Mead observed that modern societies have expanded that length of adolescence while failing to address the sexual identities of adolescents and young adults. Hasn't changed.
 

Nicole Gorman (38)
Monday January 9, 2012, 1:17 pm
It's completely upsetting to me that abstinence only is taught at all. There's nothing wrong with teaching abstinence as an option (and one that most parents would love for their children to choose!)But that's completely unrealistic. The more information our children have, the better the decisions that are capable of making. Not stimatizing LGBT or working along the lines of a heterosexual assumption is also very important. The goal is to prevent pregnancy, disease, abuse, and numerous other problems, not add to them!
 

Sue Matheson (70)
Monday January 9, 2012, 2:01 pm
thanks.
 

Nancy Roussy (79)
Monday January 9, 2012, 2:32 pm
Stop blaming everything except the people who are to blamed! Bullies are bullies because they are evil! Nothing and nobody made them this way just like nothing and nobody is forcing them to be bullies! Abstinence only programs are a bunch of crap and changing the subject like that will not help take that crap out of schools! And excusing bullies will not help stop bullying and it will not help their victims!
 

Bobbi Martel (9)
Monday January 9, 2012, 2:46 pm
VERY BIASED ARTICLE.IT IS A SAD THING WHEN TEACHING MORALITY IS SAID TO BE WRONG.WE ARE CREATED DIFFERENT FOR A REASON,AND IT IS CAUSING ALOT OF CONFUSION TO BLUR RIGHT AND WRONG AND GENDER ROLES.I DON'T KNOW WHERE YOU GET YOUR INFORMATION FROM,BUT BLAMING THIS FOR BULLYING IS BULLSHIT.A PERSON BULLIES BECAUSE THEY ARE MEAN OR BECAUSE THEY HAVE AN INFERIORITY COMPLEX AND NEED TO FEEL POWERFUL,NOT BECAUSE SOMEONE TEACHES THEM NORMALCY,GENDER ROLES,OR RIGHT AND WRONG.FAILING TO TEACH RIGHT FROM WORNG WILL MAKE A BULLY.
 

Mike and Janis B. (7)
Monday January 9, 2012, 2:50 pm
Sexual stereotyping has obviously got a lot to do with bullying that is why men hit women. Nicole Gorman has it right absolutely.
 

Fred Krohn (34)
Monday January 9, 2012, 5:22 pm
My actual 'sex education' consisted of visitting a neighbour's farm and watching the animals in natural activity. The 'abstinance' lectures were to me hoaxes and fraud; I ignored them. I gradded highschool and joined the USA Navy at least knowing what the parts are for and what condoms do... The 'abstinence only' program should be banned and replaced with a real human biology and health program.
 

colleen p. (38)
Tuesday January 10, 2012, 5:37 am
why can't we all bes liek teh Bonobos and just rub up aginst all of eachother when tentions riseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
 

Lori Mabry (18)
Tuesday January 10, 2012, 11:13 am
people are bullies because of fear and ;more than likely live in an environment where bullying unfortunately is the norm. I certainly am not defending bulling it is wrong and sad,I believe that our children deserve to be educated on all aspects of birth control and sex.
 

Robert O. (12)
Tuesday January 10, 2012, 3:06 pm
Thanks.
 

William Y. (54)
Tuesday January 10, 2012, 6:24 pm
My comment at Alternet:

Causing bullying or not, Abstinence only sex ed doesn't stop or even cut down on teen pregnancy, STDs and does cause problems with someone who is "different."
 

june t. (65)
Tuesday January 10, 2012, 11:19 pm
There are too many influences in the world to blame bullying on this one thing. Too simplistic.
 

. (0)
Wednesday January 11, 2012, 5:37 am
Interesting connection, thanks.
 

Rooibos Bird (237)
Wednesday January 11, 2012, 10:05 am

Just remember: abstinence-only programs are pushed by organized religions and there is absolutely a correlation between the totalitarian religionist agenda (regardless of *which* religion it happens to be) and exerting social control and dominance over society. Remember also that this abstinence-only agenda is mainly aimed at females to control their behaviour and sexuality.
 

Amanda Adams (201)
Wednesday January 11, 2012, 6:32 pm
Makes sense.
 

Sandi C. (242)
Friday January 13, 2012, 8:34 am
I don't agree!
 

George Marshall (1)
Saturday January 14, 2012, 2:07 pm
I was not convinced. There is no study here. No science. Just opinion. I do not agree with abstinence only and I also do not think it should be publicly funded. An article on exactly what is being taught and how we can fix it would be better.
 
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