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I Am a Survivor, And I Can Finally Talk About It


Society & Culture  (tags: abuse, americans, culture, education, government, police, politics, rights, safety, Sexual Assault, society, violence )

Kit
- 383 days ago - everydayfeminism.com
I was not able to move or speak, which was terrifying. When I pushed weakly against the toilet with my chin, the ground came up fast in free fall, my forehead banging hard. *Warning - description of sexual assault



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AniMae Chi (389)
Tuesday June 25, 2013, 5:06 am
Best to talk about it immediately, forgive it & let it go....
worked for me.
 

Dee C. (214)
Tuesday June 25, 2013, 5:39 am
Great to bring light to the fact that men get raped too..Not many will talk about it..I actually think it would be harder for a man to talk about..more than fear of shame or fear..they for the most part are ridiculed by other men and a few women as well..Though it certainly shouldn't be that way..it sadly is..

Glad this man did learn to talk about it and found someone understanding..

Thanks Kit..
Noted..
 

Nicole W. (629)
Tuesday June 25, 2013, 6:27 am
thank you Kit
 

JL A. (274)
Tuesday June 25, 2013, 6:46 am
Bringing it into the public discussion arena helps victims know that they aren't alone and what they feel is normal in response to such an atrocity.
 

Kit B. (277)
Tuesday June 25, 2013, 7:16 am

If the figure of 53% of all sexual assaults in the military are men, what could makes think that it is not far more prevalent in society as a whole. Women have serious difficulty reporting sexual assaults, I think men do as well.
 

Past Member (0)
Tuesday June 25, 2013, 1:45 pm
Kit, I know male survivors, and it is as you say, difficult even more for men perhaps, to talk about it.

I noted but cannot read it. Thank you for the "trigger alert."

~L.
 

Past Member (0)
Tuesday June 25, 2013, 1:45 pm
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Dandelion G. (375)
Tuesday June 25, 2013, 2:33 pm
I commend this man for speaking out. As with a lot of things it takes one person to step up and speak out. Rape is a crime no matter who it is done to.
 

Sharon W. (4)
Tuesday June 25, 2013, 3:16 pm
Respect to the guy for telling his story.
I we could abolish rape.
 

ewoud k. (73)
Tuesday June 25, 2013, 3:24 pm
Sexual violence is wrong, no matter what way.

No means No, as simple as that.

 

greenplanet e. (157)
Tuesday June 25, 2013, 6:45 pm
"Nearly two years later, we have almost gotten her rapistís name spelled correctly on her police report,"

Yes, we need to stop rape/abuse culture.

It seems worse, not better.

You shouldn't even have to say "no", you just shouldn't be harrassed at any time.
 

Kit B. (277)
Tuesday June 25, 2013, 6:53 pm

How do we stop the violence in our culture?
 

Bryna Pizzo (139)
Tuesday June 25, 2013, 7:02 pm
Thank you for helping to expose the horror of rape.
 

Kit B. (277)
Tuesday June 25, 2013, 7:07 pm

I have known many women that have talked of rape or sexual assault, few men that have come forward. When they do they often meet with a hostile reception.

How do we stop the violence in our culture?
 

Shawna S. (43)
Tuesday June 25, 2013, 9:17 pm
Thanks Kit for sharing this article.
I know of one man who was raped by a woman. His story was 'unreal' to me. He did not go to the authorities. He chose to forgive...and forever look at women differently. Today he is married and a father and happy.
We all deal in our own way and hope for the best. For some, the best does find it's way into their lives.
 

Constance F. (436)
Tuesday June 25, 2013, 9:27 pm
big question Kit ~ how do we stop the violence in our culture ? well for one people might want to take a look at the violence in themselves. And I can guarantee everyone has it. whether your screaming at someone on the freeway, or your spouse, or complicit in cruelty of other species because you lack compassion for anything that doesn't look like you, on and on, and on.... but that is asking the majority of people to be aware and honest and conscious. So I really don't know. But that's the starting point and the finishing.
 

greenplanet e. (157)
Tuesday June 25, 2013, 9:44 pm
And how do we stop misogyny?

I guess no one's perfect, but are some people more evolved/compassionate than others "naturally", or could it through education and socialisation that violence and bigotry can be reduced?

Violence also seems to sell eg video games and movies. Does that say soemthing about human beings, or some of them? Yet, others find violence abhorrent.

Strange world.
 

Rose NoFWDSPLZ (273)
Tuesday June 25, 2013, 11:08 pm
May he find healing
 

Sherri G. (111)
Wednesday June 26, 2013, 12:18 am
Talking about strips the rapist of their control and give it back to the person (man or woman) who was violated. The added benefit of sharing the story with others helps others take back their control over their lives too. Healing happens the sooner the rapist has no more control over the ones they took it from. Thanks Kit good story noted.
 

Jo Mullen (11)
Wednesday June 26, 2013, 12:36 am
You are a brave man and an inspiration to others who have not yet been able to do what you have.
 

Jennifer C. (172)
Wednesday June 26, 2013, 5:46 am
Thanks.
 

Kit B. (277)
Wednesday June 26, 2013, 5:51 am

How do we stop misogyny? Don't ask lawmakers in Texas.
 

Inge Bjorkman (124)
Wednesday June 26, 2013, 10:06 am
All acts of violence is wrong.
Love, Peace and Understanding
 

Constance F. (436)
Wednesday June 26, 2013, 10:27 am
lol Kit ~ another humongous question !
 

Jamie Clemons (280)
Wednesday June 26, 2013, 1:54 pm
wow guess he learned a hard lesson. Watch it on that drinking.
 

Debra Tate (17)
Wednesday June 26, 2013, 2:39 pm
Noted!
 

marie tc (165)
Wednesday June 26, 2013, 3:17 pm
Thank you Kit I admire his bravery so many dreadful things go on unaccounted for.
Wonderful he has found the courage to talk it through 10 out of 10 for this young man
 

Birgit W. (140)
Wednesday June 26, 2013, 4:20 pm
Noted, thanks.
 

Twyla Sparks (214)
Thursday June 27, 2013, 4:16 pm
noted!
 

Melania Padilla (173)
Friday July 5, 2013, 3:32 pm
Thank you for sharing this. I cannot imagine what it takes to survive and talk about this, indeed brave women. Every sick abuser should be in prison for life, I hope they all burn in hell!!!
 
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