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Cops Beat Their Wives and Girlfriends At Double The National Rate

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Statistics show that 1 in 4 women in the US is a victim of domestic violence, those numbers jump to 1 in 2 if they are married to a cop.

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Teresa W (782)
Thursday May 15, 2014, 6:40 am
I'm not surprised. Men are violent by nature. Those who are not simply manage to control themselves very well.

Lea Silhol (16)
Thursday May 15, 2014, 6:40 am
Aouch! O_O

Kit B (276)
Thursday May 15, 2014, 6:47 am
Disney Cartoon image - artist aleXsandro Palombo from his series called No Violence Against Women, What kind of man are you?

Statistics show that 1 in 4 women in the US is a victim of domestic violence, those numbers jump to 1 in 2 if they are married to a cop.

Law Enforcement officers beat their significant other at nearly double the national average. Several studies, according to Diane Wetendorf, author of Police Domestic Violence: Handbook for Victims, indicate that women suffer domestic abuse in at least 40 percent of police officer families. For American women overall, the figure is 25 percent, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

According to The Advocates for Human Rights Organization, studies indicate that police families are 2-4 times more likely than the general population to experience domestic violence, making the potential for disparities in protective success particularly troubling.

Historian John Emerich Edward Dalberg-Acton, has a famous quote, Power tends to corrupt and absolute power corrupts absolutely. This rings true through all levels of government ‘power,’ however it is particular prevalent among police officers.

Sociopaths are attracted to positions in which they are able to assert authority over others, so it should come as no surprise that there are higher concentrations of sociopaths within law enforcement.

The trouble with spousal abuse lies in the very nature of police work. The authority and control in the wrong hands, will be misused, according to domestic violence counselors.

What makes police domestic violence more difficult to deal with is the fact that women feel scared to report it. Even advocates for battered women are reluctant to dive into domestic violence cases involving police for fear of alienating the agencies they rely upon for help in other abuse cases, according to a report by SFGate.

When other women report their abuse, they do so to law enforcement officers. Think about it from the position of the one being abused by a law enforcement officer. The one doing the beating is simultaneously holding a position in which they are tasked with preventing that very abuse!

“There are a lot of good cops who go into the work for the right reasons, to help people. But then you have these others who are more interested in the authority, in the badge and the gun.”

Diane Wetendorf told SFGate in an interview,

“The biggest problem for a woman reporting that she’s been abused by her police officer husband or boyfriend is that nobody believes you.”

“There are a lot of good cops who go into the work for the right reasons, to help people. But then you have these others who are more interested in the authority, in the badge and the gun.”

“They start out with command presence and voice to gain and maintain control, and if that doesn’t work, they go up the scale with an increasing amount of force until they get compliance,” Wetendorf said. “Unfortunately, these guys use the same technique with their wives and girlfriends. And some of them go from 0 to 60 right away.”

These women not only fear retaliation, but also have apprehension about their husbands losing their jobs, thus stifling their own economic future.

If they do report it they often run into skepticism from the same law enforcement system they are complaining to.

“A big part of police culture is the code of silence, the prosecutors depend on police for their cases, the police depend on each other – it’s a very insulated system,” says Wetendorf. Cops will all too often look the other way when it is “one of their own” facing accusations.

An example of this tendency to cover up domestic police abuse can be seen in the case of Jeremy Yachik. This monster beat and tortured his daughter for years. His girlfriend even filmed the abuse with her cellphone and brought the footage to the police department that Yachik worked for.

After showing the video to Glen Johnson, the Police Chief, they failed to respond and she was forced to find another venue to expose this abuse.

Also a study conducted by the Domestic Violence Task Force called Domestic Violence in the Los Angeles Police Department: How Well Does the Los Angeles Police Department Police Its Own? revealed that performance evaluations of cops with history of domestic violence are largely unaffected.The study of the Los Angeles Police Department further examined the 91 cases in which an allegation of domestic violence was sustained against an officer.

*Over three-fourths of the time, this sustained allegation was not mentioned in the officer’s performance evaluation.

*Twenty-six of these officers (29%) were promoted, including six who were promoted within two years of the incident.

The report concluded that “employees with sustained allegations were neither barred from moving to desired positions nor transferred out of assignments that were inconsistent with the sustained allegation”

Wetendorf points out the most common fears when reporting police domestic abuse in her handbook:

If your abuser is an officer of the law, you may be afraid to:

*Call the police — He is the police.

*Go to a shelter — He knows where the shelters are located.

*Have him arrested — Responding officers may invoke the code of silence.

*Take him to court — It’s your word against that of an officer, and he knows the system.

*Drop the charges — You could lose any future credibility and protection.

*Seek a conviction — He will probably lose his job and retaliate against you.

These fears can make someone feel incredibly trapped and feel like there is no way out.

If you or someone you know is a victim of this type of abuse we encourage you to no longer remain silent. As long as people go unpunished for their abuse, they will continue their abuse.

Film it, record it, expose it in any manner you can. Tell us your story and we will expose these abusive jackboots for the cowards they are.

By: Matt Savoy | Free Thought Project |


1 Johnson, L.B. (1991). On the front lines: Police stress and family well-being. Hearing before the Select Committee on Children, Youth, and Families House of Representatives: 102 Congress First Session May 20 (p. 32-48). Washington DC: US Government Printing Office.

2 Neidig, P.H., Russell, H.E. & Seng, A.F. (1992). Interspousal aggression in law enforcement families: A preliminary investigation. Police Studies, Vol. 15 (1), p. 30-38.

3 P.H. Neidig, A.F. Seng, and H.E. Russell, “Interspousal Aggression in Law Enforcement Personnel Attending the FOP Biennial Conference,” National FOP Journal. Fall/Winter 1992, 25-28.



Kit B (276)
Thursday May 15, 2014, 6:50 am

This article does not condemn all police, but those who are inclined to violence and that violence is expressed to a spouse or children by physical abuse, this is about them.

Many will want to defend a friend or relative that is a cop, and a great guy. This article is not about the Great Guys, but the brutes.

Kit B (276)
Thursday May 15, 2014, 6:52 am

The lay out of cartoons against violence by aleXsandro Palombo are found at the Huffington Post.

Ben O (171)
Thursday May 15, 2014, 7:07 am
"To serve and protect"...? -Tell me about it!

Mandi T (375)
Thursday May 15, 2014, 11:32 am
Raising a hand to women, children, and animals is pure cowardly!

David F (14)
Thursday May 15, 2014, 3:04 pm
... which seems to confirm that there is some wisdom in the old saying that many cops are very much like thugs, only to cowardly to work independent

JL A (281)
Thursday May 15, 2014, 4:20 pm
These data were revealed when CA was implementing their mandated domestic violence treatment for offenders; many law enforcement agencies had ignored domestic violence histories when approving background checks for hiring despite rules forbidding violent offenses in their past. If their buddies did investigate and press charges, frequently there was no penalty if they pled no contest.

Past Member (0)
Thursday May 15, 2014, 5:46 pm

Yvonne White (229)
Thursday May 15, 2014, 6:58 pm
I believe all "Law Officers" and Military should be required to have yearly psych evaluations. It seems to me that too many borderline psychotics join military & paramilitary organizations. This article certainly explains why "restraining orders" are rarely enforced..:(

Past Member (0)
Thursday May 15, 2014, 8:37 pm
Thank you

Azaima A (207)
Friday May 16, 2014, 5:40 am
power corrupts

Robert O (12)
Friday May 16, 2014, 8:33 am
And yet they have the nerve to act so sanctimonious and holier than thou when arresting others for domestic violence issues when some of the worst girlfriend and wife beaters dress in blue, wear the shield and play the part of the good guy. Thanks Kit.

Gabriele Jefferson (147)
Friday May 16, 2014, 11:39 am
noted shared on fb, twitter, g+

Joanne D (38)
Friday May 16, 2014, 12:11 pm
Eric Berne in "Games People Play" pointed out that for many "Cops and Robbers" is a life game, dictating career choices, and also that any player in any game can play any role - they are completely interchangeable. As Kit said, this is not to disparage good cops, because there certainly are some; not every cop is there because he is playing the game. But we need a way to weed out the sociopaths/gamers.

Greg K (1)
Friday May 16, 2014, 1:25 pm
After practicing all day on the public, you would think they would be too tired to beat up the family. In case of a crime in my house, I would not call the police until I was far away. Too many cases of the cops shooting first and sorting them out later for me to take a chance.

Emma I (0)
Friday May 16, 2014, 1:36 pm
I have seen this with my youngest sister and her power-tripping husband. Her adult "kids" have same violent behavior as their ex-cop father. He holds the purse strings and they play his sick game. My heart breaks, but she will not leave because of fear.

Angelika R (143)
Friday May 16, 2014, 2:19 pm
This is no surprise and the stats speak loudly and clearly. Yvonne said it well and i agree. Since the Police has become so militarised things have likely gotten worse.

Sheri Schongold (7)
Friday May 16, 2014, 2:51 pm
I am not the least surprised. Unfortunately, when you give some men a gun and a badge, it all goes to his head and he loses it. The head gets smaller, the b*** get larger and any brains that they had flies out the window. They have to realize that they are still the same people they were before the gun and badge and it probably should be mandatory for them to get yearly, if not more, counseling and anger management classes.

Mitchell D (87)
Friday May 16, 2014, 5:31 pm
Joanne, Eric Berne was a very wise fellow, as were his San Fransisco cohorts, and, by coincidence, just this past Tuesday, I was suggesting that a client read "Games People Play."
Yvonne, there is no such diagnosis as "borderline psychotic." perhaps you were referring to "Borderline Personality Disorder," which would, indeed make sense.
I have no doubt that many go into the police force with good intentions, but there are too many who go into it for the sake of the power.

Athena F (131)
Friday May 16, 2014, 7:01 pm
Thank you, Kit

Patsy Olive (0)
Friday May 16, 2014, 10:05 pm
Noted. And I feel so sorry for these women.

Birgit W (160)
Saturday May 17, 2014, 5:52 am
Unfortunately this is very true. Thanks Kit.

. (0)
Saturday May 17, 2014, 6:37 am
Noted & posted

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Saturday May 17, 2014, 6:39 am

pam w (139)
Saturday May 17, 2014, 7:41 am
I once asked a cop friend to ''fix me up'' with one of his friends and he refused, saying "I care about you too much." Cops make lousy husbands (or wives, I suppose...there's more data on men.)

Craig Pittman (52)
Saturday May 17, 2014, 10:57 am
Just to provide a bit of balance - there are many female cops out there now. Does the job create or attract violent personalities only and are both sexes stereotyped because of the job? My son is a cop 6'3" and 250 pounds and you couldn't meet a more considerate, compassionate guy.
I was in my share of fights when I was younger and honestly some of the most vicious bar fights I have witnessed were between women. Violence is totally unacceptable period.

Kathleen R (138)
Saturday May 17, 2014, 1:13 pm
Thanks for a very good article.

Barbara Tomlinson (431)
Saturday May 17, 2014, 5:41 pm
For many cops, I have read, it is a career after being in the military, and deployed to combat zones.

Many have unresolved issues, PTSD un-diagnosed, flashbacks and hair-trigger responses and so on.
Combat Veterans, also, have much more violence in their domestic relationships, and murder and suicide.
You can't train a person to be violent, and then just "let them loose"...
There must be a relationship here.

Vallee R (280)
Saturday May 17, 2014, 5:48 pm
Great article and not surprised plus they are being militarized

Debra G (0)
Sunday May 18, 2014, 12:53 am
This was the haunting headline in the Tacoma Tribune in 2003: Crystal Brame, 35, died Saturday afternoon, a week after her husband, Police Chief David Brame shot her. This was a good article about a very real problem, but I also want to emphasize that there are some really kind, thoughtful cops out there and I thank them for their service.

Sergio Padilla (65)
Monday May 19, 2014, 1:21 pm

Charlene Rush (79)
Monday May 19, 2014, 2:17 pm
It behooves me to comprehend why anyone would want to be married to a person who, more than likely, considers themselves to be 'better than.......?

Latonya W (82)
Monday May 19, 2014, 3:43 pm

Gloria H (88)
Monday May 19, 2014, 7:26 pm
When you figure most cops are giving out tickets, seeing the worse of humanity every day it's got to get to them. My uncle was an alcoholic cop, he went after my aunt in a drunken spree shooting the ceiling. He was 6 months close to retirement, and fortunately never had to use his gun being on desk duty(my aunt took the bullets out of it).
His boss also was an alcoholic covering for him.
Which came first....the drinking or the situations encountered being a cop?
I had a girlfriend who graduated from police academy who is very racist, bad far she has not been hired by any department. She is a loaded gun if they ever do. Being a bully cop is an equal opportunity.

Gabriela Moreno (3)
Wednesday May 21, 2014, 11:11 am
If violent cops had not become cops they would probably be criminals as they are both bullies.
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