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Valentine's Day V. The Person in the Street


Society & Culture  (tags: Valntine's day, jewelry, candy, roses, love, reality, marketing, defining love )

RC
- 2345 days ago - washingtonpost.com
Sure, Valentine's Day is a triumph of marketing - the ultimate selling dream of purveyors of all things glitzy, showy and romantic. Read real people's ideas on love in this fascinating article, then share your own.



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RC deWinter (418)
Friday February 8, 2008, 5:12 am
Love...is it definable in the personal, one-to-one sense? I can't come up with anything, but then, I am old and jaded.
 

Joycey B. (750)
Friday February 8, 2008, 6:02 am
I just love a romantic dinner. Noted. Thanks Cate.
 

Elizabeth W. (20)
Friday February 8, 2008, 7:37 am
I dunno...Valentine's day having the initials V.D. has me cautious to get caught up in the whole smoochy lovey dovey thang. I figure it it a good wayif one wants to find out who is single or committed by asking whether they and their girlfriend/boyfriend,etc are celebrating...not a guarantee...but maybe hit the pulse a bit better. Not really concerned with it though, as I am in like (ok I am kind of smitten) with only one person at the moment, and have decided to not actively pursue dating. I would like to think it would just be another excuse to do something we'd enjoy and typically do anyway.
I will be cleaning kitchen to make allergy free stuff for kids and end up getting frosting everywhere after cleaning up the joint...that is my love, accepting the inevitability of futility. ;P
 

Laurie W. (189)
Friday February 8, 2008, 8:55 am
Love....How often has someone said"if he/she really loved me they'd..." and I wonder is it really that one thing or action that defines it. In twenty-eight years he never remembered my birthday till the kids got old enough to remind him, but then he never remembered theirs either. One year he beamed as he handed me a card..proof he hadn't forgotten. Upon opening the card I noticed it was unsigned...oops. Yes he had forgotten again, and once reminded had rushed to get one before I returned from work.. Maybe love is not hurting someone else to validate your feelings....I laughed and told him if he never signed it think of all the money on cards we'd save.....He forgot alot of things except the date we got married....he said it was the only day that mattered ..now how can you not love that.! Love can be as simple as that green star someone sends that brightens what seemed like a dreary day..and even the "old and jaded" have done that for me...Love is the one power than heals...hate can never do that...make it red hearts, green stars we just need more
 

Carolyn T. (234)
Friday February 8, 2008, 9:23 am
Noted. I have the following committed to memory so I am pleased to share it here. "Of all humankinds inborn dispositions there is none more heroic than love. Everything else accepts defeat and dies, but love will fight no-love every inch of the way." Whatever else one has in life, if there is not love then the rest doesn't seem quite enough. I know there is commercialism involved in Valentine's Day or any other holiday...I am willing to tolerate it. Love You, Cate!!!!--thanks for the story. And a valentine.....
 

Gail L. (30)
Friday February 8, 2008, 10:06 am
NOTED.
 

Past Member (0)
Friday February 8, 2008, 10:09 am
not a friend of valentines...to be honest not a friend of any holiday that is forced on us like most of them..give me a unexpected small gift on any day in the year and I am a happy camper..but no roses and heartshaped chocolade on valentines to make me feel loved?
 

Pastor Tim Redfern (599)
Friday February 8, 2008, 11:06 am
We shouldn't need just one day out
of the year to say "I love you". If
the feeling is real and genuine, it
will make itself manifest every day!
Thanks, Cate!
noted.
 

Pippa Posh (7)
Friday February 8, 2008, 11:42 am
I think it was Joan Baez who sang, 'Love is just a four letter word.' It doesn't have to be that way.
What the world really does need now is LOVE! So I say Big Up for Valentines day.
If you are feeling lost and lonely, then make someone elses day ;-)

Pippa
Africa
 

Martin K. (80)
Friday February 8, 2008, 1:15 pm
Unless we love ourselves we can not offer anything to another,each person must accept the other unconditionally. No person can meet the desires and expectations of their partner all the time. All of us grow at different levels and points in time and therefore we must be truthful and open with one another to keep the relationship alive. Each of us has needs that need to be acted upon, if the other can not hear or will not acknowlede those needs, a schism appears that could break the alliance apart.

I stoped giving Valentine cards to my partner in life opting to write her a letter or poem expressing those feelings, to let her know my hearts feelings towards her. I guess I am just a stuborn Romantic.
 

Suzybell H. (199)
Friday February 8, 2008, 2:42 pm
Love.. is something only you can describe. The strongest love is a mothers love for her child ! I am sure you will agree. I know I hurt so bad,for him.No matter the things he has done he is and always will be my son. It would be
the same if I had a daughter. It is different but he is first now.
 

Elle J. (282)
Friday February 8, 2008, 5:19 pm
Noted! Thanks for the story, Cate
 

Tsandi Crew (95)
Saturday February 9, 2008, 9:44 am
About 1988 I lived upstairs in an old building in San Diego, in a part of town that wasn't the worst, but it was second to it. A lot of states were sending their homeless people there by the busload because its warmer there.

There was a homeless person that lived in the alley by the building. I used to leave a meal on the top of the dumpster now and then for him. We never exchanged any words or anything . . . most homeless people then preferred to live the way they were. They were offered help, but they turned it down, preferred what they had. To each their own, strange as it was.

I often found little signs. There was once one of those helium balloons floating in the stairwell that said "Some bunny loves you" and the string was hanging all the way down to where I could reach it. (I was the only tenant there). Another time I found a little heart in the seat of my car ...remember the little plastic hearts on a gold string that used to hang from bottles of Blue Nun Wine? One of those.

One weekend I was out with my boyfriend on a motorcycle and broke my leg. I was in a cast up to my hip for 6 weeks, still living alone. I could barely get out of bed. One night a couple of Vietnamese from the neighborhood broke into my apartment. I was absolutely mortified because I was totally defenseless. But . . the homeless guy came in and saved me. From out of nowhere in the total darkness. I'm still so moved when I think about it.

To me the love was in the caring of one person for another in the day to day stuff. Not romantic love, but love and respect from one human being for another. Unspoken in a way. Little signs of thankfulness.

I never saw him again, and in fact never really got to see him well at all because he retreated immediately. I knew he was around. I felt almost as if he was a guardian angel. I was able to leave food for him a couple of times more, but I was moved to another neighborhood by a friend, and I never was in the old neighborhood again.

 

Ramona Gehl (141)
Saturday February 9, 2008, 1:38 pm
I'm with you Cate....old and jaded!!!!!! LOL
 

Pauline Houzard (120)
Monday February 11, 2008, 5:23 pm
I'm an old romantic at heart, I love Vlentines day! Noted
 
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