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A New Year's Resolution of The Heart Technology Vs. Human Interaction In Our Daily Lives

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I wrote this article to draw attention to the fact that personal human interactions can never be replaced by technology. A hug, a personal conversation, a picnic, or just a nice moment spent together with someone we love is priceless!

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Lisa Neste (771)
Sunday January 6, 2013, 12:33 pm
Thanks Frank. Wonderful message! The more we gain in technology the less we interact on a personal level.

Nicole W. (653)
Sunday January 6, 2013, 12:42 pm
Frank, well said. thank you, this is priceless!

Danuta Watola (1264)
Sunday January 6, 2013, 12:56 pm

Sunday January 6, 2013, 1:04 pm
Great article, thanks Frank! Noted and shared on Twitter. Technology is supposed to 'assist' us in keeping in touch, but unfortunately often seems to replace moments spent together with friends and family.

Agnes N. (703)
Sunday January 6, 2013, 1:16 pm
Thanks Frank

. (0)
Sunday January 6, 2013, 1:52 pm
A very straightforward idea but nonetheless one that we forget all too often. Thank you for a very interesting post Frank.

Rose Becke (140)
Sunday January 6, 2013, 1:54 pm
Thanks Frank

Carlene V. (202)
Sunday January 6, 2013, 2:07 pm
Should be true of every culture. Thanks Frank

Yvonne White (229)
Sunday January 6, 2013, 2:38 pm
Amen Frank! Though my family is more Germanic in cultural make-up, we try to be more "loving" - hugs & kisses goodnight & good-byes..:)

Dandelion G. (386)
Sunday January 6, 2013, 2:41 pm
Thanks Frank as is with everything, balance is the key.

Technology is a wonderful thing, it brings people from all around the world into each others living rooms, it allows the disabled to communicate on a more level playing field, it allows the lonely to find someone to talk to, it allows those who are confined within their homes be it for health or financial reasons to connect with others allowing a life and a way to still contribute towards society.

But when we misuse any technology it then can become an isolating feature, isolation from the friends in our physical life, or our family that is within our own homes. So balance is key......

Frank S. (505)
Sunday January 6, 2013, 3:22 pm
Thanks guys! So true Dandelion, that is exactly my point of view also. Especially when it comes to our loved ones, we should not compromise but instead share our love and affection fully with them, thanks.

Susan L. (150)
Sunday January 6, 2013, 4:35 pm
I agree - and admit that I have noticed the same thing, even within my family. Parents and children alike are on one form of electronic device or another. I try to contain my time to the evenings or when I am 'alone'. My daughter brought the kids over today so she and her husband could go watch a game together. She said the new rule at their home is now 1 hour of game time, regardless of the device. They can read on the Kendel, but if they have used their hour, that's all they get besides being able to read on it. I thought it was a great idea! - Now, I hope she will follow her own rules ;-)

Tamara Hayes (185)
Sunday January 6, 2013, 7:19 pm
You definitely hit the nail on the head with this article Frank. I live with my best friend and her family, and from the moment she and her husband get home from work, they both get on their computers. Her 20 yr old daughter is home all day and only comes out of her room to either eat, refill her water bottle or use the restroom. She is on her computer all day long. She comes out when her mom gets home for a little while and then back to her room she goes. With every place I have lived, I stay with caregivers, each family is the same. The younger generation seems to have been born with cell phones in their hands. I have had this conversation with many people and it just does not seem to bother them that they are not developing interpersonal relationships or that they lack skills that will be necessary for working in almost any job. We live in an automated, wi-fi enabled, drive thru society and you almost have to make an appointment just to have a conversation with someone.

Susanne R. (237)
Sunday January 6, 2013, 9:15 pm
Bravo, Frank! Your point was demonstrated to me very clearly over the Christmas holidays. I invited my husband's brother and his wife over for dinner, along with my children and grandchildren, so they could spend some quality time together. My 8-year old granddaughter brought her new iPod and my 5-year old grandson brought his new DSL-3D. Not having children of their own, my sister- and brother-in-law were not familiar with these new technologies. My sister-in-law picked up the iPod and asked, "What do you do with this?" I had absolutely no idea. Our youngest grandson, who just turned two, walked over to her, turned it on, and quickly completed all the steps to start a game of "Angry Birds." She was amazed. I was sad. It was like a reality check to me. I had to admit that my grandchildren spend much too much time playing with these gadgets. Granted, their parents only allow them to play educational or skill-building games, but they're still spending less time interacting socially. This is an important issue, and one that I will take up --very delicately-- with my daughter and son-in-law.

Susanne R. (237)
Sunday January 6, 2013, 9:19 pm
I forgot to say "thank you," Frank, for writing and posting this very important article! Excellent job! A green star is headed your way.

Animae C. (517)
Sunday January 6, 2013, 10:46 pm
Well said Frank & well said Dandelion, finding the middle path has been my goal,
it's a balancing act where there's always room for reassesment & improvement.

Judy C. (104)
Monday January 7, 2013, 1:31 am
Thank you for sharing this article with us, Frank. The points you make are very important. I see these behaviors all around me. In fact, I can be guilty of spending too much time with technology, too. My 10-year-old granddaughter lives with me. She has said a couple of times, "Grandma, you're on the computer too much". Since then, I make sure to pay extra attention to her, and to my daughter (her mom). My granddaughter is very physically active, and would rather play with her friends outside, than anything. We have always limited the content and time she can spend watching tv, and she can take or leave video games. She can only go online sitting at the same table with me. Those precious times we have with family will never come again. Thanks for reminding us!

Frank S. (505)
Monday January 7, 2013, 7:20 am
Thank you Judy, that is precisely the meaning behind the article, because although technology is truly wonderful, sometimes the line between losing oneself in it and human personal interaction is blurred and that is where the danger lies.

Cheryl O. (82)
Monday January 7, 2013, 11:36 am
Wow great message. I appreciate this message, I am a blogger as well. So many times people don't write about topics that really matter. This blog matters and pertains to all people. TY so much. I tried to comment on the blog itself, for some reason I couldn't. Thanks Frank

Robert O. (12)
Monday January 7, 2013, 12:27 pm
Thanks Frank.

Gene Jacobson (285)
Monday January 7, 2013, 12:29 pm
Thank you Frank. And you're right, the way of the modern world doesn't fit well with actual human contact. Great article, I hope your message gets through - everywhere. :^)

Terrie Williams (799)
Monday January 7, 2013, 3:56 pm
Thank you, Frank. Very well said and well written.

Frank S. (505)
Monday January 7, 2013, 5:08 pm
Thanks to everyone for your input on this important subject. I just wish wish I could send a million green stars to each one of you!

greenplanet e. (155)
Monday January 7, 2013, 7:27 pm
A nice article, thanks. Technology can't replace loving actions in person!

Kit B. (276)
Monday January 7, 2013, 8:22 pm

Well said Frank and so true. In the time it would take to have coffee or tea with a friend or relative, we gain a world of insight, we reconnect with the humanity that inside each of us. Looking someone in the eyes while they speak, holding the hand of a friend in pain, giving a much needed hug - that is what being human is all about. I couldn't respond sooner as I have spent a few days busy with my son and his wife. They are making me a grandma - now that is what life is about. (I haven't been on the computer in days.)

We have been on this forward march to technology for over 100 years, let's not lose sight of the humanity within. Computers and cell phones are fine but, for are our use, not a replacement for human contact.

Julia R. (295)
Monday January 7, 2013, 8:44 pm
I loved your article Frank and thank you for writing it. How true are your thoughts and words! Technology can never replace human interaction with our family and friends. I think all of us get so distracted by technology and all of its entrappings, that we often forget how valuable it is to actually meet with those that we love and are connected to on real personal basis- for the sake of both our happiness and health. We need to spend more time doing this and less time at our computers and with are smart phones trying to simulate that which just can't be simulated or replaced with actual contact- touching, eye contact and giving of our true selves and not just a trace of ourselves!

Lynn Squance (236)
Tuesday January 8, 2013, 6:55 pm
As Benjamin Franklin said: "A place for everything, and everything in its place."

Technology has its place but we must take care that it does not usurp our intellect, our time, and our relationships.

I didn't get my 1st cell phone until 2005 and it is used mostly for emergencies or times when I'm out and absolutely must contact someone. I think my carrier must love me because in the almost 8 years I've had it, I don't think I've used up my original 1500 free minutes.

I e-mail my brother, and we occassionally talk on the telephone, but he is in Toronto while I am in Vancouver, so quite understandable. But my mother is quite a different story.

My mother lives in a 24/7 nursing facility that cares for Alzheimer's and dementia patients. I see her at least once a week and her face just lights up when I arrive She is now at a stage where she is starting to forget how to chew food, and she has already forgotten how to use a spoon, so when I see her, I stay and feed her in the diningroom. Afterwards, we just sit and be. This is our quality time together.

When I think back over the years, I always lived quite a distance from my mother so talking on the phone was the main contact. I would not trade our relationship for anything now. She would not understand a telephone call. Half the time she does not understand what is said even about the most simple things. So touching and holding and sight are our main means of communication.

Please don't anyone forget that part, no matter how awkward you may feel.

When my grandfather was in the hospital the week before he died (99.5 years), he grabbed my arm and pulled me closer. At that point he could not talk and it was unlike him to do this. Later upon thinking about it, I came to the conclusion that my grandfather wanted to be held, wanted to feel the touch of family. I loved my grandfather dearly and knew him very well, but oobviously not well enough at that time. But what I did do is learn so as I cared for a friend who was dying of cancer, I held her close to my body so she could have support and feel my warmth. In the hospital, we were holding hands when she passed.

No technology can replace these memories and these feelings.

Thanks Frank.

Frank S. (505)
Wednesday January 9, 2013, 6:17 am
Thank you Lynn, stories like yours are why we should never allow technology to dominate our lives completely. I believe sometimes in our hectic 21st century lifestyle that we can indeed begin to lose touch with what humanity is really all about. Thanks again, for sharing those touching stories of love and the importance of human interaction.

Geynell Eskite (68)
Wednesday January 9, 2013, 4:57 pm
Lovely article, Frank.

Paul Girardin (126)
Wednesday January 9, 2013, 10:04 pm
Thanks for sharing this article with us, Frank.

No e mail can replace a hug and kiss, no chat message can say I love you better than your own voice and no computer program can replace the joys of human contact.

Michela M. (4008)
Saturday January 12, 2013, 8:25 am
THANKS!!! Noted!!

Elizabeth Fuller (134)
Sunday January 13, 2013, 9:48 am
Thank you Frank, yes, we all need to spend more time with our family, especially the elders as they are not going to be around for ever and we will never forgive ourselves when it is too late and they have passed on...the time is now.

natalie n. (164)
Friday February 8, 2013, 10:39 pm
its a very beautiful message frank, we should never lose sight of our purpose in life.
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