Saturday October 5, 2013, 3:49 am
Republicans aren’t talking about about repealing ObamaCare any more. It appears that is no longer the current reason for the shut down. Now their widdle feelings are hurt, because their temper tantrum has not gotten them what they could earn in Congress, couldn’t win in 2012, and couldn’t get from the Republican dominated Supreme Court. They think they’re getting no respect.
Saturday October 5, 2013, 6:24 am
Apparently the lessons on how to earn respect went missing for them--here is a good example of how they could proceed to get respect [note how many the House GOP/TP have done opposite/not done since 2010]:
10 Ways To Earn the Respect of Others
Have you ever met someone who was rude to you and didn't hold you with much regard? How did you feel? Did you feel annoyed? Peeved?
If you are a self respecting individual, chances are you want others to treat you with respect. And you know what, age isn't a prerequisite nor is it a magic key to gaining respect. I've seen plenty of people who are young be highly respected from their elders. I've also come across older people who I'd never respect because their actions are so out of line. It's about how you conduct yourself, your attitudes towards others and your actions.
Regardless of whether you are a teenager, a student, a new member in your team/company, or someone starting out in the industry, you can be well respected by others. In this post, I share 10 ways on how you can be a well respected person. These 10 ways can be carried out no matter who you are:
Be good at what you do
In every field of work, the most highly regarded people are those who are the best at what they do. Everyone loves competent people, especially those who present their best work all the time. If you're just starting out in your profession, that doesn't mean you're not deserving of respect. It's about starting small and building from there.
When I started my personal development blog 2 years ago, no one knew me. Of my early audience, I remember some people would discount my work because of my age, saying I had no experience and shouldn't writing on such topics. Such comments are normal since they didn't know who I was, just my age and my brief background. Rather than letting these stop me, I built my reputation, one step at a time, via producing the best content and planting seeds everywhere. Over time, people began to register the value I was providing and they developed respect for what I was doing. Today, I have many readers and coaching clients who are older than me, and that's because they recognize my abilities and what I have to offer.
It's through gaining experience and improving that you establish yourself as the best and earn the respect from others. It's not an overnight process, but the respect people have of you after that will be steadfast.
Respect is 2-way. If you want others to respect you, you've to respect others first. If you've ever come across someone who isn't being respectful to you, I invite you to think of just one person you're not being respectful to in your life now. Chances you'll find at least someone. Rather than harp on how people are not respectful to you, work on being respectful to those people you're treating shabbily. It'll help you reach new heights in your relationship with others. Whenever someone is rude to me, I think of how I might be rude to someone else and mend that relationship. It's creates a positive shift in my relationships.
Honor what you say
No one likes a dishonest or unreliable person. A well respected individual is one who is honest in his/her communications and can be trusted to do what he/she promised. I believe integrity is the first step to being our highest self. I always ensure I live up to my commitments and deliver beyond what I promise. If due to some reason you can't honor your commitments, make sure you address them accordingly to the other party and make up for it.
Be open to criticisms
Contrary to popular belief, being respected doesn't mean you won't receive criticism. In fact, it's quite the opposite. The more known you are in your work, the more criticisms you'll receive. My blog readership has grown over 4 times in the last 6 months. Just as I've received a lot more positive feedback than before on my posts, I'm also receiving more criticisms. It's not about rejecting criticisms but about being able to handle criticisms gracefully. People respect someone who is able to handle negative feedback and turn it into something positive. If you need pointers, here are 8 Ways To Deal With Critical People.
Treat yourself with respect
It's funny that many of us seek respect from others, yet we don't even respect ourselves. Have you ever beaten yourself up before? Do you love yourself wholly and unconditionally? Do you treat yourself poorly by not getting enough sleep, proper diet or exercise? If you don't respect yourself, you can't hope to get respect from others. Start off by loving yourself. The love from others will come subsequently.
Conduct yourself professionally
This includes dressing well, being well-mannered, using appropriate language and having social etiquette. If you haven't attended a social etiquette class before, it'll be useful to do so. Even if you intuitively know what they teach in the class, it's great as reinforcement. I attended a few etiquette classes when I was a student, including wine appreciation, dining etiquette, how to conduct yourself in a 1st meeting, etc. I personally found it helpful. The things taught inside are not rocket science by any means, but it helps to practice them in an actual setting and know what are the do's and do-not's.
Don't bad mouth others
Whether it's in a professional or social setting, it's not appropriate to bad mouth people. You certainly don't earn respect this way. If you're unhappy with a certain individual and what he/she is doing, talk to him/her and work things out. Don't talk behind his/her back. This is the kind of behavior that attracts gossip and negativity. Not only does it reflect badly on you as a person, it also hurts the other party, whether you realize it or not. Be honest and transparent in your communications.
Stand up for what you believe in
Have you ever come across people who simply agree with whatever others say without much thought? I have, and it gets meaningless after a while as they just say yes to everything. Personally, I have more respect for someone who disagrees (civilly) and stands up for himself/herself than someone who parrots others. Likewise, it is by having your own opinion and a mind of your own that you get respect from others. Don't be afraid to stand up for what you believe in. At the same time, make sure you do it in a respectful manner to others.
Along the same lines as #8, be yourself. It's better to be an original version of yourself than an exact duplicate of someone else. People respect individuals who are original. Too many people try too hard to be someone else they are not and in the end they don't have a sense of identity. Discover who you are and what you stand for. What the world needs are more people who are true to themselves, not clones of each other.
Be a role model to others
Actions speak louder than words. Are you a role model to others by way of your behavior? Do you uphold yourself to the highest code of conduct? You gain respect by walking the talk. The most respected person is the one who inspires others to achieve their best and enables them to unlock their highest potential.
How about you? Do any of the 10 methods above resonate with you? Do you have any personal experiences on how to cultivate respect from others? Feel free to share in the comments area.
[Celestine Chua] Written on 7/31/2009 by Celestine Chua. Celestine writes at Personal Excellence, where she shares her best advice on how to achieve personal excellence and live your best life.
Saturday October 5, 2013, 6:34 am
Because they're corporate shill sellouts and a national embarrasment on bigotry, racism, education, science, religious views, Human rights, civil rights, the constitution, democracy and of course any time they open their lying stupid mouths.
Saturday October 5, 2013, 8:29 am
LOL! Out f the mouths of babes "We have to get something out of this," he said. "And I don’t know what that even is.": Rep. Marlin Stutzman (R-Indiana). Maybe Indiana wants you, but the rest of America needs real help!
Saturday October 5, 2013, 10:04 am
I think the Colbert Report did a fantastic job on this.....Stephen offers a wrapped box of "something". Well I don't want to spoil it, here is the link below. It is the very beginning of his show I speak upon, or you can move the cursor to 2 minutes and start the piece right off.
The Colbert Report offers the Republicans SOMETHING
Saturday October 5, 2013, 10:26 am
I liked Obama's answer, too - how that man keeps his cool with these knuckleheads is beyond me. Respect is not given automatically, dumb Tea Partiers.... you have to earn it and you have most certainly not done that.
Saturday October 5, 2013, 10:37 am
What the Repugs ought to get out of this (and WHY do they HAVE to get anything that they would like?) is a thorough thrashing in the next election.
I have read, in the past, and I have subsequently passed it on here, but can again: The Republican Party is not capable of governing.
They are capable of making noises about being "for the people," just listen to Boehner...but look carefully at his facial expressions, the man is a shit faced liar! Am I a naive, to be upset by that? Check out his financial holdings, tell me he is not immersed in HUGE conflict of interest issues! I'm sorry, Plutocracy is not Democracy.
The GOP is capable of making those noises, as they strip more and more of the wealth, and social value of America from "the people."
Saturday October 5, 2013, 10:44 am
Needless to say, there is nothing that the GOP has shown, in sooo long, that encourages the minutest bit of respect for them.
I once read that the party foisted Palin on McCain...either way, he chose, or they chose... respect? That imbecile was on a Presidential ticket!!! "You betch'a!" And on, and on .
Creationist fools, blathering about biblical fairy tales in congress: "there can't be such a thing as global warming, God would not allow that." Yeah, just as He might not have allowed Acid Rain!
Well, of course this is not about Obama care, we knew that. Just like Rick Perry is not really against abortion, but, is in favor of his sister owning all the abortion clinics. There is always a hidden agenda and folks this is our weakest area. We think because someone says this is the problem, that they mean it - we have to learn to kick over the rocks to find the hidden agenda. I respect direct honest people, that just omitted most politicians.
How is this for Machiavellian?
Hot Mic Catches Rand Paul, Mitch McConnell Discussing Their Actual Government Shutdown Concerns
Senate Minority Leader Mitch McConnell (R-Ky.) and Sen. Rand Paul (R-Ky.) were caught on a hot mic Wednesday discussing talking-points for the shutdown by local news station WPSD 6.
"I just did CNN and I just go over and over again 'We're willing to compromise. We're willing to negotiate.' I think... I don't think they poll tested we won't negotiate. I think it's awful for [Democrats] to say that over and over again," Paul said.
"Yeah, I do too and I, and I just came back from that two hour meeting with them and that, and that was basically the same view privately as it was publicly," McConnell agreed.
Paul added, "I think if we keep saying, 'We wanted to defund it. We fought for that and that we're willing to compromise on this', I think they can't, we're gonna, I think... well, I know we don't want to be here, but we're gonna win this, I think."
The comments give an inside look at the messaging strategy as Republicans hope to force Democrats to agree to a government funding bill that would also dismantle or delay parts of Obamacare, the health care reform law passed in 2010 and upheld by the Supreme Court in 2012, months before President Barack Obama cruised to victory in a presidential election in which the measure was a key issue. Democrats, including Obama, have said they won't negotiate on the issue, and have called for Republicans to pass a clean measure to fully reopen the government.
There is a storm coming in to the Gulf of Mexico and guess who those southern tea party states expect to help them in case of damage. Yep! Gov-mint, the same government that they claim they do not need. What if they knocked on FEMA's door and no one answered? Red States SUCK government funding at nearly 3 dollars to one dollar for blue states, but they hate government? Will someone pleased explain the concept of biting the hand that feeds you.
Saturday October 5, 2013, 12:33 pm
"We have to get something out of this," he said. "And I don’t know what that even is."… LOL. Fantastic, give Michael Grimm a prize, please. Democrats should no longer pester everyone with e-mails for money to support them, but for money to keep Grimm in the public eye as much as possible and to evoke jewels like this one after the other. With a fellow party member like this, who needs enemies? Obama's speech writers never had it so easy! In soccer terms: that's scoring in front of an open goal.
Saturday October 5, 2013, 12:37 pm
Given the behavior of the Republicans in congress they don't deserve any respect the dysfunction that has become part and parcel of the Republican mindset, whose though processes are so discordant that they are now like Don Quixote tilting at windmills of the their own imagination. In what world is it acceptable to shut down the government and hold the economy hostage simply because a bill you don't like and that they've failed to repeal nearly 40 times is about to go into effect? Given that Ted Cruz showed his stupidity in that he didn't even get the moral a Dr Seuss story so don't expect any enlightenment as the Republican use statistics like a drunk uses a lamppost less for illumination and more for support though they appear to be using it to piss against.
Saturday October 5, 2013, 1:14 pm
I liked this comment in the article - Earth to Republicans! Earth to Republicans!! Hello? Is there anyone under those tin-foil hats? The CR is NOT about respect for you. It’s about the respect millions you are harming. You have already received far more respect than you deserve, but if you want even MORE respect, EARN it! Stop the terrorism, respect the American people, pass a clean CR, and agree to pay for what YOU already spent.
Saturday October 5, 2013, 1:21 pm
I'm amazed by the stupidity of the GOP/TParty - both young "freshmen" and old codgers! Just give them a moment and they will definitely say something unbelievably ridiculous! God, the people of this country need to wake the hell up! Of course, they were to watch any news other than Faux NEws - they might discover the truth.
God bless Rachel Maddow. I have more respect for her than anyone on the news today!
Saturday October 5, 2013, 7:24 pm
If they really want respect, here's an idea, RESIGN! Don't say another word, just throw in the towel and tell America that she is much better off without them. I know I would respect that! TY Tom
Saturday October 5, 2013, 7:34 pm
For those who like Tamara's idea and want to suggest resignation to Boehner directly, email messages (I suggest using respectful words):
Saturday October 5, 2013, 8:16 pm
GEE!, They want respect???!!!!! The Fascist Teabaggers. who do not respect the Office of President, the Majority who voted for him. The morons who who egged on the "Birthers", the Morons who did not speak up against racist placards at rallies. The spineless, heartless bastards who don't respect the poor, the hungry, the sick, the first responders from 911, the Sandy victims, the unemployed, etc., etc,, etc.... They DARE to ask for RESPECT????!!!!!!!! WHAT A JOKE! They get NOTHING until they earn it.
Saturday October 5, 2013, 9:03 pm
One of the CNN commentators had a hostage negotiator on her panel today, explaining how to deal with a hostage situtation, and relating the shutdown to just that. This is what has become of the House, it is a haven for terrorists who are holding the country hostage, and they don't even know what they want, they just want to prove that they can.
“We’re not going to be disrespected… We have to get something out of this. And I don’t know what that even is.”
Where was the Republicanus/Teabagger respect for women and children when they shutdown the additional aid of the WIC programme?
Where was the Republicanus/Teabagger respect for veterans who are left without support and benefits?
Where was the Republicanus/Teabagger respect for veterans who desparately need assistance but can't get it because the bureaucracy to assess their applications is shutdown.
Where was the Republicanus/Teabagger respect for police and fire persons in Washington, DC when there were no funds to keep these essential services up and running courtesy of the shutdown?
Where was the Republicanus/Teabagger respect for the elderly when they shutdown the Meals on Wheels programme, a vital service to many elderly people?
Where was the Republicanus/Teabagger respect for children when they shutdown Head Start?
You can keep adding to the list.
To paraphrase John Housemen from a 1979 Smith Barney commercial:
"They get respect the old-fashioned way. They earn it."
It is about time that the Republicanus/Teabaggers started to respect the American people, ALL the people and do the work they were elected to do rather than whine and carry on like a bunch of over paid nit-wits. The Republicanus/Teabaggers need to learn that respect is earned. They have not earned the respect of the American people.
It seems that the Republicanus/Teabaggers have trouble with the concept of respect and their own self-importance. As Newty whined in 1995, he was disrespected by President Clinton when Newty and Bob Dole were asked to exit Air Force One by the rear door. So what did he do? As he says, he shutdown the government.
Going back to Stutzman (R – IN) again: "… We have to get something out of this…."
What the hell do you want? You're already getting a paycheque which is better than 800,000 federal employees are getting. And in my estimation, you did not earn that either.
Show respect for Republicanus/Teabaggers in 2014 and 2016 by putting all of them in the unemployment lines. Maybe then they'll learn about respect.
Saturday October 5, 2013, 10:58 pm
Republicans were either born stupid or took lessons! They don't deserve respect,Respect must be EARNED!! Everyone knows that they are fools, they keep opening their mouths & confirming it. They shoud SOCK IT.
Sunday October 6, 2013, 3:55 am
They do not deserve any respect of any kind....ever. Deep down, they know it too. How.....they whine about it. Someone who has respect and is treated with respect doesn't whine about getting some...ever. They also treat others with respect...something the baggers have never and will never do....hence, they bully and then demand respect or whine about not having it after having bullied, badgered or instilled fear. None of which is ever worthy of respect.
Sunday October 6, 2013, 6:57 am
I have nothing but contempt for these GOP traitors. They are a threat to what is left of our democracy, and should all be locked up for treason (which is defined as "the crime of betraying one's country").
Sunday October 6, 2013, 7:52 am
Yes Avril, they continue to do nothing as usual. Just mooch and freeload off the Anerican public, collecting paychecks as though it's their Entitlement...but an Entitlement without earning it.
Sunday October 6, 2013, 9:28 am
How can you respect anyone who constantly does nothing positively constructive but continuously degrade and pass legislature that hurts the very people they are in office to represent. It's an easy guaranteed paycheck, that's all, and they are there only for their own interests. Obama has earned my respect ~ he's now the President I always dreamed he could be.
Sunday October 6, 2013, 1:09 pm
Cruel and Unusual Politics:
The words most frequently used to describe House Republicans these days are CRAZY and STUPID. And it’s not just the Liberal columnists and Democratic politicians who are questioning the GOP’s basic sanity and I.Q. No less than the editorial board of The Wall Street Journal characterized the latest scheme to defund ObamaCare by threatening an imminent government shut down as inept and a Kamikaze mission. Karl Rove called it ill-conceived and North Carolina’s Richard Burr castigated it as the dumbest idea he had ever heard of, which says quite a lot coming from a senator who introduced a ridiculous bill to abolish the EPA.
The name calling makes for good t.v., and the GOP crack up no doubt thrills many a progressive. All the Senate Democrats and several Republicans are opposed to this latest Tea Party hostage taking plot, so the chances it will succeed in gutting ObamaCare are nonexistent. Now that the government is shut down the rest of the GOP will realize the futility of this gambit and the damage it will do to their electoral odds. But all of this attention to congressional procedures and electoral point scoring misses something quite profound about what the GOP has proposed in the past few months: a chilly cruel vision of a society in which tens of millions struggle to survive in abject misery while the richest of the rich get richer. Call it Elysium in the real world,2013.
Indeed, the day before the House voted to defund the Affordable Care Act, it passed a farm bill that would cut $40 million from the Federal food stamp program which helps to feed 48 million Americans, 3 million of whom would immediately lose their benefits if the GOP get it’s way. Conservatives like Paul Ryan berated the program for lulling able bodied Americans into a culture of independency. The program, however, provides on the average just $4.45 a day, and most of it’s beneficiaries are children, the elderly and the disabled. The GOP demanded that food stamp recipients find jobs or participate in job-training programs. But it’s the same House republicans who have failed to pass a single jobs bill, while also voting to cut job training programs. The message, then, to the 17 million Americans who struggle to find enough food to eat is quite simple-time to starve.
Likewise,if the Affordable Care Act were to be scrapped, the GOP has no solution for Americans who lack affordable coverage or have pre-existing conditions. Once again, the implicit message is that people should simply submit to the vicissitudes of the free market-the society should just let our uninsured die. And the recent campaign to persuade young Americans not to enroll in ObamaCare, while deriding for it’s clownish execution , has a dark intent: actively encouraging young people not to seek health care.
Republicans may very well, not succeed in enacting these miserable policies, but they are winning the larger debate: The Democratic counter offer to the GOP food stamp proposal was a modest $4.5 billion reduction. There has been zero discussion of the serious need to expand benefits. Similarly, Democrats have failed to mount a credible challenge to the crippling sequester cuts. In short, the debate in Washington still accepts the false framework that government is spending too much, with Democrats relegated to doing damage control. With the GOP threatening a debt ceiling breach, it’s time for more Democrats to join the progressive Caucus, supporting it’s powerful case for an active government that fights for ordinary Americans.
Monday October 7, 2013, 11:20 am
Have the Repugs supporters all had a frontal lobotomy not to listen to this – or perhaps if listening they don't understand what the words mean? Why on earth don't they desert these seditionists in droves? They said two years ago (as you pointed out TC) that it was their INTENTION to shut down the government if elected…. case closed – sedition!