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Children Flourish in LGBTQ Families


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JL
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According to the American Psychological Association (APA), "Research has shown that the adjustment, development, and psychological well-being of children is unrelated to parental sexual orientation, & that the children of lesbian and gay parents are as



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JL A. (272)
Friday March 22, 2013, 3:31 pm

Children Flourish in LGBTQ Families
by More Light Presbyterians on March 9, 2013
LGBTQ Family

“My moms have shown me and the world what a lasting, loving relationship can look like. And when I think of my own wedding, I can’t imagine two better role models to base a family around than my moms.” ~Brian Arsenault, Children’s Voices Amicus Brief: Proposition 8 & DOMA Cases

According to the American Psychological Association (APA), “Research has shown that the adjustment, development, and psychological well-being of children is unrelated to parental sexual orientation, and that the children of lesbian and gay parents are as likely as those of heterosexual parents to flourish.” A recent study by family experts at the University of Cambridge confirms this conclusion by the APA. In addition, the Williams Institute completed a study showing that as many as 6 million American children and adults have an LGBTQ parent.

Discrimination against LGBTQ families, like the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) and Proposition 8, deprives children of the benefits, rights, and privileges enjoyed with heterosexual married couples. This is one of the key points in the amicus brief filed with the Supreme Court by Proposition 8 litigators David Boies and Theodore Olson:

Proposition 8 thus places the full force of California’s constitution behind the stigma that gays and lesbians, and their relationships, are not “okay,” that their life commitments “are not as highly valued as opposite-sex relationships,” Pet. App. 262a, and that gay and lesbian individuals are different, less worthy, and not equal under the law. That “generates a feeling of inferiority” among gay men and lesbians – especially their children – “that may affect their hearts and minds in a way unlikely ever to be undone.” Brown v. Bd. Of Educ., 347 U.S. 483, 494 (1954).

The Williams Institute study, “LGBT Parenting in the United States,” concludes that “an estimated 3 million LGBT Americans have had a child and as many as 6 million American children and adults have an LGBT parent.“

Other study results include:

More than 125,000 same-sex couple households (19%) include nearly 220,000 children under age 18.
More than 111,000 same-sex couples are raising an estimated 170,000 biological, step, or adopted children.
Same-sex couples raising children are four times more likely than their different-sex counterparts to be raising an adopted child. An estimated 16,000 same-sex couples are raising more than 22,000 adopted children in the US.
Same-sex couples are six times more likely than their different-sex counterparts to be raising foster children. Approximately 2,600 same-sex couples are raising an estimated 3,400 foster children in the US.
More than a quarter of same-sex couples raising children (25.6%) include children identified as grandchildren, siblings, or other children who are related or unrelated to one of the spouses or partners. Approximately 32,000 same-sex couple households include more than 48,000 such children.
Same-sex couple parents and their children are more likely to be racial and ethnic minorities.

The University of Cambridge study concludes, “It appears that children with same-sex adoptive parents are no more likely to suffer from psychological disorders than children with heterosexual adoptive parents.”

Centre for Family Research director Susan Golombok comments:

“The anxieties about the potentially negative effects for children of being placed with gay fathers seem to be, from our study, unfounded.”

She added: “Overall we found markedly more similarities than differences in experiences between family types.

The differences that did emerge relate to levels of depressive symptoms in parents, which are especially low for gay fathers, and the contrasting pathways to adoption which was second choice for many of the heterosexual and some lesbian parents – but first choice for all but one of the gay parents.”

“Their relationship, which started when I was 7 years old, was such an important example of what a loving, committed relationship should look like that I never thought to question it.” ~Ella Robinson, daughter of Bishop Gene Robinson, Children’s Voices Amicus Brief: Proposition 8 & DOMA Cases (pdf)
 

Allan Yorkowitz (452)
Friday March 22, 2013, 4:16 pm
I have written about this before, but it needs to be re-stated. Children raised in same sex households produce higher standardized test scores than those from hetero/ single family households. Ninety percent go to college, and GRADUATE.
There are a lot of theories, and studies on this issue. The one factor that rises above all is these children grew up in stable households...what a kick in the a** to parents who feel they are doing an adequate job regardless of their commitment to being proper parents.
As a teacher, divorced parents are the lowest form overall in parenting. It's usually about their hate for each other, and the child suffers mentally, socially, educationally.
 

JL A. (272)
Friday March 22, 2013, 4:18 pm
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Carol D. (104)
Friday March 22, 2013, 4:40 pm
I do agree that when same sex couples are in a relationship its always a more stable one i've no idea why so this must be a good thing for any child
 

Terry V. (30)
Friday March 22, 2013, 5:57 pm
Good role models = good parents

TEACH YOUR CHILDREN
 

JL A. (272)
Friday March 22, 2013, 6:02 pm
Thanks for the video link Terry! And thank you Carol and Terry for your observations.
 

Kit B. (277)
Friday March 22, 2013, 6:03 pm

In fifty years people will wonder why we had this long debate over this issue. The future will mock us, and we are deserving.

Good parents do not come out of package, "ready to use" parenting is a life long commitment. As I a teacher I do agree with Allan. Children of divorced couples are those who are paying the price. No one is ready to be a parent, we should probably require a parenting class in high school. Give students a heads up that it is not just a baby. The baby year is short, fraught with sleepless nights and a dramatic change in lifestyle. There is no substitute for parents sitting with children and reading, talking about "things in general" being at the table while home work is being done. It comes down to trust, and to get trust you must earn it, being a parent is not easy. It is however, rewarding beyond anything else I have accomplished.
 

JL A. (272)
Friday March 22, 2013, 6:06 pm
Thank you for the blend of observations and solutions Kit. You cannot currently send a star to Kit because you have done so within the last day.
 

Glenn Byrnes (194)
Friday March 22, 2013, 8:05 pm
Interesting. Thank you.
 

JL A. (272)
Friday March 22, 2013, 8:13 pm
You are welcome Glenn
 

Past Member (0)
Friday March 22, 2013, 8:13 pm
Great artifle, but I think children should have a more tradtional family structure, a mother and a father.
 

JL A. (272)
Friday March 22, 2013, 8:22 pm
The reality is that in the US a minority of children have a more traditional family structure and we as a country to very little to support families--and Congress is reduce that small amount radically just now. We should be thankful that more children have access to two good parents in a stable relationship vs. traditional that may not be good parenting or may not be stable.
 

John B. (215)
Friday March 22, 2013, 8:51 pm
Thanks J.L. for posting and sharing this article. Now if we could get the marriage equality opponents to read it. Read and noted.
 

JL A. (272)
Friday March 22, 2013, 8:52 pm
You are welcome John. We may need to have enlightened people share the information with them one by one John.You cannot currently send a star to John because you have done so within the last day
 

Jerry B. (120)
Friday March 22, 2013, 9:07 pm
Noted excellent article..thanks JL.
 

tiffany t. (147)
Friday March 22, 2013, 9:12 pm
if a family is happy, healthy, productive, supportive, it does not matter the sex of the people living in the house raising a child with love
 

JL A. (272)
Friday March 22, 2013, 9:19 pm
You are welcome Jerry.
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Sherri G. (111)
Friday March 22, 2013, 10:24 pm
Love, compassion, support, integrity, understanding, patience, setting a good example, affection, stability, and willingness to listen, will raise a good child and productive citizen. Whether those traits come in parents of the same sex or opposite sex couples, science shows, makes little difference to the child. The sexuality of their parents is not an issue with children. Rather children suffer when and if their parents are inconsistent in their parenting or they, as a couple, are unstable. Children will suffer whenever parents fail to show their children love, understanding, etc. whether they are same sex or opposite sex couples. Diversity is the basis of our country. This country is founded on equality for all. Everything is natural to all species on the planet. We all grow when we can embrace the differences in each other without judgment. Thanks JL for sharing this with us.
 

Gloria picchetti (287)
Saturday March 23, 2013, 7:51 am
I am certain a couple lesbians or a couple gays would have raised me much better than I was raised. In fact I don't even think of my childhood as being raised. It was more like beaten and threatened in submission.
 

JL A. (272)
Saturday March 23, 2013, 7:55 am
You are welcome Sherri.
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Beth M. (244)
Saturday March 23, 2013, 11:51 am
Children need love, guidance and a stable family life. Their parents sexual identity has nothing to do with parenting skills.
 

JL A. (272)
Saturday March 23, 2013, 12:03 pm
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Anne F. (17)
Saturday March 23, 2013, 5:59 pm
Thanks Beth. WE know that little people need big people. Guidance in a stable home benefits children. Sexual identity of parents matter less than honesty, kindness, and common sense.
 

Mitchell D. (129)
Saturday March 23, 2013, 6:41 pm
thank you Beth, and Anne.
I am thrilled to read of this APA report, and I like John's idea. Perhaps someone in congress ought to read this into the Congressional Record.
 

JL A. (272)
Saturday March 23, 2013, 6:52 pm
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pam w. (191)
Saturday March 23, 2013, 9:57 pm
OF COURSE!

Only the homophobes would doubt this....there's NOTHING so lovely as a genuinely "wanted" child!
 

Holly Lawrence (473)
Sunday March 24, 2013, 6:52 pm
ABOUT TIME !!!!!!
 

Lynn Squance (227)
Tuesday March 26, 2013, 10:37 pm
I always like hearing Zach Wahls. He is passionate, articulate, and spot on, spot on not out of theory, but out of experience.

Family = Love + Commitment + Relationship

In Rumania and in Russia, children in orphanages have suffered, and why? Because of the lack of touch and above all, the lack of LOVE. In the making of healthy children, the most important ingredient is LOVE.

@ Laura Saxon --- Does a more 'traditional' family structure provide more love? That's what kids need --- LOVE! I come from that traditional structure and it proved unstable when my father left us. I was told my father didn't love me anymore. No, children need unconditional love from a parent or parents, whether those parents be male/female or same sex.
 

JL A. (272)
Wednesday March 27, 2013, 7:41 am
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