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Teen Relationship Turns Abusive ... and Worse


Society & Culture  (tags: Society, Teen dating, violence, abuse, crime, death, safety, sadness )

Dee
- 132 days ago - abcnews.go.com
At First, Andrew Allred Treated Girlfriend Nicely, Friends Say. Then He Turned Criminal. Tiffany Barwick's parents still wonder how they missed the signs. How did they so seriously misjudge their daughter's new boyfriend?
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Dee C. (502)
Saturday June 27, 2009, 4:18 pm
"In high school, Tiffany was spirited and outgoing, and loved acting. At 19, she left her hometown of Ocala, Fla., for the University of Central Florida in Orlando. There she met Andrew Allred, whom her parents deemed a little bit odd.

"When he'd come to the house, you'd have to tell him to sit down, you know, otherwise he would stand over by the door," Tiffany's mom, Kim Barwick said.

Tiffany and Allred's friends didn't always understand his weird behavior, either."

Read more and see video..
 

Jim Phillips (2576)
Sunday June 28, 2009, 11:10 pm
Both families believe these tragic events might have been prevented if an officer had spoken with Allred.

This is a major flaw with police departments all around the country. The police do not give much credence to abusive relationships, marital domestic abuse even when the women have a restraining order against the men. The main reason is that the police themselves, whatever the percentages may be, are the abusers in their own relationships.

TY, Dee.
 

Pam Rhia S. (149)
Monday June 29, 2009, 7:18 am
This happens so often and we do need legislation in all states to protect these women! Sometimes I feel it is almost an epidemic. Laws need to be in place and enforced. Tx seems to be the worlds worst with certain parts of areas really NOT taking this type of violence seriously. It has improved since I was a victim of Domestic Violence, but stronger law enforcement is truly needed.
 

Melissa W. (4)
Monday June 29, 2009, 12:51 pm
How awful
 

Mandi T. (253)
Monday June 29, 2009, 6:09 pm
This is happening more and more. It's just terrible.
Tx Dee
 

Marena Chen (192)
Monday June 29, 2009, 10:05 pm
There was a movie some years ago called "none would have guessed" (or something close to it) based on a true story of a teenage school boy who constantly abused and ended up killing his girlfriend. How terribly sad that this was not an isolated case.
 

Past Member (0)
Monday June 29, 2009, 10:43 pm
Day by day this kind of things going more. For this we all need to take a strong step.
 

C Million (123)
Tuesday June 30, 2009, 2:50 am
Man. As I just watched & Read the 20/20 story, It brought back memories of when I was 17-19. All the damn stupid things that me & my best friend done. The same stuff these 2 best friends were doing. Drinking & Driving. It just really breaks my heart knowing I could have or my best friend could have killed me or I had killed her or somebody else could have been killed. I'm just really really mad at myself right now. Just the thought of taking someones life due to a stupid decision that was made to drive under the influence. How freaking stupid of me.
 

Winefred M. (66)
Tuesday June 30, 2009, 8:40 am
I watched the video and what gets to me are the authorities, the young girl call and ask for help and a restraining order for her boyfriend and there was no action taken. I think is always good to take complaints seriously form teens and do not brush it off with oh boyfriend/girlfriend thing. Abuse starts at a young age you can tell an abuser by his behaviour. I therefore blame the authorities for her death. Too bad she lost her life it could have been prevented.
 

Dee C. (502)
Monday July 6, 2009, 2:27 pm
I do wish the authorities had stepped in too..However..I doubt it would have prevented this tragedy..as sooner or later he would have snapped..

Legally at the very most she could have been given an order of protection..He would have gotten a serious warning..Unfortunately..as many of us know..that in itself does not..will not stop someone so determined to harm another..

It is so important for parents to teach their children..and not only teach them but be a good positive example to them..To ensure that they grow up strong within and that they never allow or subject themselves to abusive behavior..be it verbal or physical..
Simply know the danger signs and once you see them..back off..have nothing to do with the abusive person..

It is a sad shame..

 

Dee C. (502)
Monday July 6, 2009, 2:41 pm
One more mention on the authorities..in all fairness to them..far too often they are called on these DV issues..and they go nowhere..Charges are often dropped..so it never even gets to court..some people turn on the police for doing their job..And even some who have the orders of protection will allow the abuser back into their lives/home..It is a very difficult situation for all involved..
As I said yes..I agree that they should have investigated the complaint..and none of us really knows if they had intended to do so..

I disagree that it is because a percentage of police are abusers themselves..Abusers are in every walk of life..and there are good in every walk of life..Not a good thing to lump one or the other all together in one box..

The situation with Domestic violence cases is so bad..that the laws were changed..It used to be only if the victim was willing to charge the abuser..Now and for quite some time..any LE can make an arrest based on what they see..regardless of what the victims choose to put up with..

Those that are abused and continue to allow themselves to be really need to stop and get some help..No one should be abused ever..

Thank you all for your notes and comments on this..I really appreciate the feedback here..It is such an important subject..especially with teens..As it seems to be a serious and very dangerous rising problem..
 
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