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Science Suggests There Is No Such Thing As Everlasting Love


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Agnes
- 447 days ago - inquisitr.com
How do you define love? It's an important question with Valentine's Day less than a month away. Love can be defined as an unselfish devotion; a munificent concern and compassion for the good of another. Traditionally, we either think of an unconditional



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David C. (29)
Saturday January 26, 2013, 11:39 pm
Fredrickson asserts you have to physically be with the person to experience a moment of positivity. She means in the same space, in person, otherwise you are not in love.
I still love my wife, four years after she die, sorry madam you do not stop loving someone just because they are not in the same room!
 

ellen m. (233)
Sunday January 27, 2013, 2:47 am
I'm not buying into this either...love cannot be dissected into little pieces and studied as an exact, and science is wasted on trying to understand it...just let it be. ♥
 

Freya H. (287)
Sunday January 27, 2013, 8:17 am
Hogwash. You hear all the time about couples who stuck it out for decade after decade. There is a reason why party stores sell merchandise for 50th wedding anniversaries.
 

Black Wolf (7)
Sunday January 27, 2013, 8:39 am
Love is undefineable, weird and abstract. Leave it be.
 

Theodore Shayne (56)
Sunday January 27, 2013, 10:36 am
Ah yes love; the indefinable moment when two individuals look across at each other - pheromones flying, exciting the hormonal synapses in the brain; sanity taking a roller coaster ride on passion's whirlwind; all those months or years until one day you look across the kitchen table at this stranger eating breakfast. You think, do I know you; do I want to or do I want to walk away? At that point love is a partnership that has to be worked at. It is a business. Children might prolong its existence although children often become casualties and that is the real sadness. Children should never be made to feel like expendable assets.
Many marriages or relationships will fail while others flourish even over many years. It depends on whether you want to work at it; whether you are willing to negotiate and accommodate in order to grow individually and as a team. If your heart was truly breaking you would be in hospital or the morgue BTW because everything is controlled through your brain. Change your thinking.
My apologies for being cynical and McCartney may write silly songs in order to prolong a career that should have ended forty years ago because as long as you keep buying that crap he and others like him will keep making it. Give me Beethoven any day or Borodin or Rimsky-Korsakov for crying out loud.
 

Past Member (0)
Sunday January 27, 2013, 2:33 pm
Science can suggest it, but doesn't mean we have to believe it. :op If love was so scientific wouldn't we all be masters of it- would like to think there is an element of magic in love combined with an element of unknown. Love has no method.
 

Joanne Dixon (34)
Sunday January 27, 2013, 5:52 pm
Theodore, I am also a Beethoven fan, and I believe he wrote music dedicated to his "Immortal Beloved," did he not? It appears to me that the "working at it" just needs to begin a lot sooner than you suggested, such as while you are still on the roller coaster, so that it may slow down, but you don't need to get off. While you are listening to Beethoven, check out his opera "Fidelio," including the libretto which I believe he also wrote.
 

Brad Kraus (6)
Sunday January 27, 2013, 6:23 pm
As a scientist, I can not believe you can quantify something such as love. Part of the problem with humanity is the desire to quantify and define things rather than experience and accept them.
 

june t. (62)
Sunday January 27, 2013, 11:11 pm
My parents were married 65 years. The following is about some friends of his who he got to know when he lived in the Yukon as a young man. They taught my dad how to make snow shoes. Maybe they also taught him - indirectly, how to be married for over 80 years. We never hear so much about these folks, the ones who live in small towns and aren't known outside their community, but since my parents weren't included in this study, then I doubt this couple with the 80 year marriage were included either. So if science suggests there is no such thing as everlasting love, I know my dad would have laughed at that.

One of territory's oldest residents dies by STEPHANIE WADDELL

A Whitehorse Star Archive story originally published March 22, 2002

Dawson City must bid farewell to one of its oldest and most respected elders. Joe Henry died late Wednesday night with his family by his side at Whitehorse General Hospital after suffering a heart attack earlier in the day. Today, his family and friends are remembering the mark the 103-year-old left on the community and their lives. With too many accomplishments to list off, Debbie Nagano, elder coordinator for the Tr'ondek Hwech'in First Nation in Dawson, described him as a happy-go-lucky elder. She remembered about a month-and-a-half ago the concern people around the community felt after he broke his hip and had a pin put in it. But, in true Yukon style, Henry wanted to go on a dog sled ride instead of letting the physical setback get to him. He took about a two-kilometre trek in the dog sled with his daughter, who rode the sled while Henry yelled directions from in the sled. "He was (103), but his mind and body sure wasn't," said Nagano. She remembered him always joking and laughing with others. A trapper and hunter, their oldest surviving son, Percy Henry, remembers as a child always wanting to go out with his dad. I wanted to be there in case anything happened to him, Percy said in an interview this morning. Joe Henry also made his own snowshoes, a skill he passed down to his children and grandchildren. Born in 1898, at the height of the Gold Rush, Henry learned the traditional ways of his people. He also worked on constructing boats before he married Annie around 1921. The marriage was arranged, and it lasted longer than some people's lifetime- 81 years. In an interview during the couple's 70th wedding anniversary, Percy Henry told the Star his parents were married sometime between 1919 and 1921, but because records weren't kept as much at that time, the exact date is unknown. The 1921 date was adopted by the family as the date. "They been together a long time," said Percy Henry of his parents. Both Annie and Joe Henry were raised in the Ogilvie mountains. In the mid-1930s, they settled in Moosehide, now an abandoned village, approximately five kilometres down the Yukon River from Dawson. Joe Henry worked on the boats, acted as a guide in the bush and was also a longshoreman on the Dawson waterfront. He continued to hunt and trap as well during his many jobs. He was a hard worker, Percy Henry said. When the Dempster Highway was built, Joe Henry guided the engineers on the project. This morning, Percy Henry recalled his father saying that the guiding expedition for the Dempster had been "good exercise". "He worked for quite a while," Percy Henry said. The family moved to Dawson after Moosehide had been abandoned. The move allowed the two youngest brothers of the 12 siblings to go to school after the government closed the school in Moosehide in 1957. The years Joe and Annie Henry spent together were not always easy. In a previous interview, Percy Henry cited the deaths of children and grandchildren, some to accidents and diseases, some to suicide as some of the more difficult times the family had over the years. "The only way I can figure how they can accept all the tough times they went through...they must have really believed in something," he said. Joe Henry was also involved in the finding of Jack London's cabin. "Joe was quite favoured," said Nagano of the Tr'ondeck Hwetch'in community. He also held the honour of being the oldest member of the Dawson first nation. Nagano estimated there are about 100 direct descendants of Joe Henry. Percy Henry said the family was still working on funeral plans for the elder.


 

ellen m. (233)
Sunday January 27, 2013, 11:53 pm
June, thank you so much for sharing that! ;-D
 

Alice C. (1797)
Monday January 28, 2013, 4:12 am
There's a song about everlasting love.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u3AXKjlH4rQ
 

Mari 's (1367)
Monday January 28, 2013, 5:30 am
They are only suggesting.... putting the question out there.
 

Lloyd H. (46)
Monday January 28, 2013, 6:54 am
Oh, please! Take one look at the 51+% divorce rate in the USA, then you can add in the stalkers, the abusers and the control freaks and either you need a new definition or a new brain. And no sorry you can not simply define all of those who have different approaches to love as deranged, suicide on your loved ones funeral pyre, or Romeo and Juliet with poison, duels to the death, S&M, D&D, separate beds for decades and on and on and on. Any one that claims to know the answer is either delusional or ready to profit from your perceived problems. If it works for you and yours is all that matters, opposite sex, same sex, monogamy or any of the other variants. The point is form and norm are irrelevant only the result matters.
 

Helle H. (21)
Monday January 28, 2013, 8:45 am
Nonsens, you can't define love.
 

Scott haakon (3)
Monday January 28, 2013, 4:26 pm
Now fpr better divorce laws making divorce cheap and easily available. With each individual going away with what they earned.
 

Carol H. (229)
Monday January 28, 2013, 4:48 pm
not true!! thanks Agnes, noted
 

g d c. (0)
Monday January 28, 2013, 7:01 pm
hmmm
 

Melania Padilla (165)
Tuesday January 29, 2013, 12:36 pm
Thanks, thinking about what is love for a long time.... But in any case, enjoy it!!!
 

Marlene Dinkins (225)
Wednesday January 30, 2013, 2:45 pm
Hmmm!!!! noted thnx
 
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