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Father Disowns Daughter in Epic Letter When She Kicks Out Her Gay Son

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"Dear Christine," he wrote. "I'm disappointed in you as a daughter. You're correct that we have a 'shame in the family,' but mistaken about what it is. Kicking Chad out of your home simply because he told you he was gay is the real 'abomination' here."

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P A (117)
Thursday October 3, 2013, 10:19 am
I saw in one of the comments about this excellent letter that the commenter is skeptical of things like this on the net that have no back story - but having agreed with that, if this isn't real, then it REALLY deserves to be! Thanks Carrie

JL A (281)
Thursday October 3, 2013, 10:45 am
If a father showed such an example of love of grandson to chastise a wayward unloving mother this way, I'd give him kudos--especially if he took the son into his home.

Sheila D (194)
Thursday October 3, 2013, 2:00 pm
If this is real, kudos to grandfather. If not, agree with Pat, it should be.

Fred Boulton (14)
Thursday October 3, 2013, 8:45 pm
The letter is here:

Susanne R (235)
Thursday October 3, 2013, 11:00 pm
This mother doesn't deserve her son. If she can't accept him as he is, then she isn't much of a mother. I'm sure he'll be much better off with his grandfather. You have to wonder where the mother got her hatred and intolerance from --because it obviously wasn't from her father!

Susanne R (235)
Thursday October 3, 2013, 11:02 pm
I forgot to add: He should have abandoned her for being a bigot and a poor example.

SusanAWAY Allen (219)
Friday October 4, 2013, 9:57 pm
What a mother :(

Dogan Ozkan (5)
Friday October 4, 2013, 10:36 pm
noted shame

Glenn Byrnes (197)
Saturday October 5, 2013, 12:34 am
Serves her right. Now she has a taste of her own medicine. I wonder how her husband feels about it.

Athena F (131)
Saturday October 5, 2013, 2:40 am
Noted, thanks!

neena beeharry (0)
Saturday October 5, 2013, 4:38 am
followed the link and i could see the full story, amazing man, really touching, as for the mother well i think the grandfathers acceptance will help the boy deal with it :)

Marilyn K (50)
Saturday October 5, 2013, 5:34 am
This father correctly chastised his daughter. I hope he gave his grandson a home with him and got some educational books for his daughter to read.

. (0)
Saturday October 5, 2013, 7:12 am
Good for him! Thanks for sharing.

Donna Hamilton (159)
Saturday October 5, 2013, 9:09 am
Well said, Sir!

Hope this man's daughter can see the error of her ways and is eventually reunited with her son (if he can bring himself to forgive her).

Kathleen R (138)
Saturday October 5, 2013, 12:28 pm

Winnie A (179)
Saturday October 5, 2013, 12:42 pm
There is nothing wrong with being gay. Never has been, never will be.

Isabelle J (81)
Saturday October 5, 2013, 1:27 pm
That's a good father !

Elizabeth M (65)
Saturday October 5, 2013, 1:36 pm
Noted. What a great letter. Kudos to this Grandfather!
Thank You Carrie.

Bette-Ann Libin (11)
Saturday October 5, 2013, 1:55 pm
I don't get is 2013 not 1913!

LOVE makes a FAMILY whoever or whatever we happen to BE...


Birgit W (160)
Saturday October 5, 2013, 2:07 pm
Very sad that families have to get divided in this way. I dearly hope that the daughter is going to change her mind.

ewoud k (68)
Saturday October 5, 2013, 2:31 pm
The old man did a good thing, but on the other hand he failed in raising his daughter.

This broke up a family, sad.

Hope the daughter will think things over.

Thanks for posting Carrie!

Lori Udenberg (3)
Saturday October 5, 2013, 4:53 pm
This woman obviously did not get her attitude towards gay people from her father.How can a parent be that heartless.I'm sure it took a lot of courage for this young man to tell her the truth.It is so great that her father took him in and told his daughter that she was so wrong.

Azaima A (207)
Saturday October 5, 2013, 4:53 pm
good for him. My parents were the opposite with me

Robyn Vorsa (4)
Saturday October 5, 2013, 5:05 pm
I read this on Upworthy. I thought it was beautiful. I would go to bat for my kids and grandkids as well.
Not that I would have to, my middle daughter is gay and she is loved and knows that her family support her.

Kate Kenner (215)
Saturday October 5, 2013, 5:49 pm
I also read this on Upworthy and thought it a commendable thing that he did. I'm sure he wasn't easy but he stood up for his convictions and his grandson. how sad that his mother could not accept her son for who he is. Hopefully she will open her mind and heart and give him the love and acceptance he should have. in the end it is she who loses.

Mitchell D (87)
Saturday October 5, 2013, 6:52 pm
I still have some of Pat's discomfort with the story, in part because of the phenomenal photo on "Raw," but I have been wrong before.
One way, or the other, i love the story line.

PrimaAWAY B (1278)
Saturday October 5, 2013, 8:04 pm
I saw the letter online. I think he did the right thing. I was quite impressed.
Thanks for posting.

Jonathan Harper (0)
Sunday October 6, 2013, 12:41 am

Frances Darcy (133)
Sunday October 6, 2013, 2:01 am
noted.... we grand-parents are there to step in when parents make mistakes..

Lloyd H (46)
Sunday October 6, 2013, 4:45 am
The unfortunate thing is that now Christine is going to be become the newest money making Martyr for the NOM et alia of the Christian Taliban of America.

Lynne Buckley (0)
Sunday October 6, 2013, 12:17 pm
Wonderful letter. Good for him.

Sheila D (28)
Sunday October 6, 2013, 1:55 pm
Comments after the article show how some people just don't "get it". This young man was very brave to come out to his homophobic mother; fortunately, the rest of the family has more common sense. Those who profess to be Christians and who insist homosexuals are "bad" should look at Jesus' message; "love one another as I have loved you." The grandfather is the true Christian.

Rose Becke (141)
Sunday October 6, 2013, 3:57 pm
God for him

Rose Becke (141)
Sunday October 6, 2013, 3:57 pm

Twyla Sparks (208)
Sunday October 6, 2013, 6:11 pm
Not to many dads like that anymore.. He is a good man.

Roger G (154)
Sunday October 6, 2013, 6:28 pm
noted, thanks

patrica and edw jones (190)
Monday October 7, 2013, 1:42 am
'Do unto others'....this will result in Karma for this woman who shunned her son.

Julie W (32)
Monday October 7, 2013, 2:57 am
He's a lucky boy, to have a granddad like that. Not so lucky in the mother department though.

Irene S (69)
Monday October 7, 2013, 3:00 am
Luckily, Chad has got a grandfather like this!

Marija M (29)
Monday October 7, 2013, 5:36 am
Thank you for posting this letter, very touching

Nancy Crouse (5)
Monday October 7, 2013, 10:13 am
He is right to do this as I wish I could have someone bring my parents upo short for disowning me.

Esther Z (94)
Monday October 7, 2013, 12:43 pm
This mother needs to learn how to be a mom, like how to unconditionally love your son. Sad outcome, but at least this young man has a new life with a terrific grandfather!

cynthia l (207)
Tuesday October 8, 2013, 3:49 am
Right On Grampa Still it boogles my mind when parents reject their children for them being gay. As if they had a choice in the matter. I wish everyone had a understanding Gramps to help them deal and love them uncondionally

Anna Undebeck (256)
Tuesday October 8, 2013, 5:04 am
What a stupid ignorant mother. Thank godness her dad had a brain and a heart. Thank you Carrie.

Past Member (0)
Tuesday October 8, 2013, 6:49 am
Short and sweet and to the point ~ I love it! What a great grandfather!

Dan(iel) M (25)
Tuesday October 8, 2013, 7:51 am
KUDOS to Grandpa.

Wayne z (5)
Tuesday October 8, 2013, 10:42 am
Thanks grandpa for supporting your grandson. Your daughter should learn to accept what the is. Times have changed and we must accept are kids no matter what they are.

Ingo Schreiner (8)
Tuesday October 15, 2013, 1:29 am
great great great grandfather

Pamela W (75)
Saturday October 26, 2013, 1:19 pm
Noted this one as it should be read by more people !! I think the last line of his letter was very well put too ....
"“If you find your heart, give us a call,” he concluded." ...... that will hit her more than the rest !!

Susanne R (235)
Saturday October 26, 2013, 4:07 pm
Well said, Pamela! I couldn't agree more!

Deborah W (6)
Sunday October 27, 2013, 11:23 am
The best and worst of parenting. Love and nurturing, planting roots, allowing flight vs abandonment when needed most. Judgement is not part of the parent's role (guidance accepted or rejected is allowed), with the final decision left up to one's own self, they own it.
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