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13 years ago
Attitude

There once was  a woman who woke up one morning,
looked in the mirror,
and noticed  she had only three hairs on her head.

Well," she said, "I think  I'll braid my hair today?"
So she did
and
she
had
a  
wonderful
day.


The next day she woke up,
looked in the mirror
and  saw that she had only two hairs on her head.

"H-M-M," she said,  
"I think I'll part my hair down the middle today?"
So she did  
and
she
had
a
grand
day.


T! he next day she woke up,
looked in the mirror and  noticed that she had only one hair on her head.

"Well," she said,  
"today I'm going to wear my hair in a pony tail."
So she did  
and
she
had
a
fun,
fun
day.


The next day she woke up,
looked in the mirror and  noticed that there wasn't a single hair on her head.

"YEA!" she  exclaimed,
"I don't have to fix my hair  today!"


Attitude  is everything.

Be  kinder than necessary,
for everyone  you meet is fighting some kind of battle.

Live  simply,

Love generously,

Care deeply,

Speak kindly.......

Leave the rest to God
13 years ago

Rosie, that is a wonderful post! I can only hope for that kind of an attitude! My hair is is about three inches below my waist and when I cut it, I will be donating to cancer patients for a wig. They require about 12 inchs of hair. 

Love & Peace

More attitude...
13 years ago
Thank you Ms. Mata! It was sent to me in an email from my aunt in Minnesota and I thought it was so beautiful and so uplifting that I had to share it with my friends here in this group.

I wish I'd had some of your hair for a wig when I was bald from chemo. My wig was not real hair-too expensive. But on behalf of current and former cancer patients, I thank you for your generous and personal donation.


13 years ago

 Oh, Rosie...I didn't know and I am so sorry that you had to go through chemo. I hope everything is fine with you, now.

Love & Peace

A Hairy Comment
13 years ago
I am fine now. In fact this November will be 5 years! Woo Hoo! Thanks for your good thoughts!

Onward and Upward!
13 years ago

Yay! I'll bet it was that positive attitude! YOU are the Sunflower! Growing tall and strong, as well as onward and upward.

Love & Peace

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13 years ago
Beautiful topic. I will blue-pin it so as to think more of it when I’ll be back online. Great attitude! This week I saw what is means to have no hair and even worse, to start to lose the new hair after the second session of chemo. Those who can stand firm in this situation are really strong souls!
Great story, thanks
12 years ago

Here is another one for you,

One Mid-Summer Saturday Morning, it is pouring down rain...

In the city, an avid golfer looks out his window and says, "Darn, its raining!  That kills my day of Golf!"

In a distant county, a farmer looks out his window about the same time and says, "Wonderful!  Thank you Lord!  My crops will grow and all my babies will get some relief from the heat.

It depends on how you look at each scenario of course. 

Personally I believe raindrops are part of the 'reminder of the promise' for the plants and flowers of the field.  When they feel that, they again Know.

God Bless,

Don

Thanks Don!
12 years ago

In Bergen, Norway, there is a holyday called “the festival of the rain” or something like this. I saw this on TV. They celebrate the rain and the wealthy it brings to the citizens of Norway. And keep in mind that the west coast of Scandinavia is a very wet – it has an oceanic-polar climate. But rain means green lush vegetation, it means hydroelectric power, it means a lot more things.

Well, during that holiday it happened to be a sunny day, with no rain at all. You know what happened? They brought in the place where the gathering took place a fire-engine loaded with water and a fireman splashed the crowd with a lot of water. Everyone was happy and was dancing in that false rain.

Considering it rains almost daily in Bergen, those are people with a healthy attitude about rain; they learned to respect, value and even love it.

After that day, when I saw the festival on TV, I used to say every rainy morning that it’s a beautiful day. Still, nobody in my family can understand me.

Attitude is everything..
12 years ago
With negative attitude our life might seem like a half empty glass and with possitive- like a half full. That's not a new idea. Just sometimes people forget about it. Me too.

What kind of life I heve got? Half Full or Half Empty? Sure, I've got much more than lots of poorer and less educated, less fortunate with health or even looks. But being surrounded with people who tend to grumble about life's misfortunes all the time one becomes the same pesimist as the others, or even worse. And the smallest misfortune seems to be the end of the life.

One recent example. It was the morning of American Thansgiving day. We don't celebrate Thanksgiving here but having an American friend I had high expectations for that day. Unfortunately life circumstances fell so that we had very little time to communicate and see each other a few days before and in that morning as well. And his schedule for that day seemed to be not compatable with my dreams about the perfect Thanksgiving in his company. Sure, I didn't tell him a word about my disapointment but he didn't need any words. he saw sadness in my eyes and asked about the reasons. I told it's just another blue day and he seemed to be ok with that. I was almost crying when we parted (or maybe did cry, I don't remember now. But I was really really depressed then, that's for sure) I couldn't help thinking how unhappy I am that I can't spend Holidays with him and that it's what I always have- no one except my father to celebrate holidays with, no one to lean on while sitting on the sofa and watching telly, no one to kiss when romantic mood catches, no one to hug wishing happy holidays... I'm almost 37 and I'm still alone... and even now when I have someone who cares for me more than anyone ever did I'm still alone because he's not with me yet, he's far apart and has own life that makes own corrwctions to any plans we do make. I even started to daubt his feelings and attitude towards me and our relationship.

But then I opened my care2 page (wanted to add a new tune to it) and found the comment from one old friend telling that I should thank the God for what I have and trust God for what I need and that God hasn't forgotten me....it was kind of ironical 'cos these words came from the guy who had broken my heart less than a year ago... and hadn't communicated with me since July or so. But these words turned something inside of me, they made me look at everything from the other perspective. I understood that self-pitiness is the worst attitude I could have, especially with so much of everything I've got at this point of my life! Yes, I can't say where the road of my life goes.. not right now...  but it goes through some very wonderful period and i should cherish every moment of it!

My american friend IMed me soon after I made that change in my attitude. He said he's worried how I was feeling and if everything was ok here. It made my heart warm again and I told him what I have just wrote about Half full and Half empty phylosophy and about everything (not mentioning the reasons of my sadnes ) and i told him that I've got a lot , maybe more than I could imagine for this point of my life and that I'm really thankful for that. To which he said: "Me too" and invited me to spend Tanksgiving evening together. He said that he'd been invirted to have dinner with his ex and their daughter (her daughter) but he declined the invite, and that he'd rather spend time with me even if we can't really be together. He was cooking Thanksgiving dinner and I was watching him on cam it was unusual experience, and it was fun. Then we chatted a lot, lost count of time It was close to the morning here in LT when we parted, sad that we can't be together for real yet and that time to part always comes but happy that we could be together at least via Internet. God bless the Internet??

So much about the attitude. Things are as good and nice as good and nice we see them .
Attitude you bring to life
12 years ago

I am happy to hear of your successful outcome Rosie.  Recently, I was at an art museum, and a husband had an exhibit dedicated to his wife who had ovarian cancer.  It was heart wrenching to see this heart felt display.  She contributed to it as well before her passing. 

It opened my eyes to see those who suffer with this.  She wanted to convey that she had gone through many transformations while dealing with this and she felt that this had made her stronger. 

"Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happens." 
Kahlil Gibran

12 years ago

attitude, thereīs an alternative to every thing.

no blind faith in what we read, no matter the subject or field. I weigh up and sort it all out some time...I never sneer at hints, at least in connection with tips for health...

Rosie, hat off, you donīt sound as if you had a chemo, if I understood well. Only a positive attitude can help, it has healing powers...

Said, no blind faith in things at the beginning above here; I owe just a great deal of knowledge to all the printed things over the years, but itīs most important to be critical and pose oneself questions, which way to go, find out which is the best. I for one use only nature products...Hair got me speaking; I mean to say, I wouldnīt care if my hair turned white tomorrow. In other words, if my hairīs still black -"sort of"-, well I owe this to an attitude...We need to consult a doctor, doubtless,  but look somewhere else too, we may encounter wonders...

Attitude, also we need what we read everyday, we just need it, for a chat on the side walk, but we  also need to know that itīs not always the whole story...In however far.

Cross to Heavy
12 years ago

I'm sure many have heard this before, but it is a beautiful reminder:
A young man was at the end of his rope, seeing no way out, he dropped to his knees in prayer.
"Lord, I can't go on," he said. "I have too heavy a cross to bear."

The Lord replied, "My son, if you can't bear its weight, just place your cross inside this room.
Then, open that other door and pick out any cross you wish."
The man was filled with relief and said, "Thank you Lord," and he did as he was told.

Upon entering the other room, he saw many crosses; some so large the tops were not visible. Then, he spotted a tiny cross leaning against a far wall.

"I'd like that one, Lord," he whispered. The Lord replied, "My son, that is the cross you just brought in."
Ausra.
12 years ago
Half full, half empty is how life usually is. If you would ask me a direct question, I would tell you that life is 10% good, 10% bad and 80% neutral. There are bad years, bad months and bad weeks, but there are good ones as well. The secret is to find happiness where there isn’t any and enjoy the funny moments, when they happen. You say you’re surrounded by pessimist people… Avoid them, if possible. Try to change them (by your behaviour/refusal of listening to their imaginary problems) again, if possible. Rajan has a word that you need to surround yourself with like-minded, positive, individuals. You know what is the worst offence I ever heard? One friend of mine, while talking about her colleagues, told me that “they are so uninteresting!” Just imagine how they would have felt… everyone yearns to be special, to be original… it’s horrible to be uninteresting! So, I’m telling you: surround yourself by interesting people; someone from whom you can learn something or hear a good joke. Pessimistic people are usually grey and spiritually poor. Yes, you’ve got a lot more then the average, but you don’t have what you want. It’s like going to the market so as to buy pears and everyone has apples to sell… beautiful, red, yellow, green, big, tasty, cheap, etc., but you need pears and there aren’t any. Some people from the market would give to you apples for free… but yet, you need pears. There is a question I asked myself not so long time ago: why does God give me things I already have and refuses to give me those things I crave for? I still don’t have an answer, but I suppose it’s something about the fact that one must actively fight for what he/she wants. We have a saying in my language: “God gives to you, but He never puts it into your bag”. Maybe it’s true…
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12 years ago
Ramona – thanks for the quote! Mongi – you said: "We need to consult a doctor, doubtless, but look somewhere else too, we may encounter wonders..." This is a good example of open-mindedness. If we keep our mind open to various opinions, we can gain more knowledge than sticking to a verified, but rigid mentality. Valorie – no, this is the first time I read this story. It’s nice.
12 years ago
I agree..I had to go to the doctors and he told me that with my attitude my cup was alway half full..Thanks for the post!
 

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