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Martha Ferris

"To develop relationships and to make a difference"

Wayland, NY, USA
female, age 62
divorced, 4 children
Speaks: english
Joined Nov 3, 2013

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How can we expect our children to stand up to bullying when we, ourselves, do not confront our peers concerning violence and abuse?

I have never been one to seek that which has already been found but always to seek that which is hidden.

"Activism is the rent I pay for living on this planet."

~Alice Walker

"Satisfaction with our lot is not consistent with the intentions of God or with our human nature.  It is our duty to aim at change, at improvement, at perfection.  It is our duty to be discontented with the measure we have of knowledge and virtue, to forget the things behind and press toward those before."  Ralph Waldo Emerson

Having lived through the Roe vs Wade era I have heard the same arguments for forty years. I think that those who are pro life are missing a very important point and that is, that unlike when abortion was first legalized, we now have more choices than ever in preventing pregnancy. The old arguments have outlived their usefulness. There are very few circumstances in which a woman should find herself with an unwanted pregnancy. Yes, we have a right to have total control of our bodies and what happens to them but we also must accept the responsibility of that control. We can't have it both ways and being in control of our bodies means stepping up and preventing unwanted pregnancies.
The other problem I have is that, as feminists, we have fought to be seen as people instead of as objects and that fight continues to this day. We demand to be acknowledged as a person. We fight against language that causes us to be depersonalized and therefore to be used and abused as if we were just another tool in the shed. But then we turn around and instead of calling the products of a pregnancy a baby, which is what it is for it could be nothing else, we depersonalize it by referring to it as as an embryo or a fetus which, it in fact is, but with terms that also allows us to view it an an object and not a person.
How can we demand that society recognize women as people with their own intrinsic value as members of the human race and yet continue to treat an unborn child as if it has no value, as if it were an unwanted growth of cells? How can we deny personhood to another and at the same time demand recognition of our own?

For the last forty years the abortion debate has focused on women and their right to say what happens to their bodies. In the Pro Life movement quite often it is men who are interviewed as to their opinion. It continues to be men in many government and private sectors that make policies that regulate birth control and abortion. In all of this debate the focus has been on women. In this very narrow focus I think we have overlooked a very important point. We have not demanded of men what they, as a gender, will do to prevent unwanted pregnancies. Until policy reflects their equal responsibility to prevent unwanted pregnancies what right do they have to a say or even an opinion?

We have learned, a bit to late in the day, that action springs not from thought but from a readiness for responsibility.....Silence in the face of evil is of itself evil.  Not to speak is to speak.  Not to act is to act.

Dietrich Bonhoeffer

I think the problem that we face currently in being an activist for the rights of others has to do with labels.  I think that labeling ourselves as belonging to a certain group gives us a sense of belonging and the support of other like minded individuals but in a broader perspective it is counter productive.  It sets us apart.  It creates we as "other". Isn't the purpose of all of the various movements the goal that we all should have the same rights as being persons of and belonging to the human race?  Isn't our designating ourselves as belonging to a special interest group counterproductive, in fact undermining what we ultimately want to do?  Or am I only assuming that we want equal rights for all  and not just a special interest group and not just in this country but throughout the world?  Shouldn't every act we take, no matter who it is for, be with the understanding and the commitment toward equal recognition and rights for every individual as a member of the human community?  Shouldn't every act we make as an activist be to further Human Rights, period?

I am puzzled. When did gun ownership + sleeping around + plus excessive alcohol consumption + Christianity become synonymous with the true American patriot?

What has always angered me is that men are held to a different social, moral, and ethical standard than women.  We need to have the same expectations in the moral and ethical arena for all persons regardless of sex.


None of us is perfect. We have all made bad choices, hurtful choices for ourselves and for others. We have all made mistakes but the important thing is to keep on trying to be better knowing that we can change as can others. In knowing that we and others can change lies forgiveness.

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The Charter for Compassion is a cooperative effort to restore not only compassionate thinking but, more important, compassionate action to the center of religious, moral and political life. Compassion is the principled determination to put ourselves in the shoes of the other, and lies at the heart of all religious and ethical systems. 

One of the most urgent tasks of our generation is to build a global community where men and women of all races, nations and ideologies can live together in peace. In our globalized world, everybody has become our neighbor, and the Golden Rule has become an urgent necessity.

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Pro abortionists-at what point in a wanted pregnancy does a fetus become a baby?  Do you have fetus showers?  Are the products of conception a fetus when it is not wanted and a baby when it is?

When does a fetus become a human baby?  6 weeks gestation?  12 weeks?  16 weeks?  20 weeks?  24 weeks?

If women want to have complete say over their bodies then they will take the responsibility to prevent pregnancy and stop hiding behind words that disassociate them from what they are doing.  It's easy to disregard the truth when you refuse to see the reality.

So many pro abortionists vilify those who reject climate change, evolution or any other scientific evidence that does not meet with their chosen belief.  Pro abortionists are no different than the ones they point their fingers at.  It's just a different arena.

You can't pick and choose.  Either you deal with the scientific evidence, that which is provable, or you subscribe to unprovable beliefs.  At least be honest about it.   Stop the double standard. Stop the hypocrisy.  Face the reality of what you have chosen to do and the consequences of that decision.

"To work in the world lovingly means that we are defining what we will be for, rather than reacting to what we are against."
~ Christina Baldwin

In response to posts on another site I offer this:

What I am saying is that statistics show that over 50% of pregnancies are unplanned and that many women have had more than one abortion.  Why is this?  Why in this day and age, when we have more choices than ever to prevent pregnancy, are we getting pregnant when we don't want to be?

Pregnancy just doesn't happen.  It is the result of sexual intercourse.  Unless we are forced into sexual intercourse we consent to participate.  These are the facts and it is the responsible individual who recognizes the facts and actively makes a choice as to the consequences.  Pregnancy is preventable.  Women who get pregnant by choosing not to use contraception have made that choice.  It has nothing to do with punishment and everything to do with responsibility.  Pregnancy is the consequence of not using contraception.  Women who have made a free choice are not victims therefore the abortion card that is being played, in most cases, is not valid.  Women already have the freedom of choice over their own bodies, they have the freedom to choose contraception, but in over 50% of pregnancies they have chosen not to prevent them.

I, and I think many others, are so tired of women somehow trying to convince themselves and others that they are victims in their choices and therefore not responsible for what happens to them especially regarding pregnancy.  Abortion can be prevented in so many cases simply by using contraception each time, every time.  And yes, not to do so is irresponsible.

I, as a woman, hate being viewed as helpless, one who cannot take care of herself or make rational and reasonable choices.  I, and others that have gone before me, have fought on a daily basis to be taken seriously, not to be seen as a child who needs a man to make decisions for me because I lack the emotional stability, the intelligence or the character to make them for myself.  By refusing to take responsibility for our choices we are enabling men to continue to keep us in a dependent role and therefore make decisions for us.  By refusing to use all available means to prevent pregnancy, by leaving conception to the roll of the dice, we are demonstrating that we cannot be responsible.  That we do not have the capacity to govern our lives or our reproduction.  Abortion is the result and proof of our inability to be responsible for ourselves and our choices. 

I am fighting in other arenas to make sure that every woman has access to affordable and available birth control and intensive education to enable women to take responsibility for their own sexuality.  That is the answer to the abortion problem.

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Groups Amnesty International, DUO for World Peace, Defenders of Wildlife, Greenpeace, Habitat for Humanity, International Green Party Discussion Group, Oxfam, WWF - World Wildlife Fund
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What Gives Me Hope Every day is a new day with unknown opportunities.
If I were Mayor, I'd make the world a better place by Make basic health care, education and safe drinking water as my top priorities.
What/who changed my life and why My mother's best friend, Kathryn, for showing me the magic of the garden.
Quotation Be the change you wish to see in the world.-Ghandi
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Where there is no justice there can be no secure peace.
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