Another Football Player Accused Of Rape, Another Community Blaming The Victim

Written by Annie-Rose Strasser

Two football player high school students in Connecticut are charged with the second-degree sexual assault of a 13-year-old girl. The allegations come amid other complaints of hazing at the school, but Torrington High School officials insist that these are individual instances and not a part of a larger cultural problem.

But whether or not the alleged rapists Edgar Gonzalez and Joan Toribio, both 18, are maverick sexual assailants isn’t really the cultural question. Rather, the fact that students in the neighborhood and the school have taken to Twitter blame the young girl and not the alleged rapists highlights a broader rape culture that assumes men are only haphazardly involved in sexual assault, but it is usually the victim’s fault:

“If you look at crime statistics these things happen everywhere and we’re not any different than any other community,” said [Athletic Director Mike McKenna].

But on social media in recent weeks, dozens of athletes and Torrington High School students, male and female, have taunted the 13-year-old victim, calling her a “whore,” criticizing her for “snitching” and “ruining the lives” of the 18-year-old football players, and bullying students who defend her.

The Connecticut Register-Citizen highlights some of the offensive tweets about the girl:

I wanna know why there’s no punishment for young hoes,” asked “@asmedick.” That comment was reposted three times.

Twelve days after the alleged incident, “@AyooWilliam” tweeted, “You destroyed two people’s life.” Another responded, “I hope you got what you wanted.”

“Sticking up for a girl who wanted the D and then snitched? have a seat pleaseeee,” wrote “@ShelbyyKalinski.”

As the case in Steubenville proved, social media has brought a whole new slew of evidence to sexual assault allegations, particularly among young people. Unfortunately, the lesson some news outlets take from this is that Steubenville was “a cautionary tale for teenagers living in today’s digital world.” In reality, social media helps to underline a very real problem: A victim-blaming rape culture that is inclined to take the side of the assailant instead of the victim.

This post was originally published by ThinkProgress.

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.1 years ago

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Sabrina I.
Past Member 4 years ago

Ew, I feel sick ._. how can people be like that?

alex l.
alex l4 years ago

James W - not one person has left men or boys out of the sexual abuse conversation - for the most part they claim, along with rape itself, that it is just a woman's problem. whenever they have been engaged, they generally turn away.

this is just you blaming women once again.

and James? you said "i thought the point of the article was that is was wrong for 18 year olds to have sex with 13 year olds."

no James, it wasn't it was that RAPING CHILDREN IS WRONG.

she didn't "have sex" James, she was RAPED.

perhaps you would like to defend the rapists by saying they just had never been "part of the sexual abuse conversation?"

Nick R.
Nick R4 years ago

Historically, sports figures have been the role models and examples for our young. In recent years, it has been virtually stated that if you can bring a pennant to our city, state, school, etc. then you are above the law and we will not hold you accountable for anything but scoring runs, points, TDs, etc. The total lack of character in modern society and the breakdown of personal integrity is summed up in the words of Goden Greco, "Greed is good." Winning at all cost is a dangerous philosophy and is eating away at the true fabric of society.

James Wilcox
James Wilcox4 years ago

Jennifer C.
Past Member 4 years ago


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Creating a Culture of ACTIVELY OPPOSING and INTERVENING in situations leading to Rape and Sexual Violence.

NOT EVER: A message from Rape Crisis Scotland. Because nobody EVER "asks to be raped".

Please go to this News Item for Video:
We can CREATE A CULTURE where people will feel it's right to INTERVENE in situations leading to Rape and Sexual Violence - rather than doing nothing, watching, tweeting about it, joking about it or walking away.

This will begin to CHANGE PUBLIC CONSCIOUSNESS - and affect the type of "casual" Rapists who think "no means yes" and that rape is "manly".....

Mary B.
Mary B4 years ago

James W.....NO, I didn't miss the point.....if you think most Care 2 readers don't read the things posted, you are are trying to take this thread somewhere to suit YOUR agenda......

Roberta G.
Roberta G4 years ago

James W has a few good points in his many, many, many posts. But whatever he has to say is lost in his anger, abuse of Care2 posters, and accusatory posts. Nobody is going to "listen" to posts that are so antagonistic that they are a pain to read.

ButI do wonder at the cause or causes behind his anger. Was he an abuse survivor? I begin to think he is using Care2 as a form of journaling and/or a psych. couch.

paul m.
paul m4 years ago