Anti-Gay Leader Takes Up Lesbian’s Dinner Invitation


Tony Perkins, head of  the designated anti-LGBT hate group the Family Research Council, has taken up a lesbian equality leader’s invitation to dine with her family.

Reports CNN:

Tony Perkins, who heads the Family Research Council in Washington, received the invitation after telling CNN’s Brooke Baldwin on Thursday that he’d never been to the home of a married same-sex couple.

“My wife and I will be glad to respond when we receive the invitation to find a time that works,” Perkins said in a statement to CNN on Monday, referring to the invitation.


The invitation to Perkins came from Jennifer Chrisler, the executive director of a gay rights group called Family Equality Council. Chrisler and her wife have twin 10-year-old boys, with another child on the way.

Perkins’ group has been a leading force in anti-marriage equality actions in Washington and around the United States. His group has also vociferously protested the repeal of “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell,” claiming that the repeal would sexualize the military and lead to religious soldiers being persecuted for their beliefs.

Extracts from the text of Chrisler’s letter to Tony Perkins appear below:

I watched with interest your appearance on CNN Thursday and I was struck by your steadfast opposition to full equality for the 1 million lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender parents who are raising 2 million children in our country today. It is especially concerning given your lack of meaningful and personal interaction with those families.

I, like you, am a parent. Like you, my spouse and I have shared many years together committed to our family, our community, and to making the world a better place. I imagine we share many of the same joys and struggles in doing the important work of raising our children and contributing meaningfully to our community. We attend church regularly and our children attend Sunday school weekly. We love our children intensely and feel a deep desire to protect and nurture them as they continue along their journey to adulthood. We are also anxiously awaiting the arrival of our third child, due in August, and have worked since his conception to ensure his health and welfare. This is the face of the one million families you have taken no time to get to know.

I think if you could spend meaningful time with any of us, you would find we share many of the same values that you have worked to teach your own children. So it is with that in mind that I come to you with this sincere offer. I would like to extend an open invitation for you and your family to visit my home and have dinner with my spouse and children with the full hope that you will witness the love that exists in our families. While I recognize it may not change your mind, I hope that it might soften your heart.

As Christians, I think we can both agree that ours is not to judge and that we must live by the golden rule. I open my table to you and invite you to get to know me and my family.

LGBT commentators have become increasingly frustrated with the mainstream media’s insistence on treating Tony Perkins as a counter to pro-LGBT rights stances as though his narrow, religious inspired views, which have been called biased by the Southern Poverty Law Centre, are equivalent to evidence-based equality arguments.


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Annmari Lundin
Annmari Lundin5 years ago

Jamie C.: "The bible was written by a bunch of illiterate scared superstitious sheep herders 2000 years ago in the dessert that stoned each other and made up a bunch of laws to control people and slaughtered their neighbors for the least little thing."
Wow! I just love that sentence! I will post it on my wall (with the source mentioned) and just aaaaw it! Thanks for making my day, Jamie C.!

Dylan Thomas
Dylan T5 years ago

i'll say this again and i'll keep saying it as long as it is necessary. you don't have to agree with a person's "lifestyle" to support their right to live it. you don't have to agree with a person's lifestyle to support their right to equality. if you believe homosexuality is a sin, then be straight, but quit denying gay people their right to equality. according to the bible, we are all sinners. are we willing to forfeit our rights to equal protection under the law because of our personal transgressions?
tony perkins is a liar. lying is a sin, so why is he anymore entitled to freedom and equality than gay people. if we base who is entitled to human rights, equality and the protections guaranteed by the constitution on who is a sinner or not, then we might as well live in a dictatorship without freedoms or rights because according to the bible, every single one of us is a sinner. greed is a sin, yet none of the christian right are fighting to turn back citizens united. corporations and the rich have super rights and protections that none of us enjoy. they are greedy. they worship and bow down to a GOLDEN IDOL. they value money and profit over human life and that is a mortal sin.

Linda T.
Linda T5 years ago

I've never had a high opinion of Tony or the work he does against the LGBT community but I must admit if he follows though and actually dines with this family I will be the first to say Bravo Mr. Perkins. Even if it does not change his mind it at least shows an openess that was not their before. Baby steps.

Juliet Defarge
judith sanders5 years ago

He'll just say that her kids are fine, but that she's an exception to the rule, and all other kids in same-sex families are screwed up.

Anita Wisch
Anita Wisch5 years ago

Hopefully he will attend, and open his mind just a little bit.

Barbara S.
Barbara S5 years ago

This is America. Our goal is equality for all Americans. Why can't everyone agree that if some people make decisions you think might send them to Hell, it's their choice - not ours. Sweep your own houses clean, and let others do whatever they feel is right for them. We don't have the right to judge whether love between two other people is right or wrong.

Callie J.
Callie Johnson5 years ago

Memo to Wendy: Homosexual behavior has been seen in most mammal, bird, and even insect species in the wild. In some species that have "harem" behavior (one male, several females), the unattached males hook up with each other. No need to worry about the world reproducing itself; it's been doing quite well so far, even with all of that same sex behavior in animals. And people. It's natural.

Glenna Jones-kachtik
Glenna K5 years ago

You can have 2 dads & 2 moms & siblings or any combination thereof. What matters is if when you come home at the end of the day; that is the place where no matter what - you are loved & accepted & respect is reciprocal. Whether you are male or female - Love knows no bounds nor obstacles. Home is where your heart finds peace & family provides that. It really IS that simple.

Glenna Jones-kachtik
Glenna K5 years ago

Wendy, Wendy ... men nor women for that matter, can wed a child because a child is not old enough nor do they have enough knowledge to consent....dogs, cows, chickens or horses can not consent - even if they love you - they can't sign their names nor consent to marriage. We know we don't marry brothers or siblings because it can carry all kinds of hereditary diseases - up to & including death of the fetus or child in an agonizing way. Life will always find a way. 2 men can pay a woman to be a surrogate - Neil Patrick Harris & his partner have twins they are raising. 2 women can have IVF with 1 or both women's eggs & sperm from a donor they trust...
I am a U U. We are a welcoming congregation. In my church there are: 2 men raising a racially mixed girl of about 7...2 women fostering & adopting a 2 1/2 old & his sister both Hispanic...2 women with an older child who is delightful...All these children are in our congregation - they are healthy, happy & accomplished. They go to school where they achieve good grades & participate in extracurricular activities & they are popular & well liked not to mention well adjusted.
You just don't get it, Wendy. It is about Love, not SEX & it is about Family. Families are not all man, woman, 2.5 children - they are wide & varied in today's society. You may have 2 dads or 2 may have grandparents might have aunts, uncles or even older siblings. You can have 2 dads &

Alice E.
Alice E5 years ago

Any bets, respondents, that this "Wendy" character will not dare to read any of your responses to her stupidity?