Bangladeshi Woman Divorces Husband on Wedding Day in Protest


Written by Rezwan, Global Voices

For centuries dowry has been part of the social system in many parts of the world and in developing countries it is seen as a financial burden for the bride’s family. In several South Asian countries it has been prohibited by law in the past century, but dowry is still widely and illegally practiced.

Each year we hear about dowry-related domestic violence which may end up in the killing of wives by some husbands. A recent protest against dowry is being much discusses and lauded in the social networks in Bangladesh.

11/11/11 was chosen as the dream wedding date of the bride Farzana Yasmin, who works in an insurance company, and the bridegroom Shawkat Ali Khan Hiron, who is a head master of a government primary school. The wedding duly took place last Friday [bn], but during the reception Farzana’s in-laws demanded a TV set, refrigerator, motorbike and a few more things as ‘gifts’ from the bride’s family in presence of the guests.

The bride was stunned to see that her new husband was voicing support for their demands and sent ripples across the country by divorcing him right at the wedding. The relatives of the bridegroom tried to solve the dispute into the night but Farzana stuck to her word.

The bridegroom later wrote in a Facebook status that the truth is that his marriage ended and he apologized to the guests. He also claimed that he did not ask for a dowry. He then launched a smear campaign [bn] against the bride on Facebook. Netizens widely protested this and the hate filled posts were later removed.

Farzana explained:

Dowry has become a cancer of society. I’ve read in newspapers about it and have always wondered why this happens. [..] When it happened right before my eyes, something happened inside me. I felt like speaking up against it and doing something about it…. [..] Maybe I haven’t changed the lives of ten people, but I want people to take the lesson that girls can do something.

She asked that if she, being an educated girl cannot take this decision, who can?

Here is a video of an interview [bn] she gave to local media (uploaded by Priyochannel).

Unheard Voice blog posts translations from the interview:

So what if I got divorced? I don’t need it. I can live by myself. I can never build a home with a man like this… Girls think once you get married you can never leave. They make comments like, how could she get divorced. Why should I live inside a hell when I know it is… We speak against dowry, but it still happens. If I don’t protest now, another five women will not protest against this… You see all these protests, rallies, but it still continues. This society continues to be ruled by men. How could a teacher ask for dowry? What will society learn from a teacher like that? And he is a government teacher. And government talks against dowry. These people need to be punished, they need to be socially ostracized. I am proud to say I walked out, even though I was dressed as bride.

Kowshik was there during the interview and wrote about it in blog [bn]

Listening to her remarkable story. One has to be amazed by her deeds. How many people can take such a brave decision? We hear about domestic violence related to dowry all the time. But such bold stand is a rare phenomenon.

Kowshik’s post attracted many comments. Gias Uddin Bhuiyan congratulated her and said:

Every person in every home should remember this bold step taken by her and the lesson should be applied in our lives. The responsibility doesn’t end only by congratulating her.

Pankaj Chowdhury said:

Farzana, many thanks to you. You have shown that women are not products at markets. They are also human beings and they are independent.

Muktadir S. Hossain comments on an article in the Daily Star:

This is just the beginning. For all those beggars who look for dowry, this is a warning.

Manzor H. sarkar writes:

My full admiration for this girl’s guts and courage and her decisive refusal to the compliance with this century-old stupid tradition or practice of dowry in our sub-continent. She fully realised what type of marriage was going to be installed. It looked like more to a sale deed rather than a bond of matrimony based on mutual trust and love.

The reality is that Farzana is just one odd amongst millions of women who have to live through the ordeals of dowry. When will society wake up?

This post was originally published by Global Voices.


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Latonya W.
Latonya W6 years ago

U go girl!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Christina C.
Christina C.6 years ago

So impressed with this woman right now - hope her message is heard loud and clear, not only over the net, but in her local community. Indeed, if those of us fortunate enough to get an education can't do it, who can? We have to start the change, and not wait for others.

Bold girl, bold moves. I'm sure the community around her is reeling, but I hope she finds happiness and is able to push this initiative forwards.

Trudy C.
T. C6 years ago

She risked so much. Hope her community will admire her for what she did. These greedy families time it on purpose, they figure the brides' families will be so scared of 'what people will say' if this wedding doesn't go through they will cave in to the extortion. All the friends and relatives are there, if the groom walks they'll be humiliated, we have them where we want them, they think. Hah! Farzana is an inspiration. Talk about lion-hearted.

Erika L.
Erika L6 years ago

Good for her, but not an easy stand to take. I hope the repercussions are not too severe. Cultural expectations are very hard to break.

Gloria W.
Gloria W.6 years ago

Thank you!!!

june t.
reft h6 years ago

she's brave, I hope others will follow in her footsteps.

sherry l.
sherry luciano6 years ago

What a brave and bold thing for a woman to do in her country. I wonder if men really understand what she did?

alex l.
alex l6 years ago

bruce s

but i bet she is the one scrubbing the toilets, isn't she?

Ernest R.
Ernest R6 years ago

It sounds a lot like neighboring India, where, if the groom's family finds the dowry insufficient, the new bride ends up burned alive in a "cooking accident". That is as great a danger as reprisals. Would it be racist to say this is a really disgusting group pf people ?

April Thompson
April Thompson6 years ago

Good for her!