Fraternity Asks Members Who Would You Rape?

The Sigma Phi Epsilon fraternity at the University of Vermont has been suspended after circulating a survey that asked fraternity members who, if given the chance, they would want to rape.

The specific question from the survey was: “If you could rape someone, who would it be?”

Members of the fraternity have not commented since the suspension. University officials are also looking into whether or not the matter rises to the level of criminal activity.

The national chapter of the fraternity released the following statement. “The national Fraternity is aware of a situation at the University of Vermont Chapter related to a document that included several inappropriate questions,” the organization stated in a one-paragraph release on its website. “The Fraternity has instructed the chapter to cease all operations, pending further investigation. Sigma Phi Epsilon and its leadership programs are built on the concept of respect for both self and others. Any behavior that demeans women is not tolerated by the Fraternity. National Fraternity representatives, volunteers and university officials are investigating this situation and will take appropriate action to uphold the Fraternity’s values.”

The rape survey marks the second time the fraternity has gotten in trouble for sexist behavior. In 1993 the fraternity’s national office revoked the UVM chapter’s charter after a hazing lawsuit showed videos of pledges being asked to tell a story, a racist joke, and what they would do with a stripper they had seen the night before.

It’s hard to brush this kind of thing off by claiming it’s a joke or the usual “harmless” antics of fraternity life. Members were specifically asked to contemplate committing a sexual assault and to identify their preferred victim. What place does this kind of community have in higher education, exactly?

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EcRo C.
ER C4 years ago

Fi T. .....GREAT COMMENT...... !!!!!!!

EcRo C.
ER C4 years ago

Kinda makes me wonder if the Frat Rats learned about porn when they were little kids. GAG !!!!!

Kevin Brown
Kevin Brown4 years ago

That is just disgusting. Not, "who would you like to make love to" or even "who would you like to have sex with" but rather "who would you rape"?

What kind of mindset asks "who would you like to victimize with a violent felony"?

Fi T.
Past Member 4 years ago

Beware of the use of words

faith v.
faith v4 years ago

Janine, you have all my sympathy.

This article was published in December 2011. I would be very interested in an update on the events. Does the fraternity still exist? Has it revisited its goals and aims, and how it proposes to achieve them?

Seriously, what were they thinking of anyway?

Emma S.
Emma S5 years ago

I know we're all supposed to be very evolved and humane and everything, but - can't we just kill them?

Carolyn B.
Carolyn R5 years ago

"Any behavior that demeans women is not tolerated by the Fraternity." HA!!!! Who do they think they are kidding? Demeaning women seems to be one of the main GOALS of the frat system; they have no more moral character than street gangs. They just pretend the whole thing isn't about binge-drinking, cultivating the the "old boy's network," date rape & exploiting sex-workers to the press.

Disgusting & TOTALLY TYPICAL of frats.

Janine H.
Janine H6 years ago

Always when i hear about terrible things it makes me sad, and i cannot understand how someone could do something terrible - bully, hurt, rape or kill a person or animal. When i was a child this also happened to me... and surviving this is more terrible than not (parents and other may think different, but a victim?), living with all this pain... living with guilty feelings... full with hate for the own self... having one wish, not to wake up at the following day anymore...
No one can understand, because most people cannot imagine this, cannot imagine how much it change. Some of them think, that this would not be so terrible, because all would make some sexual experiences, and so it would not matter if there were some without own interest or wish. This cruel and superficial society makes me sick.

I know that it is not good to wish someone who does terrible things something as a punishment. But when i hear about violent people then i think why are they so "afraid" to go to someone equal and get some hits for their selves. This is a perversion, to think being more a man when beating a woman or a girl. This men are a shame for all normal men.

"We have learned to fly the air like birds and swim the sea like fish, but we have not yet learned the simple art of living together as brothers." (Martin Luther King)

Shannon R.
Shannon R6 years ago

I just hate that guys like this give the whole gender a bad name. Yes, a lot of young men think with their dicks, but some actually have morals and consideration for other people! My husband certainly does, as do my brothers and friends. They were raised to know that behavior like this is unacceptable, regardless of what the person is wearing, whether they are drunk, etc. If they have sisters, mothers or girlfriends who have been raped, they would see firsthand the kind of damage that can do to a person. It's just sad that the *good*, decent young men out there have to 'prove themselves' that much harder because of hormone-soaked morons like these frat guys.

Was in a sexually/psychologically abusive relationship in college

Fred H.
Fred H6 years ago

Christina B says I have no idea what "politically incorrect" means. Wrong. But, perhaps, she has no idea what "fantasy" means.

BTW, Nancy Friday is one of many women who write about women's rape "fantasies." Rape is a crime, Christina. Fantasy is not.