Morning Mix: The “Good Side” and Bad Side of Mommy Wars

The whole “do stay at home moms really work?” fake controversy is mostly at an end, hopefully, and now, like always, it’s analysis time.

The Obama campaign is trying to find a bright side to the blow up.  And for them, it’s that he’s proven that he’s willing to take on people even if they are supposed to be his “friends.” “Doing damage control, White House adviser David Plouffe and Obama campaign adviser David Axelrod made separate appearances Thursday night to contrast Obama’s public response to Rosen to Romney’s response to controversial comments made by conservative talk show host Rush Limbaugh. ‘I think we have an obligation in politics and public life, when someone, even friends, say things that are inappropriate, to say so. In fact, in certain ways, when your friends say it, there is more of an obligation to do so,’ Axelrod said on CNN.”

I guess that could be seen as a silver lining.  But here’s the dark cloud…the comments made by Democratic analyst Hilary Rosen helped bring another face back into the limelight.  Yes, it’s “mama grizzly” Sarah Palin. “‘The comments that Hilary Rosen made today certainly have awakened many Mama Grizzlies across the nation,” Palin said Thursday on Fox News of the Democratic strategist’s remarks. ‘Why is it that some on the left choose to divide, to incite with comments like that instead of just respecting women’s choices and what they want to do with the gifts that God has given them?’”

Incite and divide?  This criticism from the woman who put cross-hairs on her campaign materials?

According to First Read, with three “manufactured controversies” in the last month, it’s a good time to analyze how they play blow up and blow away.  “[W]e talk about the manufactured controversy and not the real story here…. The fact is, these next few months before the conventions are probably going to be filled with these manufactured ‘shiny metal object’ controversies because of what we noted — just how professionalized both political parties are at creating them. And some in the media are easily susceptible to helping these manufactured controversies go viral because they are seen as simply ‘more interesting’ than the serious ‘eat your vegetables’-like issues that divide the two parties.”

Let’s hope now we can pass the carrots.

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Inga S.
Inga S6 years ago

John H. = It has been documented, and proven that the women in Obama's administration Do Not get paid less because they are women! As long as you keep repeating lies no one is going to take anything you say seriously. They are all paid on a GS pay scale. You may begin to believe your own lies if you keep repeating them, but no intelligent person will.

Frances C.
Frances C6 years ago

Of course Mrs Romney hangs out with other rich women who don't have the same struggles as the average working woman has. So yes, they do have a different perspective, one that has no clue of the struggles. What they say is meaningless to the vast majority of women who struggle every day.

For myself it was not work to stay home and care for my children. The children that I wanted, and loved being home with. Of course there is work involved, and tires you sometimes. But when I worked outside the home and then came home tired and had to cook and clean, and find time for the kids, that was Even more tiring. I suppose if I had household help with the cooking and cleaning it would have been easier. I am sure it would have been. I remember wishing at times that Mary Poppins would drop down holding her umbrella and get those kids in order and magically clean up the mess with a twitch of her nose. And why is Palin still sticking her nose in this, she just does not know what she is talking about.

Marie W.
Marie W6 years ago

Women can't win- work and you are belittled and paid less; don't work and you are belittled and told to work?!?!?

Robert Fitzgerald

It is interesting here that the Republican take on women is that they SHOULD prefer to be stay at home moms, in line with Christian teachings as set down by their men. A REAL woman wants to be submissive to her man, to remain in the home, and do all that without any real compensation. This is Biblical feminism? Only women who can't make it at home want to go out into the world of men to compete with them for much needed wages.

I easily understand a woman's desire to stay at home. I have had the privilege to know many of them. Women can easily belong in the home, if they so wish, and have the means to do that. That has never been the issue. This is NOT a liberal controversy. Mommy wars is created by conservatives in order to confuse the real war on women and try to make their restrictive legislative attempts more palatable to women.

Winn Adams
Winn Adams6 years ago


john hall
john hall6 years ago

if you are a parent thats your choice there are some like the Romney's and obama's who had help and money so what nothing is fair in life . most of us either had to work 2 jobs so the mom could stay at home or both parents had to work again that the choice you make or made no one forced any of you to become parents . pres obama talks about equal pay for woman if so why do the men in his administration get paid 18% more than the woman.

Ron B.
Ron B6 years ago

It's the same old Rethug crap of practicing instant revisionist history with 180 degree lies: "Republicans haven't been waging a war on women, Democrats have. Amurika hatin' Democrat commie pinkos are trying to distract citizens by falsely accusing the poor ol' patriotic GOP of hating women". Never mind that Republicans have been waging their war against women blatantly right out in the open. There are still plenty of bubbas out there who will believe anything they are spoon fed by the GOP. War is peace, freedom is slavery, ignorance is strength, etc., etc...

Keevin Shultz
Keevin Shultz6 years ago

Hey! Where are the "good side and bad side" of daddy wars?

Geynell Eskite
Geynell Eskite6 years ago

Chris Hayes made an interesting point. Republicans are suddenly referring to the job of the stay-at-home-parent (usually the Mom) as "work". They even like the idea of a tax credit for married couples who have one parent at home because Republicans are so "Pro-family". But their compassion and understanding seems to be limited to Rich, married parents. The entire "Working For Welfare" system (set up by The GOP) forces poor mothers who receive government assistance to put their children in daycare so they can "experience the dignity of work" (MItt Romney quote). This is an extension of the Reagan era "Lazy Welfare Mother" meme. Poor (often single) women who want to stay at home with their young children are shiftless and lazy. Rich women who stay home are good parents who need government support. But Mitt does have a point..after riding in Dresage Horse competitions, and giving the maid and gardener instructions, and deciding which one of her many luxury cars to drive that day, poor Mrs. Romney must be exhausted. Who better to advise her husband on the economic concerns of women, than a wife who has never had to earn money to feed, cloth and house herself or her kids without the help of a millionaire husband? Hilary Rosen wasn't attacking mothers. She was calling The Romneys out for their insulated, ivory tower perspective, and how removed and clueless they really are.

A N M.
anne M6 years ago

So the woman expressed herself badly but I'm sure we all know what she meant and fully agree with her. Ann Romney really never did a lick of work in her life. After all, is raising children really WORK? I raised a daughter and never considered this work but enjoyed every minute of it just like raising kittens into cats or puppies into dogs is not WORK but pure pleasure. The work I did at work, in my job, was WORK but why should raising children be considered work? Any parent who considers raising children work should never have any children in the first place. Raising children and having pets is NOT work but fun.