One Woman’s Battle Cry: Fat, Awesome, Suck It Haters


Meghan Tonjes is fat and healthy and happy with herself. That combination apparently bothered some people, who then decided to leave nasty comments on her video blog and at her other vlog called Project Lifesize, which she says she created to give women of size room to talk about things other than their weight.

Meghan decided that she had to answer them, and she did it with great style:

She is clearly a well-spoken, smart, talented woman who is on her own path and lives her life for herself. One of the smartest things Meghan says is something that all women should internalize: “Why does it hurt you if I don’t hate myself?”

All women know from a young age that there is a box they are supposed to fit into. Not too fat, not too skinny; not too tall, not too short; not too loud, not too forceful, not too happy but not too sad, not too strong. Women are meant to be whatever men think they’re supposed to be, and if you can’t find a man that loves you then it’s all for naught.

Women exist to be judged, and Meghan Tonjes is making space for herself in that reality: “I’m not offended by you calling me fat, I am fat, it’s okay, we’re still here,” she says, pointing out that she used to be in the morbidly obese category and has actually lost 60 lbs and is healthy at her current weight. “The word fat is not, in itself, hurtful, it’s all the things you attach to the word fat. Call me lazy, call me unmotivated, call me sloppy, call me unhygienic, call me all these other things that people associate with the word fat, that is not true. You never know where someone is in their journey with their weight. ”

Fat can be healthy and skinny can be unhealthy, but that’s not the reality that most people live in. This video should be spread far and wide. Maybe a few eyes could be opened by this strong, self-aware woman.


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Debbi Ryan
Deb Ryan5 years ago


Kathy Perez
Kathy Johnson5 years ago

Fat and healthy don't coincide. Period. I am happy she has respect for herself. I am glad she realizes she deserves love, we all do. But saying that being overweight is healthy is misleading. Be happy, but be healthy.

Stella Nobrega-Garcia

An absolutely wonderful video! Meghan looks great and feels great about herself. ;-)

Erika M.
Erika M5 years ago

Good video. I'm glad to see someone who is happy in their own skin and not letting others opinions beat them down. Why do so many people on this site insist on beating up on each other? Why do you give others the power to upset you?

Brigitte S.
Brigitte S.5 years ago

“Why does it hurt you if I don’t hate myself?”

now that's a very very interesting question to address.. thank you for the lesson Meghan!

Past Member
Past Member 5 years ago

Just an FYI. Fit does not have to equal healthy. I know somebody who was 'Body for Life' champion 2006 in the 'over 50' category. Two years later he drops dead of a 'heart episode'. (taken from his wife's explanation)

Anthea B.
anthea brincat5 years ago

u go girl! :D:D thats sum gd stuff she said there :R

Deborah Zarett
Deborah Zarett5 years ago

Nyack C.- you seem to have a deep-seated hatred of overweight people, which reminds me of my father, who was fat in his youth and then became an underweight fitness fanatic (despite his constant cigar smoking and drinking). His shame and self-hatred at being overweight as a youth led him to become a raging hater of fat people as an adult. he ended up dying in his mid-60's anyway, due to a heart valve defect.

Martha Eberle
Martha Eberle5 years ago

I do admire Meghan's attitude. She says something that all of us should think about: "You never know where someone is on their journey with their weight." and, I agree that some fat people are healthy and some skinny people are not. But I'll put in my two cents, as a nurse. Meghan is young and fat and healthy, but if she continues in liking food so much that she becomes obese again, she will most likely have health problems as she ages, and she may have to enter a hospital, AND THEN SHE AFFECTS ME! Because of the American population, I have taken care of many fat and obese people for decades, and their weight has affected the life I had during my work years and after retirement -- why should I have back problems because of someone else's obesity? I'm not for women trying to attain the "perfect" measurements, fit in one box, but I also admire the human body in the form it was meant to be, a body with shape and muscles, a chin, not chins -- just as I admire a jaguar or chimpanzee or bird, as it was meant to look.

Miranda Lyon
Miranda Lyon5 years ago

"Fat, healthy and happy with herself." Bravo to her! It takes some real gumption in this fat-fearing and fat-hating culture to be able to say that about herself.