Should US Parents Put More Pressure On Students?


64 percent of American parents think they don’t put enough pressure on students according to a new study from the Pew Global Project. Guess which country thinks parents put too much pressure on their children to succeed academically?

If your thought was China, whose economy is growing at about 9 percent, you are very right. The study finds that just over two-thirds (68 percent) of Chinese parents think that there’s too much pressure on children.

Only 11 percent of American parents think that there’s too much pressure on students. 21 percent think there’s just the right amount of pressure.

After China, the countries that feel that there’s too much pressure on students are India (44 percent), Kenya (42 percent) and Pakistan (41 percent). After the US, the countries that say students aren’t being pressure enough are Lithuania (55 percent), Spain (52 percent) and — in an almost-three way tie — the Palestian territories and Brazil (both 49 percent) and Israel (48 percent).

But the discrepancy between the US and China in this particular study is notable, especially in view of the gaps between American and Chinese students. Students from East Asia hold the top five slots in the 2009 Program for International Student Assessment (PISA)ís assessment of reading, math and science skills. US students are ranked 30th in math, 23rd in science, and 17th in reading. In contrast, Shanghai ranked number one, with students in Shanghai, Hong Kong, Singapore, South Korea, Finland and Canada. (More about the PISA scores in a post by Care2′s Judy Molland.)

The answer might seem to be that American parents need to put more pressure on their students and push academics — especially science and math — harder. Earlier this year, law school professor Amy Chua’s Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother book stirred up a parenting controversy. Chua described how she put immense pressure on her two daughters, Sophia and Lulu, to be successful (Carnegia Hall-playing, etc.) musicians and success stories by using seemingly draconian measures, like threatening to give away one child’s stuffed animals to the Salvation Army and insisting both children practice for hours everyday, including vacations to foreign countries. Chua’s deep fear was that her American-born, half-Asian children would be “softened” by more permissive American culture, which she directly contrasted to the very tough love of Asian parents.

Some Chinese parents actually said that the sort of harsh and demanding parenting Chua described in her book was characteristic of a previous generation, but that they were more interested in nurturing their children’s individuality and creativity. †It’s not clear if such “more permissive” parenting is becoming the standard in China; the proof in the pudding will be if Chinese students’ test scores fall.

GOOD magazine points out that suicide is a leading cause of death among China’s young people; it’s the fifth biggest killer for those aged 15 to 34, according to the China Association for Mental Health. Such figures can’t be automatically connected to the pressure put on Chinese students to succeed academically. Indeed, test scores and even college degrees are not predictors of success; Apple co-founder Steve Jobs, who just stepped down as the company’s CEO due to his health, only attended one semester of college.

Is it possible that American parents might be putting too much pressure on themselves to put the pressure on their kids?


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Rin S.
Rin S6 years ago

While it is good to put pressure on children, too much pressure can give the opposite effect.

K s Goh
KS Goh6 years ago

Thanks for the article.

tiffany t.
tiffany t6 years ago

I agree with Pradip C.

Pradip Chavda
Pradip Chavda6 years ago

Putting pressure is WRONG. The right sentence should be PARENTS NEED TO GET INVOLVED WITH THEIR CHILD. This is the difference between the west and the east. My mom was just 6th class but she was so involved with her children that my sister did her SRN and I finished my MSc.
Even when I was involved neck deep in Organic Chemistry she would ask me what are all these hexagons (Benzene ring) you are drawing?? This is the level of involvement parents should have with their children.

Edgar Zuim
Edgar Zuim6 years ago

I think it does not work put pressure on the students. What the parents should do is to teach responsibilities and for that a good dialog is enough.

Berny P.
berny p6 years ago

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berny p6 years ago

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Berny P.
berny p6 years ago

Many parents in America lower the pressure and standards for their children with their

education,.......their manners,...... their integrity...... and their respect for others..............

and property and unfortunately, rather than fight them, school admins., and teachers did the same.

Very Sad and we will reap the consequences.

Ida J.
Ida J6 years ago


Marie W.
Marie W6 years ago

Maybe prying them away from Facebook for an hour would be OK.