Trayvon Martin Is My Son


Written by Kristen Chase, Motherhood Uncensored

Maybe it’s because I’m more informed and connected than I ever was as a young 20-something student, attending a mostly-female, mostly-white college.

It probably wasn’t as mostly-straight as I thought at the time.

Or perhaps it’s because I have children now, and the thought of my girls growing up and somehow being paid less or treated worse than my son turns my hands into fists.

And raises my middle finger up from my palm.

But the older I get, the angrier I am about the inequalities in our world.

Even then they’ll be more privileged than many of their peers, never even having to endure the prejudice, discrimination, and hate that is in store for the little girls in their ballet class.

The boys on my son’s baseball team.

As much as I appreciate the candor from my friends of color, my gay and lesbian counterparts in real life and on the web, as well as my strong feminist collegaues, it’s not enough.

It will never be enough.

It’s the voices of the majority, the privileged many, who need to be talking about these issues. You (We) are the ones who need to be beating these problems into the ground, especially those of us (almost all of us these days) with a public forum.

It shouldn’t just be our black friends ranting about the Trayvon Martin case, and racial profiling, and all the 4000 myriad issues they encounter on a minute-by-minute basis.

Why is it just the LGBT community who should complain about why many of them cannot still be married or even adopt children in this country? Why they are not afforded the rights of other families?

And we need men screaming with women about inequality, biting back about the “mommy wars,” and demanding better for our girls.

Don’t pawn these issues off onto someone else, somehow thinking that they don’t apply to you. We can pass by or click away, perhaps applauding first, or reading, maybe liking, even commenting before we move on.

But if you’ve got kids, that’s not enough.

It will never be enough.

These issues should weigh just as heavily on your mind as they do for Kelly and Heather, for Deb, for Joanne and Liz. For the many other warriors I read on a daily basis.

White people can rant. I know straight people can bitch. And the last time I checked, boxers burn just as well as bras.

Lest we all forget, Trayvon is my son.

And he’s yours too.

Kristen Chase‘s blogs at Motherhood Uncensored , where this post first appeared.


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Carmen n.
Carmen n5 years ago

So who's this person posting on this thread who had only two dots for a name under an icon of a frog stating 'no picture'? We have anonymous commenters now, and abusive commenters, at that?

Roger Monk
Past Member 5 years ago

Thanks for posting this.

Joe R.
Joe R5 years ago

Must echo John B's comment ... "He is and should be everyone's son. Thanks for the heart felt posting Kristen.

Thank you John B. and Kristen!

Bette M.
Bette M5 years ago

Sandra W. Good comment.

It is time for the Rev. Wrights, Jackson, Farakkan & Sharpton to shut tfu & stop all the hateful preachings along with robbing all their own people by way of the money plate passed around every sunday.

Spike Lee.....You are more spitful & deceitful than all four of the so called men of God listed above.
Finally, blacks need to call themselves Americans instead of demanding & noting they are African American.......No other group in American does this! Your skin color alone shows that you are African unless you are Mariah Carey!!!!!!!

Wherever you go there once was a forest.
Plant & protect Danny's trees for life.
Trees are the lungs of the earth.

Sandra W.
Sandra W5 years ago

con't ...enough of this. Black or white or purple, if you don’t take advantage of the opportunities in front of you, don’t blame someone else. Until all people stop making things a race issue, we will not eliminate racism. A man shot another man and a man is dead. Was a crime committed or was it self-defense. That should be the only issue here.

Sandra W.
Sandra W5 years ago

It’s sad that any human being should have to die at such a young age. Was it a crime or self-defense, I don’t know. What should be a crime is to try Zimmerman in public and on TV without all of the pertinent facts. What is a crime is to put a bounty on his head. Has anyone been arrested for this?
Is this a racial issue? As many here have said, I don’t believe it would have been a racial issue if not for the Sharptons and the Jacksons stirring everyone up and making it one. Of course, there are some irrational white people too. There are nut cases of all colors. But for the most part, it is not white people that dislike blacks. It is that many blacks hate white people. They walk around with this chip on their shoulders and it is actually them who are the racists and promote racism. They choose to play the race card when many times it just does not exist and frankly, I am sick and tired of hearing it. Yes, it is true that many blacks came here as slaves. That is unfortunate, but that is the past. We don’t see Jews hating Germans because of the holocaust. We don’t see the Japanese hating the Americans because of the camps that they were put in during WWII. Some blacks just can’t seem to get off of the past and move on and stop blaming whites for every problem that they have. We have black doctors, lawyers, politicians and a black president. Just stop the crap that blacks don’t have an opportunity in this country. Enough is

Rose Becke5 years ago

I agree with Glenna J

John K.
John K.5 years ago

@Glenna J.--Look at my first post and then read the article I linked to in my second post before you keep blathering on. The BIG pictuire in all of this; is the fact that the race baiters in the MSM have made this all out to be about a white vigilante tracking down a sweet innocent black boy so he can kill him. Nothing could be further than the truth. Do you see the article that uber-liberal Harvard law prof Alan Dershowitz wrote about this case? If you had; you would one of the most well reasoned piece written about this case to date. He does not have too many good things to say about the vigilante justice being promoted by the press or the prosecutors office. In other words, shut up, until all the facts are presented.

Bette M.
Bette M5 years ago

That black man spoke the absolute truth!!!!!!
Bless him!!!!!
Had I said those words blacks would have had
me up for a lynching & swinging!!!!!

Maybe if blacks really put on their thinking caps
and ran Sharpton & Farakkan out of this country
they would be able to think for themselves
logically & keep the church money for themselves.

Wherever you are there once was a forest.
Plant & protect Danny's trees for life.
Trees are the lungs of the earth.

Nimue Pendragon

Trayvon Martin is my son.