15 Ways to Be a Better Person in 2019

Everyone focuses on losing weight, becoming fitter or obtaining something as their New Year’s resolutions. But, what about finding ways to incorporate greater integrity and kindness into our lives? While Iíve always tried to incorporate integrity into my way of being, I started thinking more about integrity thanks to recent events.

After working tirelessly to sell our house, my husband and I received an offer to purchase the property, so we packed up our things, organized our move and within nine days began our drive across the country to our new home 2700 miles (4300 kilometers) away. After driving day and night through blizzards, icy roads and temperatures that plummeted to -10 degrees Fahrenheit (-24 degrees Celsius), we finally made it.

We arrived to find the home and acreage full of junk (Iím not talking about a few things here; so far, weíve had four dump trucks of garbage hauled away) and filth more befitting of a haunted movie scene than a place to call home. Sometime between the inspection and possession the walls had been destroyed and the attempts at repairs were nothing short of atrocious. The company selling the property, Eco Tec Environmental Consultants Inc., seemed fine to take our money without fulfilling the moral and contractual obligations to leave the property clean and vacant. Considering that the fiasco will likely cost us around $5000, as well as plentiful amounts of time and energy, Iíve given the concept of integrity some serious consideration. After all, what makes a person think that itís okay to pawn their problems onto another person without taking responsibility for them?

I read somewhere that integrity is what you do when no one is looking and Iíd certainly agree with that. It seems too easy for many people to hide the problems theyíve caused than to take responsibility for them, or to lie and cheat their way out of a situation rather than choose honesty and integrity. And, letís face it: we see this approach to life all around us in the form of unethical corporations, lying and cheating politicians and in our day-to-day reality.

Perhaps we should make being a better person a goal in 2019. After†all, just because we’re increasingly seeing the nastiness of people in politics, corporations and other realms of society doesn’t mean we should accept this lack of integrity as normal. So what can we do to be a better person in 2019? While itís certainly not a comprehensive list, here are some things to get us moving in the right direction:

  1. Donít make plans you donít intend to keep. Donít agree to meet with someone with whom you have no intention of meeting. Or, donít mislead people about your true feelings. The ďletís do lunchĒ approach to feigning interest in another human being is downright wrong and misleading.
  2. Be honest with yourself. Itís not possible to be honest with others if we arenít willing to look at the truth and be honest with ourselves first.
  3. Stop judging others. Itís far too easy to judge others without ever trying to understand their situation or treat them with compassion. Try to be a kinder, gentler you.
  4. Treat your fellow humans with kindness and compassion. Iíve heard so many people say that they like animals more than they like people. I think itís wonderful to love animals, but remember that human beings deserve our respect, kindness and compassion, too.
  5. Stop saying ďitís just business.Ē The reality is that there are human beings behind every business. Itís not okay to mistreat other people under the guise of savvy business dealings.
  6. Stop blaming others for your problems. Yes, sometimes someone else is at fault in our dealings, but not all the time.
  7. Stop trying to pawn off your responsibilities and problems onto others. We live in the era where ďyouíre firedĒ business practices have become popular television and common practices. And, while sometimes people simply arenít adequately performing their duties, many people simply fire others or pawn off their own responsibilities onto others, which is unacceptable.
  8. Keep your appointments. If you booked an appointment with someone, make your best effort to keep it. If extenuating circumstances prevent you from making the appointment, give the other person the courtesy of a phone call to let them know you canít make it. Sorry, a text or an email seems insufficient.
  9. Ask yourself if you can truly deliver on promises prior to making them. I have known people who constantly say theyíll do things and never do them. This approach to interacting with others seems disrespectful of othersí time and energy. Itís far better to be up front with people and say ďnoĒ than to not fulfill your obligations.
  10. Avoid doing business with people who lack integrity. This item seems fairly self-explanatory.
  11. Avoid making excuses for people who lack integrity. Thereís no good excuse for sexism, misogyny, homophobia, racism, or any other form of insufficient integrity or downright hatred of others. Itís not simply ďlocker room talkĒ or some other excuse for prejudice. Itís inexcusable.
  12. Speak your truthÖwith every effort to be caring in your delivery. Iím not talking about spewing hatred here, Iím referring to not misleading people in relationships, lying to them to get the business deal, padding your resume or some other lie that people make excuses for.
  13. Stop acting superior to others. I canít believe how often I see people in line at cafes or grocery stores, mistreating the cashier or person serving them. No one is superior because they have more money, a different spiritual or religious belief, a different skin color or some other factor.
  14. Do something good for the planet. We can all improve in the way we treat Mother Nature. Buy in bulk rather than individual packages, stop flushing medications down the toilet into the water supply, recycle more, compost or find other ways to improve your treatment of the planet that sustains us all.
  15. Give of yourself to others. Weíre all here to contribute to people or the planet, not just to take from the planet, during our time here. Rather than asking yourself what you want this year, perhaps ask yourself what youíd like to give this year. Because, letís face it: we all have room for improvement. We can all strive to be better versions of ourselves in 2019.

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Dr. Michelle Schoffro Cook, PhD, DNM is the publisher of the free e-newsletter Worldís Healthiest News, co-founder of BestPlaceinCanada and Scentsational Wellness, and a best-selling and 20-time book author whose works include: The Cultured Cook: Delicious Fermented Foods with Probiotics to Knock Out Inflammation, Boost Gut Health, Lose Weight & Extend Your Life.† Follow her work.

 

87 comments

Marija M
Marija M1 hours ago

Really trying...

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Janis K
Janis K16 hours ago

Thanks for sharing.

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Leo C
Leo Cyesterday

Thank you for sharing!

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Rauni H
Rauni Hyesterday

Thanks!

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Thomas M
Thomas Myesterday

Thank you for sharing

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Danny C
Danny Cyesterday

Thank you for sharing and this should be a mantra for everybody. We should strive to improve ourselves continuously because we will become more well-rounded people and better global citizens.

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Naomi D
Naomi Dreyer1 days ago

incorporate greater integrity and kindness into our lives - I'll try

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Naomi D
Naomi Dreyer1 days ago

good article

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Christine Stewart

thanks

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Colin C
Colin C1 days ago

I really try to do all of these things.

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