8 Ways To Kickstart Your Single Life After a Divorce

Every 13 seconds, there is one divorce in America. By the time you finish reading this article, there will be several more divorces that happen. Divorce is sadly a part of life, not for everyone — but a lot of people. To add fuel to the fire, heartache and loneliness may be one of the worst feelings someone can go through after a divorce. Fortunately, you are not alone. Almost everyone will be somewhat affected by a divorce at some point in their lifetime. If you’re going through the sad stages following a divorce, take a minute to read these post-breakup tips to kickstart your new life.

Get a New Hobby

Hobbies are great opportunities to get you engaged with something you enjoy. They are perfect stress-relievers and can also help boost your social life! It’s so easy to find yourself stuck in a weekly routine that can quickly turn dull. Hobbies offer more than just a “rinse and repeat” lifestyle, they provide us with an outlet for distraction and creativity. If starting a garden isn’t your thing, join a kickball team or learn a new language! There are so many amazing opportunities out there just waiting for you to explore.

Take an Art Class

Art is important at all stages of your life. Benefits of practicing art include relieving stress, boosting creativity and it can give you a self of accomplishment. Taking an art class is not only an amazing opportunity to learn and create, but it will also be a good chance to meet new people who share similar interests as you.

There are endless mental health benefits to studying and practicing art. For example, art places emphasis on focus, perseverance and visual learning and it is a fantastic outlet for emotional expression. Following your divorce, it’s important you exercise your brain in a healthy and productive way.

Re-Decorate

Divorce should be all about new beginnings and learning to love yourself again. The best place to start is by making your home all about you. Interior designer, Paul Rees, explains “You don’t need to go out and purchase new furniture to make a home feel new and fresh following a divorce. Make this a transformational journey based around feng shui elements, art you love and photos of your family members.” This can be a cost-efficient alternative to going out and remodeling your place.

Hit the Road

A study conducted by the Marshfield Clinic in Wisconsin found that women who vacation at least twice a year are less likely to suffer from depression and chronic stress than women who don’t vacation twice a year. A vacation might not be the first thing that pops into your head following a divorce, but it should be. Travel somewhere you have never been to before and see the world in a new light. Traveling is scientifically proven to make you healthier, more creative and it lowers the risk of depression.

Volunteer

Following a divorce, you might find yourself with too much free time. Divorce expert, Stephen Vertucci, recommends volunteering as a wonderful opportunity to get to know your neighbors and community while benefiting others, “there are so many places you can volunteer at including animal shelters, homeless shelters, beach cleanups, your local church, art museums and so much more!”

Volunteering can connect you to others, help promote a healthy sense of accomplishment and might even be beneficial to advancing your career. Find a volunteer opportunity that is based around something you enjoy. This will be a great chance to meet others in your neighborhood who also share similar interests.

Get a Pet

You’d be surprised to know just how beneficial our furry friends can be to our mental health — especially after a divorce. Having an animal can provide you with companionship and can offer a sense of purpose and security following a breakup. They also make wonderful best friends.

According to the CDC, health benefits of having pets include decreased blood pressure, decreased feelings of loneliness, increased possibilities for socialization and more opportunities for exercise and outdoor activities!

Heat Things Up

Research finds that people who eat regularly home cooked meals tend to be happier and healthier. Additionally, home-cooked meals are more cost efficient, have considerably less sugar and they’re more sustainable. Cooking has many therapeutic qualities; getting your hands a little dirty and trying new recipes is an opportunity to open your mind to new flavors and expand your palette.

Unplug

Take a break from social media as you transition into single life. There are many temptations lurking on social media, including the urge to check out your ex’s activity or look at old photos that might remind you of your past together. Since your relationship is over, communication can only prolong the frustration and hurt. Disconnect from your past by looking for new ways to keep your mind busy and keep a space between the old you and the future you.

There is no manual on how to adjust to being single after a divorce. However, these tips can offer suggestions on how to kickstart a fresh slate on your future. The loneliness after a divorce can be crushing, but the free time you now have can give you an opportunity to explore new outlets about yourself and find new things about you that you didn’t know were possible. You’re not the first person to feel lonely while single, and you certainly won’t be the last! Enjoy every moment and learn new things about yourself you never thought possible.

 

46 comments

Greta L
Greta Lyesterday

thank you

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Latoya Brookins

I need to get married first.

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tanzy t
tanzy t2 days ago

oh

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Martin H
Martin H3 days ago

Excellent advice.

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Richard B
Richard B4 days ago

thanks

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Dr. Jan H
Dr. Jan Hill5 days ago

Urban dog parks are filled with single women ...

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Janis K
Janis K9 days ago

Thanks for sharing.

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Shirley Plowman
Shirley Plowman12 days ago

EXCELLENT ARTICLE, THANKS.

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Paulo R
Paulo R14 days ago

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danii p
danii p15 days ago

thanks for sharing

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