Believe Yourself to Be What You Want

If you think sad, bad, or negative thoughts, you are going to feel bad. If youíre unhappy, you may not realize the relationship between your thought processes and your mood. Need convincing? Try this little exercise:

Think of a time in your life when you enjoyed yourself. It might have been a holiday or a trip to the park. As you think about that time you may feel a bit happier. Now think of a time when you were sad, like at a funeral, and you will probably feel quite down.

Your thoughts can be your best friends or your worst enemies. They can lift you up, and they can pull you down. If you want to feel happier and calmer, you need to become aware of the way thoughts affect you and to start questioning negative thoughts. You may argue that this isnít realistic. Youíd like to be more positive, but life is tough and chances are things wonít work out the way you want. Youíre right. It is unrealistic to expect positive outcomes to everything; when you do, you set yourself up for disappointment. But the next time you are negative about something or tell yourself that you are useless or you canít cope, ask yourself instead, ďAm I being realistic? Are my thoughts misleading me? Am I taking into account other possibilities?Ē

Donít believe everything you think! Question it. You donít always believe what other people tell you or what you read in the papers, so why accept everything your thoughts tell you? You donít need to replace negative thoughts with positive ones, but you do need to start replacing them with more realistic ones.

What is your biggest challenge in extricating old negative thoughts?

Adapted from Tea Bliss, by Theresa Cheung (Conari Press, 2007). Copyright (c) 2007 by Theresa Cheung. Reprinted by permission of Conari Press.
Adapted from Tea Bliss, by Theresa Cheung (Conari Press, 2007).


Jelka V.
Jelka V4 years ago

Many wonderfully truthful and positive comments here...
I will add one thing, though:
If you have daily contact, either "live" or electronically, with a person who is very "down to earth" (in the worst possible sense), a passive who doesn't believe in the "miraculous"... reconsider the need for that person to be a part of your life.
With SOME people, encouragement to think positively really is a waste of your precious time and energy. Worse, constant negative thought can be contagious.

Heidi H.
Past Member 4 years ago

Reality is not only over-rated, it's also subjective. Miracles happen everyday.

Bonnie M.
Bonnie M4 years ago

Thank you.We could be our worst enemies, but it does not have to be that way. When faced with a daunting dilemma, I consider it as just another challenge, I have already won many battles and I am a better person for it. More often than not, thoughts have a tendency to become self-fulfilling prophecy. Thoughts are energy- negative thoughts do the world no good, Indeed, now and then, we need to do a reality check on our thoughts.

Monica May
Monica May4 years ago

Not always easy to do, but absolutly right.

Winn Adams
Winn A4 years ago


Aditya n.
Aditya n5 years ago


Gina Caracci
Gina Caracci5 years ago

What you think turns into words which turns into action..
what you think can and does turn into reality.
Its amazing what can open up to you when you grasp that concept.
The energy you put out DOES COME BACK TO YOU.

its mush easier said than done though and its hard to break years of bad habits

just have to stop living on auto pilot and THINK...

Nancy P.
Nancy P5 years ago

Imagine if everyone tried live that positive, hopeful life....what power for change we would have in the world.

Donna Hamilton
Donna Hamilton5 years ago


Patricia H.
Patricia H.5 years ago

thanks for sharing