Countering Hate with Power in Tennessee

It sucks to know that once AGAIN people in Tennessee are voting on whether it’s okay to be ME or not.

By sucks, I mean heart-breaking. It hurts me to have people rallying, strategizing, and investing themselves in legislation that perpetuates hate against me and people like me.

By sucks, I mean scary. I’m afraid for myself and my wife… and our children. When one group of human beings go to such great lengths to show that another group of human beings is so bad we mustn’t speak of the REALITY ofWHO THEY ARE (not what they do or how they act… WHO THEY ARE), it makes us a target. This legislation is simply gasoline on the fire that burns in people that believe I am less than them because I’m a lesbian. This, and all legislation like it, is permission to hate.

By sucks, I mean enraging. My creator put me here to empower people and when any level of government in America moves to take power away, it pisses me off.

By sucks, I mean sad. I’ve spent several years of my life writing a book to teach young people (even straight ones) that their lives are sacred, that their lives have purpose, that even if your peers bully you, your life is important. All the while, those who’ve been elected to lead us… are telling those young people, whose sexual- and relational-orientation are unlike the others, something exactly the opposite. Make no mistake, these CHILDREN WILL CONTINUE TO KILL THEMSELVES as long as we tell them who they are is broken.

I could go on and on about how this sucks. And, even though I’ve written and called and voted and protested and on and on, I still woke up this morning feeling powerless… and frankly, stunned that in America in 2011 human beings are doing what these human beings are doing today. We, human beings, are so much better than this. We are capable of so much more.

Feeling powerless is not something I’m willing to do anymore. We have tocounter this hate with POWER and I say screw theDon’t Say Gay Bill and yourAmendment 1 and yourBusinesses Can’t Afford Equality legislation, we must find a way to be at peace with who we are, with or without this legislation.

The way I see it, at least in this moment, EQUALITY can be achieve in two ways:
1. Those trying to oppress LGBT Americans can stop trying.
2. Those who are being targeted can be empowered.

Clearly, option 1 is a ball not in my court, but option 2 is my life’s work.

One on one coaching. Workshops. Speeches. Retreats. Classes. I am here and will do WHATEVER NEEDS TO BE done toempower LGBT citizens in Tennessee (or beyond). At a time when our federal, state, and local governments continue to perpetuate hate against us…we have to find freedom within ourselves, andthat I can do. We all can.


Winn Adams
Winn A5 years ago

Hate is NOT a family value.

Jennifer C.
Past Member 5 years ago


K s Goh
KS Goh6 years ago

Thanks for the article.

Sharon Balloch
Sharon Balloch6 years ago

Jesus loves his gay children .. Jesus loves all his children. If you do not believe me look at the fruits of saying Jesus does not love his gay children.. Gay children kill themselves six times more than other children.. that is an ugly evil result of preaching hatred.

Emily Drew
Emily Drew6 years ago

Imagine how much better the world could be without so much hate in it. Now that is a world i want to live in.

Lyllyan Blare
Lyllyan Blare6 years ago

It is sad (and does "suck") that our society has not reached acceptance of all the differences in the world. As a Christian, I believe it is not for me to judge another person; I leave the judging up to God. Even when I don't agree with another person's opinions, beliefs, actions, etc. doesn't mean I'm incapable of accepting the differences between us. Nor do my differing opinions give me the right to judge. Keep up the good work! There are many LGBT's out there who can't speak up; I'm glad you are providing a voice, not only for yourself but for others, too. God bless!

Carole P.
Carole P6 years ago

It sucks but it IS changing. It feels like it's taking such a long time and that it's one step forward and two steps back. But it is changing. Keep doing what you're doing. So many people want what you want. It's better now than it was ten years ago and it will be better ten years from now than it is today. Because people like you keep pushing for equality and we won't stop until there is equality for all.

Grace Adams
Grace Adams6 years ago

I have sympathy for the homosexuals. I was accused by a psychiatrist who should have known better of being a lesbian because I did not have a boy friend. I didn't have a girl friend either. I believe having neither a boy friend nor a girl friend makes you ASEXUAL rather than homosexual.

Deborah Latter
Deborah Latter6 years ago

Come to Canada where the mosaic (and not the "melting pot") is embraced. Also where Elton and his husband were married.

Joe Plum
Joe Plum6 years ago

I am not gay but agree with the article of "hate" --Hate against gays is the same as hate against abortion or any other action that is a judgment not consistent with logic.

I say to the religious right that if you REALLY want smaller governemnt - keep government OUT OF A WOMAN'S uterus and out of anyone's sexual orientation and OUT of any decision made about a PERSON so long as it does NOT affect YOU.

For example, if I hated people who went to church -- I'd be in the same class of haters as the religious evangelical right (i.e. TParty-GOP) even though their going to chuch has no affect on me.

Maybe you can understand that being GAY or a JEW etc does NOT affect YOU. As for abortion pro-lifers: Here's my message: If you are against abortions then also make sure those who impregnate a woman (who decides an abortion is correct) is snipped to prevent further pregnancies.

As for a rape victim who wants an abortion -- not only should abortion be valid but the rapist should be castrated or forced to have a vascectomy.

Finally, if more women were in government -- we would not have to fight for woman's rights STILL in 2011.

And this is my opinion