Creating a Balance in Your Life (An Exercise)

Mothers tend to give so much of themselves, and in the process, can lose their sense of identity. The following are suggestions to help create balance and harmony in your life.

  • Appreciate your abilities as a mother.
  • Forgive yourself; even mothers make mistakes. Do the best you can with the options on your plate.
  • Be aware that you are a role model; you are teaching your children with your actions, and behaviors every day, and they don’t miss a trick.
  • Be content as a person. Handle your responsibilities with dignity.
  • Accept your own worth, and raise your children to respect and appreciate women AND men as equals.
  • Stay engaged with other family members, and friends ó especially your girlfriends.
  • Stay interested in the world around you. Try something new.
  • Take a vacation with your spouse, or with friends, or both.
  • Join a group or club that allows you to participate in a sport or activity that takes place outside of your house; preferably in the great outdoors. Nature is the best healer.
  • Communicate, share, and laugh about your experiences with others. Even crying with other women can smooth out the ragged edges of your nerves when you hit particularly rough patches of motherhood.
  • Keep your primary relationship (your spouse, or partner) on track. As overwhelming, all-consuming and exhausting as parenting can be, you need to keep your couple connection strong.
  • Plan dates to have one-on-one adult time.
  • Don’t lose your sense of humor. provides content and community for who you aspire to be–personally, socially and globally.

By Cheryl Saban,


Deborah C.
Deborah Cole7 years ago

Nancy W- I identify with your comment. We put so much into raising these little human beings that sometimes we lose sight of who we are.
My last daughter is about to leave Junior School. I have always been very active in my childrens school life, helping out and so on, but this changes when they go to senior school (aged 11).
I am currently wondering what to do from here on in.

Deborah C.
Deborah Cole7 years ago

Fab advice-now I just have to apply it!

Hanan W.
Hana W7 years ago

Good advise!

David Jones
David Jones7 years ago

thank you

Anil Sanyal
Anil Sanyal8 years ago

useful information, thankyou for sharing it with others.

Adam R.
Past Member 8 years ago

A lovely and useful article. A must read for every woman. Thanks for sharing this article.
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Karen Marion
Karen Marion8 years ago

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Vural K.
Past Member 8 years ago

thank you...

Nancy Y.
Nancy Y.8 years ago

After years raising children, you forget who you are, especially when you face the empty nest, what do you do now?

Sheila Scheibl
Sheila Scheibl8 years ago

Oh how I relate to this... Most people don't understand what it's like being a mother, far enough away from all your friends (I live in the middle of the country side) and NOTHING nearby for your child to do. With a money shortage, you really have to put yourself out on a limb and delve back to childhood for that imagination that has been in hiding for the last 15 years. THEN having to find a way to get to the things that you need to do as a mother to keep your sanity? What a ride!