How Do Gay Marriages Affect Straight Marriages?

“Same-sex couples form deep emotional attachments and commitments. Heterosexual and same-sex couples alike face similar issues concerning intimacy, love, equity, loyalty and stability, and they go through similar processes to address those issues.” This statement, in response to the U.S. Supreme Court’s ruling that the federal Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) is unconstitutional, comes from the American Psychological Association (APA).

APA President Donald N. Bersoff, PhD, JD, called the decision “a triumph for social science and recognition of the basic dignity of all American citizens.”

Much of the argument against same-sex marriage, especially where children are concerned, is based on pure emotion. However, briefs filed by APA determined, “There is no scientific basis for concluding that gay and lesbian parents are any less fit or capable than heterosexual parents, or that their children are any less psychologically healthy and well-adjusted.”

For those who believe same-sex marriage is a threat to heterosexual marriage, a study published in Plos One earlier this year found that, “Such claims do not appear credible in the face of the existing evidence, and we conclude that rates of opposite sex marriages are not affected by legalization of same sex civil unions or same sex marriages.”

I, for one, fail to see how my heterosexual marriage could be threatened by the recognition of same-sex marriage. I was always offended by DOMA and the insinuation that my marriage needs defending from same-sex couples. Equal rights under the law — that’s what needs defending.

The latest ruling means same-sex married couples will now have access to a host of benefits that were previously denied them. As Care2 writer Steve Williams points out, what the “ruling does not change is DOMA Section 2′s effects, language that says states do not have to recognize same-sex marriages carried out in other states.” We’re not quite there yet.

“Those who argued against marriage equality will likely remain steadfast against the inevitability of what is coming, and continue to provide rationalization as to why it just shouldnít be so,” says Care2′s Eric Steinman. He’s right. They will. But the tide is turning.

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Jan H.
Jan H4 years ago

To answer the question..... they don't. There is no way that any gay marriage would in any way affect my straight one. Live and let live.

Karen H.
Karen H4 years ago

I’m curious, Karoly M, what’s a “middle man” or “middle woman”?
Love your comment, Timothy W. And remember “the disciple whom Jesus loved”. Hmmm.
Gloria H, love your sense of humor.
Gee, Ron L, I can’t have kids, so where does that leave me? Besides, I know lots of male/female couples who have kids and aren’t married. Marriage is a LEGAL thing. Can’t get married without having that license, can you?
The only way gay marriage will affect “traditional” marriage is when heterosexuals who are married 2 or 3 (or more) times see that many same-sex couples stay together longer. BTW, according to the Bible, for those who are using that as their guide, anyone who divorces and remarries IS COMMITTING ADULTERY. Wow, we’ve sure got a lot of adulterers out there. I don’t hear you crying about that, and it’s pretty clear in the Ten Commandments.

Dana C.
D C4 years ago


Alan Lambert
Alan L4 years ago

Simplest answer, marriage equality does not in any way, shape or form change or devalue "traditional" marriage.

PrimaAWAY B.
PrimaAWAY B4 years ago


Pat P.
Pat P4 years ago

Why should anyone even care whether you are married, single or divorced? Many people spend too much time worrying about other peoples choices and not enough about their own.

Anne Woods
Anne W4 years ago


Natasha Salgado
Past Member 4 years ago


Kayla Humphreys
Kayla H4 years ago

Oh no! Gay people can finally marry so all straight people on this planet are suddenly going to turn homosexual themselves and make it impossible for me to find a nice man to settle down with.

Seriously, haters need to get a life. Whether or not you even believe with the prospect of gay marriage, it is increasingly being allowed so they should just shut their traps and let those people marry. I can promise, as a straight teenager with lots of gay friends, it will not affect your outlook on life to let them live theirs.

Aud Nordby
Aud n4 years ago