Find Your Soulmate: 21 Guidelines

Contrary to popular belief, soulmate couples do not usually recognize each other at first glance. The person who attracts our ego is seldom the one our soul deeply desires to be with, and our soulmate is often the person who looks all wrong to our ego.

What does a soulmate relationship mean, and how do you find yours? Here are 21 guidelines for understanding how to listen to your soulís seeking of the one who is just right for you:

Guidelines for Actualizing a Soulmate Relationship

1. Stop focusing on your partnerís faults, and start asking that your own be revealed to you.
2. Learn to listen for the voice of your guide in meditation.
3. Be willing to face the truth, even if it seems terribly embarrassing or disappointing.
4. Gracefully release relationships that are no longer fulfilling.
5. Face your mistakes with compassion and take the necessary steps to correct them.
6. Consider the possibility that there is a source of wisdom within you that knows better than you do which partner will be most likely to make you happy.
7. Donít be discouraged just because your attempts to find true love have not worked in the past. A new approach may produce results beyond your wildest expectations!
8. Stop listening to your ego, and start listening to your soul and your guide.
9. Donít be afraid to ask for what you really want.
10. Donít hold out for perfect certainty before being willing to move forward with your relationship.
11. Focus on one relationship at a time, giving your partner every opportunity to respond as you hope she or he will.
12. Look elsewhere if your present partner doesnít want to share the kind of relationship you have in mind.
13. Your soulmate wonít necessarily share your background, or look the way you expect.
14. Your guide may bring you together with your soulmate repeatedly, but itís up to you to decide whether to accept the introduction and pursue the acquaintance.
15. If your guide encourages hope, wait patiently to let the true possibilities of a relationship emerge in their own good time.
16. The people who make you swoon may be precisely the ones you would be best to avoid.
17. Itís wise to proceed cautiously when you are blinded by infatuation.
18. True love is never blind.
19. Donít be so sure you can tell someoneís soulmate potential at a glance.
20. Take periodic vacations from your egoís thoughts, in order to contact your soulís feelings.
21. Relax! Youíll meet your soulmate when the time is right for both of you.
22. Remember that your soul wonít be satisfied with anything less than true love. Accept no substitutes!

Adapted from Soulmates, by Carolyn Godschild Miller (New World Library, 2000). Copyright (c) 2000 by Carolyn Godschild Miller. Reprinted by permission of New World Library.
Adapted from Soulmates, by Carolyn Godschild Miller (New World Library, 2000).


Loo Samantha
Loo sam5 years ago


Samantha Shira
Samantha Shira5 years ago

thanks for sharing.

Siobhan James
Siobhan James6 years ago

I enjoyed this, too many people succumb to peer pressure from others and their own thoughts resulting in undesirable relationships.

Michele Wilkinson

Thank you

Gordana Roljic
Gordana Roljic6 years ago

great article

Ruth R.
Ruth R7 years ago

Saved, shared, Thanks.

Eli Is Here
.7 years ago

Thanks Annie!!

Marianne Good
Past Member 7 years ago

Insighful guidelines. I wish everyone will find their perfect mate to grown old with. I am still hoping to meet him before my life is over!

Savannah Alli
Fareena Narine7 years ago

Wonderful advise thanks

Savannah Alli
Fareena Narine7 years ago

Wonderful advise.