I Am Enough

At the level of inner need, the spiritual concept of “I am enough” is truly critical. As long as you dwell on more superficial levels of need, as long as you lean on a stronger person to carry you through, the anxiety of separation is disguised – and that may be what you need for the moment. It takes real spiritual commitment to expose the wounds of separation hidden in the unconscious.

If you look deep enough these wounds show up as black holes in your sense of self. Like black holes in space, which suck energy out of the universe, the psyche’s black holes suck out your confidence, your sense of worth, your certainty that you can survive.

When you approach just a small one of these holes, you can experience a drastic range of sensations, none of them pleasant. Mild uneasiness and disembodiedness give way to nervousness, dizziness, nausea, vertigo, anxiety, panic, terror, and dread, depending upon how close you come to the black hole.

Terrible as these feelings are, they have no spiritual reality; they are conditioned reactions. Stored-up fear magnifies the experience of a black hole because of the effort we all exert to avoid existential anxiety, fears about just being here on earth.

Keeping away from a black hole seems like a good tactic, but it isn’t the same as healing. If left unhealed a black hole only gets larger until it becomes a gaping wound. The largest wound you can have is the wound of separation, the trauma of losing love, spirit, God. This is the primal black hole; it breaks you off from the source of love, peace, and joy.

Someone who hasn’t healed this primal absence will have no energy to cope with life in any but the most basic ways – the black hole will seem to undermine all optimism and meaning; there will be a floating sense of dread that may not be felt directly but that drains the vitality of existence. This is the condition known as despair.

Black holes are healed by filling them with spirit. Despite their terror, black holes are just lack of love.

Adapted from The Path to Love, by Deepak Chopra (Three Rivers Press, 1997).


Patricia H.
Patricia H.4 years ago

great article

Yulan Lawson
Yulan Lawson5 years ago

Thanks for the explanation, it makes a lot of sense.

Dot A.
Dot A5 years ago

Deepak's description and explanation are quite succinct and so helpful! The wonderful words of his wisdom offer us all a better idea of how love and spirit work in our lives. Remembering - I Am Enough - is a way for us to reconnect with love and spirit, and not to let fear reign over us, for fear can drown our spirits and leave us - as Deepak illustration depicts - falling deeper and deeper into darkness. Bob C's comments from the past also embrace our humanness to sometimes fall into this trap, but, with 'attention' and belief that we are enough, our spirits gain strength to move ahead and fulfill our lives for the better each day,.... onward. As always, Thank You, Deepak!

Loo Samantha
Loo sam5 years ago

thank you

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Emma S.
Emma S6 years ago

It's strange that in certain areas of our lives we can say with honesty, 'I am enough' - whereas with others...

Maura R.
Maura Ryan6 years ago

I have been experiencing all the despair you mention. How can I fill the black holes with love? I meditate on sending loving kindness to myself and others. Also breathing into my heart my own suffering and breathing out love, then doing it for others. And other techniques yet I'm still in despair and so much pain?

William Ford
William Ford6 years ago

when I am enough, God will move for me.

Ritva J.
Ritva J7 years ago

Thanks for a wonderful article!

Janice L.
Janice Lawrence7 years ago

Thank you so much for posting1